My boyfriend broke up with me last night over a text message and he said he met someone else. A week ago Saturday he begged for me to come back to him. He bought me flowers and took me out to dinner, movie, and drinks. He wrote me this long letter explaining he was so sorry he never meant to hurt me and how much I meant to him. He told me he cared about me more than any other girl has and that he never wanted to lose me. All week things were fine.
On Friday I went out and had a few drinks and I do remember getting into a little fight with him over text msg because he said he was going to wash his car at 1 in the morning (he gets off work at midnight). I was drunk and at the time it sounded suspicious, I never accused him of cheating, but I did say he was acting funny. And then when we were supposed to hang out Sunday he didn't contact me at all. And apparently went on a date with another woman.
What happened? Why did he write this long letter telling me how much he cared and begged to be back with me just to turn around a week letter to break up with me because he had fun with another girl on one date??? I'm hurt and confused :(
Update: I fell in love with this guy and he said he loved me too. Now he is saying he doesn't even want to be friends or talk to me again. A week ago he told me he didn't want to lose me it doesn't make any sense!
9 months ago
I agree with the last person that he does sound young, at least in the head. He doesn't know what he wants to be straight up and I'm sorry to say you're caught in the middle of things. I'm not sure about who you are or how you are but I'm sure there was a point where he really did love you, but it wasn't enough. He's being pulled into two different directions, on one side he may want to hold on to you, but the other side he wants something else, whatever that something else is.
If you are the type that likes being around al the time, that may have pushed him away in the end. What I mean by that is he may feel that he needs to find himself.
YOU NEVER WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE THAT DOESN'T KNOW WHAT THEY WANT.
Why did he do it to you? Because you were the person he was dating, he's going to do it a few times in life before he grows out of it.
Girl I had to stop myself. I was seriously getting teary-eyed. From my impression he does sound very young, but also in my opinion, I can't help but fell like he was sincere in his efforts. I say that because I know I wouldn't go through all of the efforts to get you back just to let it all go due to a misunderstanding. Which leads me to believe he is young.
On the other hand, I know myself I don't like for my girl to be drunk or drinking, so I don't know the situation with that, but it could also have been that he was greatly disturbed by the suspicion of him cheating. You probably didn't mean it that way, but maybe that's the way he took it. & from there its a mind trip. Like. She must be cheating if she accused me.
But All Excuses aside, maybe he did you a favor by leaving. Because that type reaction to such a small misunderstanding is crazy. & you don't want to deal with that type of bi-polar personality any-how.
Apparently went or did he really have the other date? If he actually went on a date, I'm inclined to think that this girl he talks about jut meeting was there already; maybe things didn't work out at the time with this other girl, and that's why he wrote you the long letter. Then things ended up coming back to working out with this other girl, and then he dumps you.
I've seen this happened before, specially around insecure guys. They have a gf, but they really want another girl, but because they can't get this other girl, they stick to the girlfriend; however, if by any chance the girl they really like becomes available to them, then they dump the girlfriend. Hell, this happens quite frequently cause unfortunately, sometimes you become more of a hot commodity when you have a girlfriend. So there could be a chance you were just being used as bait.
He worked so much that I don't know when he would have had time to see this other girl. I honestly believe he just met this other girl, but I don't know now. How can you spill your heart to someone and tell them you love them and just change in a week? - 9 months ago
Apart from the obvious answer that men are stupid, which they are. Really really stupid.
Reading between the lines it sounds like there could be a sexual element to what you describe. Nothing will grab a young man's attention faster.
Or it could be that a week ago he was covering his bets because he had someone else on the hook that he was doubtful would work out.
All in all, its a slimy move that I'm ashamed to admit most guys in their dating history have pulled. I'm not saying the guy is the devil but the specific act does not cover him in glory. 10 to 1 if you are cold and aloof to him at some point he will try to switch back again.
The worst part is that because he hurt you, you'll likely be predisposed to do something crappy to a different guy in the future. Try not to let his stupidity make you too jaded.
He just met this other girl yesterday he didn't know her last weekend (his old boss called him up and asked him if he wanted to meet this woman). And what do you mean by the sexual element? He never complained about sex and he liked to be all over me. - 9 months ago
Wow. guys are so weird lol. I know how you feel. I don't a lot to say but to be strong. i know its hard but he is not worth your time or tears. You deserve a lot better. at least you found out he is just another asshole. And I'm sure you'll move on to bigger and better things =]
Awwww. :( I am so sorry he put you through this. I have been through similar things in the past too. Men are so confusing. I think your best bet is to move on. He may really like you, but not enough not to run around with another woman so chances are he will do it again.
He was feeling guilty. Now, he has someone to occupy his time and is treating you like crap. So, do not talk to him. He is the one that is losing out on a great person. If he is willing to do that for a girl he just met? He doesn't deserve you and you are better off. Do not contact him at all. Let him miss you.
:( I hope he meant what he said in the letter and with the flowers. It's the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for me :( I just feel like crap. How can anyone be so amazing and then just send me such a blow. He never loved me I guess :( - 9 months ago
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