Me and my girlfriend were completely head over heals fore each other. We were at school for awhile and would talk everyday for hours. She lives far away in the summer with her dad but I went down for a week and stayed with her every night all day. It was the best week of my life. We were the couple that could make other couples thinking "why aren't we like that ". I couldn't count how many times we said "i love you" in one day. She went of the college and I visited her every weekend for teh first of the fall semester. We had it good and I loved it.
I never saw anything coming. About a month and a half ago my now ex told me that she was going though a lot of stress and wanted the take a "break". Before that I have no idea we had anything wrong. We took a break for a week and before we started not talking for those 7 days of hell, I told her that I loved her and she meant the world to me. She told me she loved me back and that she was confused, didn't know if she could make it though college and the next 4 years. I told her that I wasn't asking for 4 years. I was asking for right now. I told her she could have all the time she wanted.
About a month ago she told me it was over. She couldn't give me a reason but that she didn't have the same feeling for me. She loved me but wasn't in love with me. I was set back and I broke down. She was normally so warm and open but now she was cold and removed, she didn't cry it seemed easy for her. I wasn't really eating or sleeping right for about a week but then things started to get better. I went out but didn't look for other girls. I blocked her from everything of mine, took down her pictures and removed her tags. She would tell me how much she loved me and then out of the blue she dumps me.
I didn't talk to her for about a month. No pictures calls or anything. Life has been horrible.
Last night, I was told my parents want to get a divorce and after being emotional about that my now ex ims me and wants to talk. I didn't know if could open up to her. I was hurt about how she did it and why. She said she misses me and she was bubbly. She still says she needs her time and that I deserved a girl that could commit more. Nothing made any sense to me. I have the perfect girl. She says she thinks about what it would be like to still be with me. Also she asked if I have hooked up with anyone and I hadn't. But she had. She said it was hard for her to do but she still did. I still care for this girl, I thought I was getting over her but I don't know anymore. I don't know how she could be so committed to me one month and then so distant the next.
She said sorry for all that shit hurt me. She seemed defensive and didn't want to tell me about the guy. I wonder if she left me for him, if she wants him as a boyfriend. I know I'm young and college relationships are hard but no man can love this woman as much as I did. Respect her the way I did.
I need a girls point of view, your eyes are probably tired from reading this but I need help. What do I do?
It sounds like when she went off to college, she figured a lot about herself that she didn't realized she liked/disliked before. She realized that she might not want to rush into any type of commitment that could range from choosing a major in school, to what type of guy she see's herself with, now, and down the road. It sounds like she is really confused, and about more than one thing. It's causes here, not just one cause. But she sounds pretty honest, take your time, listen to her, and try to get a feel for where she is coming from without contradicting her. It sounds like your get the full answer in some time if you don't overreact or anything.
Here is the deal. This happens to every guy at least once. It has happened to me and I know how much it hurts. The problem with your question is that she is the only one that can answer it. If she isn't going to answer it truthfully then you are S. O. L. But you might be better off not knowing the truth. It will take some time and you might always be a little bitter about the situation but you'll meet someone new. You're young. Don't get all caught up in one girl so early. There are a lot of girls out there and some are better than others, just be nice to them all and you'll find the right one someday.
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