I met this great guy at school and he's the only one in my small town that I have the most in common with, even with all my girl friends. He's really sweet and nice and would have done anything for me when we were going out. I broke up with him, for me it was just waiting to happen but for him it seemed really sudden ( I hide my true feelings) Now he's trying to get over me or something but he just ignores me. I know I said I'd give him time to get over it and he said he'd talk to me when he wants to be friends again, but its been a couple months and no change! I really don't want to lose him as a friend, I really don't, but I don't want to be friends with him if he doesn't want to be friends with me. How do I know if he wants to be friends, what should I do? Should I confront him?
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Confronting him will only push him further away. Just give him some space and he might come around. He's still hurting because maybe he was starting to like you a lot and all of a sudden you tell him you don't want to be with him anymore, but you still want to be friends. It's like this saying I read somewhere, "Having someone break up with you and say we can still be friends, is like your dog dying and your mom saying 'we can still keep it.'" Either way it hurts. Just give him time because getting in his face and trying to force him to be friends will only make you feel stupid and want to stop trying because you'll be doing all the work. And by forcing him to talk to you, you may get a friendship you don't like. Just imagine how you feel when you get forced to do something you don't want to do, you get pissed off and start giving attitude and being a little rude. As long as keep your distance, he'll get over it a little faster. Hope this helped.
No. He is hurt and he told you. He will let you know when he is ready. He might not ever want to be friends. You can't force him. He isn't ready because he was the one that got dumped out of no where. You are over it and ready to be friends. He is still going through the stages. It could be awhile and it could never happen. But, I would not confront him at all.