Do the thoughts really go away if you keep busy?

well bad news because if you were the one then she wouldn't have to make sure. she would know. And the second bad news. Experts say that it takes half the time you were with the person to get over them. So you will probably still love her for a year and a half. I no it sucks doesn't it? But I hope everything works out for you and if you ever need anything you can always message me.

It is impossible to force yourself to forget about something when you are thinking of it. The memory will keep refreshing itself since you are saying (in your mind) "Don't remember her, don't remember that, this is something you should forget" yet the whole time you are thinking about it.

Yeah, don't let her keep you as a backup plan. That's screwed up no matter what gender it's coming from or directed to. Tell her it's now or never. If she still wants to explore other options, you need to stop all contact with her. As far as not remembering it after that, try reading a book (not any romance books or stories with couples) or watching a movie right before bed. I usually have dreams about the last couple of things I think about in my day.

Definitely. That's happened to me before. I didn't have that many of them dreams, but I sure did have a hard time fallin' asleep. Ain't no joke how them wheels get to spinnin' over and over in the mud until you's plenty deep. I don't reckon there's any quick fix - lots of promises and whatnot, but, in the end, your capacity for feeling is your capacity for pain.

If I's you I'd also do some figurin' about whether I'd want my girl back if she laid such hurt on me. I'd tell her next time I saw her that I wasn't feeling good and if she's willing to put me through that, then I reckon she ain't the gal I thought she was or that I'd want for good.

You're not alone. My ex of two years broke up with me 2 months ago. It hurt like you're hurting now, but it's getting better. Just try to do things that make you feel better about yourself. Working out is a good start. Go shopping - get some new sneakers, jeans and jerseys.

If she hasn't decided by now that you're the one then she is not the one for you. Does she honestly expect you to be waiting for her after she sleeps with about ten dozen dudes? You're much better than that. Your life doesn't revolve around her. And don't worry about sleeping. Although every guy is different, it is definite that these feelings will go away with time.

There is a nice quote that came to mind when reading your question. It goes something like "keep your chin up and you will see the clouds in the sky. Keep your chin down and all you will see is the dirt on the floor. "

Hope this helps. Good luck to you, sir.

Hey dude!
I'm in the same situation at the moment. The only difference is that my ex split up with me only about 4 weeks ago.
I think the reason why I can't stop thinking about her is that she says she still loves me etc, but she's just not ready for a relationship and she wants to be single while she's young. And for me, that's not really an answer. There must be some reason why she doesn't want to be with me.
And the fact that she's left me with no real answers, makes me think that there's still a chance to get her back, and that's what makes me think and dream about her. It's such a horrible feeling.
Hope you've had more answers from your ex than I've had from mine.
All the best x