My boyfriend broke up with me, and after many weeks of discussion we are now "unlabeled. " We are still having sex (just once so far) and he made it clear we don't have to do it, but that he feels all the same ways about me, he still cares about me, its just the relationship part that didn't work out. I still have hope that with time we could be together - because I seriously believe deep down that we were meant for each other. I just don't know what we are now. Is this legit or is this really stupid? I have to admit I feel better after the fact, but we are doing everything like when we were dating. I know he isn't seeing anyone. I think. I'm obviously not and we don't really want to. I just miss him. What else can I do? I probably shouldn't keep bothering him with how much I want it to work. Right? Please help someone!
Eh. The FWB thing I'd be careful about unless it's something you both want. And yeah, listen to Ion, he has a really good point. You can't make someone love you, and the harder you try, the more painful and distant they will become. Believe me, I know. Just take a break for a while and go see what else is out there. Have a girls night out or whatever. In the end you both may discover that you can really work things out, or maybe you'll find that you guys were just incompatible. Good luck babe.
On whether it is legit or stupid, you need to answer that with that your gut instinct is.
Personally, I think you need to stop sleeping with him unless /you/ want to remain friends with benefits as well. Be his friend, go out and have fun with your friends, date a little, and perhaps both of you will discover that you were truly meant for each other.
One thing you'll learn in life is that you can not make anybody love you. The harder you try the harder you'll descent when they don't seem to love you back.
I know you are both right. I am convinced that only time will tell what our fate is. I just know it in my gut that he is the man for me. Or I have done a hell of a job convincing myself of that, lol.. if you both say to not try to push it, I won't - 6 months ago
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I look at love like a boomerang... Throw it out there and if it is true love, it will come back to you. All the best, I truly hope it works out for you as everyone deserves to be happy. - 6 months ago
Don't have sex with him if you guys are not a couple. he is gonna get used it and he won't take you serious anymore. then he is gonna find another girl and leave you. thats the sad truth but that's how guys are and we have to learn how to play their game. try to ignore him and don't have sex with him at all. he'll miss you.
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
I usually ask the girl where she wants to go and try to create something based on that. Typical stuff, dinner, maybe a movie, bowling. Ideally I would give her a short kiss goodnight if things went well but that's the most. I wouldn't push for too much more.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
I would tell her about my job and a little bit about my family to give her an idea of my background. I would hope she would think I am a genuine and caring person.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 6 months ago
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