Why Is It So Hard To Do ?

It doesn't sound like you two are even in love anymore. You need to leave him, and get your life straightened out. It doesn't sound like he's ever going to change, either. You are both making each other miserable for some reason. The most important thing in your relationship now is your child. Don't play games with your daughter. Eventually, she will see what's going on, and her life will be ruined, too. Take your daughter and move on. If your fiance wants to be in her life, fine. If not, just move on. You have to get out of this destructive relationship.

Don't retaliate ... my parents were like this and I had the phone #'s and addresses to they bars they hung out at burned in my brain and often had to pick my parents up from the bar. At an early age I would walk to the bar at like 12:30 - 1:30 and get my mom or dad. This started at like 10 years old. Now if he won't talk to you or help you in any way (even on the lines of communication) I would do what Sabjo82 said (and I agree w/ her completely) and maybe even try talking to his father/ father figure (if he is still around, I don't know the details there) and try to see if they can give you a better insight. Because they have seen him depressed/ mad/ sad before and they might be able to help you approach this problem with the right information. Or it may even help you make your decision w/out him. But it also seems like this guy had never heard the phrase "Life sucks. But Anything worth having, is worth working hard for." Bob Kelso- "Scrubs" tv show is where that came from.

And that includes relationships and parenting.

It's over. He doesn't deserve you. If he's the type to listen and not just shout and get angry then tell him what you feel but if he's the party drunk type that like oh here she goes again. Then just divorce.

That sucks I would divorce before the baby gets older... my parents been arguing since I was 3 and it would have been better if they would have broken up already.

K I don't know the whole story but just for starters if your only staying together for your daughter it would honestly be better for her if you didn't. And if your fiance is having doubts or just doesn't know what he wants that would explain the friends house thing cause guys just go through the same stages as we do they have times were their just not sure wtf the want just give him a little more time then just let him know that you don't want to waste your life with somebody who doesn't want you and if he does he will tell you and you'll get over the rough patch
good luck

I do agree that you guys need to talk but, he is having responsibility issues. He brought a baby into the relationship and now he doesn't know what to do. It may not be over but, it sounds like he has some issues that he doesn't know how to express and he is just waiting for your confrontation to blow off steam. He isn't happy with what he has and I don't mean you and the baby. I mean life hasn't placed him where he thought he would be so he is doing what he can to ignore that situation. You right now are the closest thing to him so he is going to take it out on you in his own way. He knows he is hurting you and he feels some relief in that because he wants you to feel how he feels. Talk to him you may suprise him encourage him to make the necessary changes to be happy. By getting even you will be escalating the problem untill it becomes explosive. He may be thinking that you don't care because you haven't done much to prevent his actions. Instead of getting mad at him for leaving try a different approach. Ask him if he would come home after work so you and him can sit down after the baby is asleep and watch a movie together or just hang out.

It does seem like you guys are falling apart if you don't feel happy then tell him how you feel ask him why doesn't he act like he cares and that isn't normal for someone to be a happy couple- or it isn't normal for someone who really wants to be together.

Yeah, I agree with crazyoverhim. You two need to sit down and have a serious talk about where your relationship is going, or if it's going anywhere at all.

It sounds ike you two need to talk. That's what it sounds like to me.