Guys, how do you feel about woman crying?

I've had this happen more than once. First, I feel for her that she's so upset. I don't make the mistake a lot of guys do in trying to "fix" her. I just let them cry it out. Women crying is as natural as a Spring shower, so it doesn't bother me. Men also try to use logic on women which simply doesn't work. Logic and emotions do not run parallel in a woman's mind. Her feelings will short circuit her thinking.

If it was a casual relationship (which mine were) then I saw it coming and it was no surprise when they declared their feelings for me. After they cry it out I tell them I don't feel the same about them. I'd rather be honest with a woman and have her hurt some then than to lead her on, give her false hope and really hurt a lot later on.

I would listen to her, and I would try to comfort her in any way possible. I can't tell you what any other guys think. But I think if the guy likes you he will do what ever he can to make you fill better.

Guys in general get extremely overwhelmed by this emotionally and find it very hard to handle, because they really want to help and show physical affection but that could easily lead to sexual activity that they later may regret, so they try and rationalize with her and help with words or deeds and sympathy and keep from physical touch, especially when a woman is in a delicate state, to keep harm from them both.

If he felt the same way, the immediate urge would be to kiss her go into foreplay, but he would maybe not because he is cautious and afraid she wouldn't accept sex or in total he may not to prevent sex, because out of respect and genuineness or other reasons. So he ends up talking to her and sharing, but guys in general find it hard to share emotions, they rather stick to reason and thinking of after effects.

But if he doesn't feel the same way, he could more easily show physical affection, but would prevent it because he doesn't want to give you the idea that he feels the same way, so would try and discuss it or talk about it.

Many guys would even prevent talking, because they think/ know you want physical attention at that moment and not just talking, and when they just talk the girl may take it up wrongly and see them as insensitive bastards, but they can't get physical too because of the above mentioned, so it becomes a catch 22 situation, so they just sit there stumped, overwhelmed and shocked and in the end are still seen as insensitive bastards, because they did nothing.

But a reasonable guy would show her physical affection with no sexual connections and tell her how he feels, but that wouldn't be a typical "guy"

How would a normal guy react?
I have no idea all guys handle this situation differently

How would I react?
Shocked but I would still try to console her and when she stops crying (i can't handle when a woman cries) Then I ask her what could I do to make her feel better (it's usually either be with her or she says "nothing")

If I'm single and she wants me to be with her and were just friends I try to explain although its hard and usually we end up more than friends and the pain continues

If I'm single and want to be with her we go for it (yes this happened to me before I'm oblivious to their feeling in this situation)

If I want to be with her and I'm with someone else I tell her:"'m sorry for ignoring your feeling all this time I want nothing more than to be with you I don't want to create harsh feeling between you and (the other girl) but if it's alright with you then I will tell (the other gir) that I don't feel as strong for her as I do for you" or some thing like that

And if I don't want to be with her and I'm with someone else I tell her "I'm sorry I don't feel for you that way but I do care for you and I am here for you always but cheer up maybe over time something can spark between us but right now I'm with (the other girl) but if something goes wrong between us you will be the person I go to for comfort"

So basically I alter my words for the situation but it all means the same I want her to cheer up and that we ARE close friends and maybe more but we have a good friendship as it is so lets keep it that way

Basically I was in this same situation a while back. I told him how I felt and it all just came out in a rush. I started to cry. He asked me questions about the situation and then said that he did not mean anything by asking the questions, he was just being a friend and talking to me because it seemed like something I needed to get off of my chest. Some guys are scum bags. I think that the average guy would want to console you in some way, but you might get that confused as mutual affection if he was not interested. He should just tell you if he does not want you in that way, but some guys want to have their cake and eat it too. I would have expected my "friend" to tell me that he was not interested and that he had a girlfriend. He did not want me to know this fact and ended up hurting me more than if he had just rejected me in the first place.