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Shy girl?

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Anonymous User (Age:Under 18)     When: 8 months ago
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Hi, I've got this "problem" on my hands. See, I got this girl I'm interested in, and I feel as though she likes me as well (I catch her looking at me, she smiles when I talk to her). It's just that, when I'm face to face and talking to her, she just seems to give these short answers and it's kind of a pain to try and get the conversation going. For example, the other day, I walked up to her while she was reading her book, said Hi, asked her a question, and it seemed every time I stopped talking for like 1 second, she dived back into her book. But she keeps smiling when I talk to her, and this confuses me. Like, some sort of contradicting behavior. I don't get it. She just shy, how do I get her to open up some more?

Update: Right then. Just curious, I'm a horrible body language reader, but I sometimes notice that when I'm near, she kind of looks down. Sometimes she'll be bringing her eyes up (this is kind of obvious because she's close to me), this mean anything?    8 months ago

Update: Kinda weird, now when I talk to her she doesn't seem to have a problem, but when someone shows up she starts talking to them, almost like she's trying to escape the conversation (sometimes I'm in or out of the convo. ). Ehhh.    6 months ago

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xLilxMissxHardxCore (Age:Under 18)      When: 2 months ago
um heh yah I know how she feels, she probably doesn't know you like her and she tries to make you give out hints like go where she is or talk about something familiar. But also about looking away its hard to talk to a guy especially a good looking one. Its almost like the king and a pesent LOL I kno bad but see it from her side. Your someone she admires and you decide to talk to her? Its a dream but its almost unreal and she thinks she's just imagining it all. It this makes any sense I hope it helps you. Because shy girls, blush and Get embarrassed so to avoid making a fool of herself. She avoids it all.
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banker (Age:30 to 35)      When: 7 months ago
I react the same way when a guy I like approached me at work. I really get self-conscious when I talk to him and it is hard for me to look him in the eyes when we talk. The only difference is I write not read. It's more comfortable for me to talk to him on the phone instead and I get to concentrate on what he is saying and focus on him more.
You know what nobodygirl is so right, she wants you to get her number! So go get it!
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nobodygirl (Age:Under 18)      When: 7 months ago
Your basic answer is that shy girls are very insecure about themselves socially.

Sure, she may know she's pretty, smart, and understanding, but when it comes to guys (and even girls she wants to be her friends) she can be paralyzed with insecurity. She doesn't think she knows how to make herself attractive, communication-wise.

So my breakdown of the book incident would be something like this: she likes you--smiles mean a LOT from a shy girl--and she's really glad to be talking to you. But there's a three-part insecurity in her mind that makes her want to dive back into her book. She feels like it's too-good-to-be-true; she feels like pretty soon you'll show how uninterested you are by walking away, and she wants to look uninterested too when that happens. Also, she might not want to reveal how much she likes you. (Shy girls, paradoxically enough, tend to think they're giving away too much just when you want most to know what they're thinking. ) Thirdly, talking to a guy she likes might leave her overwhelmed. She has absolutely no idea what she should say, so she turns back to her book.

But although this helps you to understand her, it doesn't really give you an idea of what to do. I mean, you can hardly give her impromptu psychotherapy to deal with her self-esteem issues. Therefore, I'm going to tell you the thing that all girls secretly want (especially shy girls who enjoy reading--like me and your crush): they want you to ask them for their phone number.

This is the same thing for shy girls as the "make-girls-ask-me-out" thing for shy guys. And it's easier for the person who likes the shy person; you don't have to ask for the phone number until you think the girl likes you. This girl probably won't turn you down, as some shy girls might, because she's not afraid of showing interest through her smiles. And she won't be as insecure on the phone as she was for the book incident; it's obvious that you are interested in talking to her, which will make her feel better about herself and you.

So, seriously, ask her for her number! It would probably make her really happy. . . And you'd get a chance to actually talk to her, with no books in the way.

Tell us how it works out!
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stargazer1 That is exactly how I feel. I look away because I think it it too good to be true and I don't want to look as though I am interested. If he walks away because he is not interested, I want to make sure that he knows it doesn't bother me if he leaves (even if it really matters to me). - 22 days ago

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AlwaysHere (Age:Under 18)      When: 8 months ago
Most people say I am the exact same way. You just need to catch her in her element. This book is obviously a good one and she can't get her nose out of it or even if she's reading another book she likes to read...a lot. So try and catch her at lunch or when she is not reading and maybe she will come out of her shell and talk to you.
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goodegurl107 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 8 months ago
Hi.
well, in my opinion, I don't think its something you can do. You may just have to give her time if you think she's interested. If she is, she'll come around and talk to you, but if she doesn't (as I girl I know that), she'll regret it or maybe she's not into you.
but from what it sounds like, just continue being nice and getting her attention. Hopefully, she'll open up and talk to you.
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Skateraj01 (Age:18 to 24)      When: A month ago
I think she really likes you and that she gets nervous when she's around you. That's why she looks at the ground and gives you short and simple answers. I have the same problem with this one girl I really like and I am still trying to do my best in holding a conversation with her.
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