For what reasons would a girl say to a new guy she is dating.
You are too good for me. I have issues.
At first I would believe it was because she didn't like me. But she seems to really like me.
Is she just trying to see if I really like her and accepting her for who she is?
Update: She was drunk at the time she said these things. I asked her about it and she said she didn't know why she said those things. I asked her how she felt about our relationship and she said "fine" without any enthusiasm.
6 months ago
I used to have this kinda self esteem issues,i used to think he's so perfect, how could I possibly be right for him. That id do him a favour if id just go and disappear. Its really sad that I thought of my self that way. Maybe yeah, she's just trying to see if you'll accept her the way she is, the baggage and all. Well, that's what I was trying to do with my guy. At first we drove each other insane (coz he also had some things he kept away from me), but in the end we figured we love each other the way we are,baggage and all.
When she was drunk she was probably a little more upset than usual and more likely to tell you how she felt. And also, since she was drunk, she probably wasn't trying to see if you liked her and accepted her. Like a few others have said, she's probably got self esteem issues. I know your trying to reassure her, but try and do it without words. Like, be closer to her but not clingy, this seems a little stupid but she might also want space [[oh god, that's really confusing =S I'm sorry! ]] but yeah. Girls are complicated. We're sorry. so to sum up, try and be there for her, but don't smother her. I REALLY hope this helped.
She is probably dating someone else. I don't think she would be able to commit to you and doesn't want to hurt your feelings because you must be a really nice guy. I just don't think she's interested in you that way.
She is self conscious it could be for numerous issues like who you hang out with it could be anything but you just have to assure her that she is good enough for you.
I say these type of things to my guy, and its true, its because I have self-esteem issues, I truly don't think anyone will love me for me (and take with me all my problems) so it's like I'm forewarning him before he realizes he doesn't actually like me, and discovers who I really am. SEE! Self-esteem issues. I know but I can't help it.
Assuming she's had boyfriends in the past, she might feel that your such a great guy compared to boyfriends that she's had in the past that she can't deal with being with you, or that if you guy do end up dating it's going to take her awhile to get used to being with a good guy as apposed to dating assholes. I don't know that's just the experience I've had cause I've felt that way about a guy before, I dated a lot of assholes that kind of gave me issues in the head and then I met a nice guy and I was too afraid to be with him so I kind of pushed him away. My advice if you really like her stay with her, don't let her push you away.
She must have some self-esteem issues. Make her feel like she DOES deserve you. Let her know that she's worth more than she thinks. I'm sure she likes you if you think she seems to. She might just not think much of herself and that's why she's saying those things.
And if she says she has issues, tell her that's okay and you're there for her. No one's perfect. Helping each other through problems is part of being in a relationship. You care about each other no matter what.
I did try to be there for her. Please read the comments under bubblo0's answer. - 6 months ago
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If she has drinking problems you need to try to get her out of that but if things don't seem to get better you'll have to let go. I once loved a guy friend, but he was an alcoholic and I had to give up on him because he was throwing his life away carelessly. - 6 months ago
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Sometimes it's impossible to help someone like this and they only drag you down with them. Don't let her do that. If she's not willing to give it a shot and start making some changes, it means she doesn't care about anything. You'll have to let her go. - 6 months ago
If she says your too good for her, it could just be that she feels that she doesn't deserve you or that you're out of her league for any reason. it could be because she thinks you like her more than she likes you and feels guilty about it. or it could be because she likes you and wants to be with you but she needs her space at the moment. it all depends on the girl.
This is what is driving me nuts. Lol I have been dating her for close to 5 months now and she is still at the age where she likes to go out and party. She was drunk 1 night and was crying. She told me how her last boyfriend didn't give a shit about - 6 months ago
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Certain things in her life. She said her mother told her, "don't worry some day someone will appreciate those little things" She cried to me and told me it meant so much to her that I appreciated them. - 6 months ago
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She told me she had Issues and that I was to good for her. I told her I understood her and that everyone has issues. I tried to be there for her. She was really drunk. The next day she told me she didn't remember the conversation which upset me. - 6 months ago
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Sorry you'll have to read these from the bottom comment up. - 6 months ago
GIRLS WANT BAD BOYS. If you're being nice to her. She just wrapped it up for you. She's a girl wit bad self esteem man. Like a car with a bad car fax report GO SOMEWHERE ELSE. You can go up the mountain and try to change how she views herself and all that whatever. Better to just chalk her up and pack it in. She probably had guys in the past who beat on her emotionally. It sucks, but some guys do it. I'm a nice guy myself but I know the game. GIRLS DO NOT WANT NICE GUYS as much as they say they do, THEY DON'T. And this girl said to you I HAVE ISSUE. Man hellooo she just waved the freaking signal for you to run away screaming. There's too many cute girls, and ones with good self esteem and confidence for you to ride the dead horse here. Sorry if that's mean, but its true.
Not all girls are like that, but I do agree that some are like that. Why? I have no idea. They're simply stupid when it comes to logical thinking. This girl has drinking problems and it proves that she doesn't have a clue about dealing with life. - 6 months ago
Little girls with no self esteem like jerks. Real women like nice guys. A lot of guys seem to get "nice guy" confused with "doormat who lets women walk all over them". We don't respect that. You have to treat her with respect but at the same time be a man. - 6 months ago
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