Recently divorced, I moved into my parents home. The guy that lives directly across the street caught my eye(even though he's been living there for 12 years. ) and we started waving to each other and smiling. Then we started having 10-20 min. Conversations outside(either when we both pulled up at the same time or picking up our garbage cans, etc. ). He's a policeman and I guess I always had the idea that he was an A-Hole. But I was totally wrong! He is the most sweetest guy and also shy and humble. Well, his main detail jobs are right around our neighborhood so it was just a matter of time til I ran into him. On Valentine's Day I went to the grocery and as I walked in he came up to me and said hi and talked briefly. As I left the store he came up to me and started talking some more and as I walked away I said,'Happy Valentine's Day', and he just looked at the ground and said,'Yea'(kind of sadly). After I little while I decided to buy a single yellow rose and a small card that read,'Hope this brightens your Valentine's Day' and put it on his doorstep knocked and left. The next day he came over and thanked me and as we talked he explained that he had been sick so I gave him some sample meds. I had and continued talking then, he asked if we could get together sometimes(I WAS DYING! ) and I said Yeah, sure. The next morning he called me at 10am and again at 8pm. I called him and asked if he wanted to watch a movie after work but he was already going to meet two friends from work and said his next day off would be Thursday. We talked off and on this past week and I'm so mad at myself for coming on too strong by saying some things too soon(like telling him that he has a nurse right across the street to take of him when he gets sick again or presurring him to take more time off etc. ). He has not called since Monday and today is Friday. I can tell he is trying to avoid me so last night I texted him this --I admit I came on too strong by saying some things, but please remember that I have not done this "boy/girl" thing in over 15 years. And just got too excited. I guess I'm not ready for that yet. I was wrong, I blew it, and I'm very sorry-- Well, I sent that last night and have not heard from him and he 's still avoiding me(ie. , he did not even look my way as I pulled out my driveway). I have been kicking myself in the ass for blowing it like I did. Does ANYONE have any advice or have I lost him forever?
Update: Well, it's been almost one week. On sat. I was outside in the front yard and he came out to walk his dogs and he said "Hi, Pam". I looked up from trying to assemble my weed eater and said 'Hi', "I got my new lawn equipment", & looked away. Is this a good sign?
6 months ago
Give it a rest. Let HIM make the next move. Unless you said something REALLY inappropriate like "give me your handcuffs and I'll show you how a pig REALLY squeals" (or something to that effect) -- then anything you say now, will only make it worse.
I don't think you came on too strong. You just need to let him do the calling. You were to excited that's all. Give it some time and I bet he comes around. I would bet he isn't good at the boy/girl thing either. And he is shy so he might not know how to react to the attention. Give to some time.
My advice would be to just relax and if he really likes you then he will come around. Yes even though you came on a little too strong he may still want to pursue things with you,but no more phone calls or text's you don't want to be that crazy stalker girl! Besides if he doesn't come back you are a newly single beautiful woman who probably by now knows what she wants. Take this time to explore your options if you've been with someone for 15 years then you have got to get out there and see ALL your possibilities!
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How do they typically respond?
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