My ex-boyfriend says he is not sleeping with anyone, and that I am the only person he is having sex with and that it's not ok for me to date. That he is trying to work things out in his mind and see what he wants to do with his life before he comes back to be with me. (I have a crazy ex-husband that attacked him. And that is why we broke up)
He says he needs time but loves me and is not with anyone else. I moved and he wants to come to the new house. And you know what will come with that. If I don't sleep with him do you think he will find someone else to sleep with? I want to make it clear that I am not a booty call that if he is with me it's because he wants to be commited to me and be like we were before. He says he is too paranoid and needs time to think about our relationship and what he does with his life. What should I do? Is he stringing me along; so he can sleep with me until he finds someone he really wants to be with? Will he look for someone to sleep with him if I deny him this, and then ultimately stay with that person? I NEED HELP!
Update: Well I have not had sex with him; he came over saw my new place and we watched movies till about 2am and then he went home. I was not cold. I was like normal; he says he wants to come over during the week. Is he setting me up for sex? LOL
5 months ago
You are getting used for sex. He doesn't want you to have sex with anyone else? But it's ok for him, because he just won't tell you. He knows he can get it anytime with you, so he is stringing you along, and keeping you semi close, so whenever he's horny, he can get it from you. If he's trying to figure things out, then he can figure things out without sex. But you're getting used, plain and simple. Tell him that you're done having sex. If he doesn't want to date you, then fine. And even if he does, he needs to get things worked out and taken care of before you two get back together. But sex is not included in that.
LMAO! I told him something along those lines two weeks ago and he stopped talking to me for about 4 days! But I agree. My feelings are worth something! - 5 months ago
He is using you and playing mind games. Yes, if he truly wanted to be with you other than sex? He would be. You work on a relationship together not by sleeping together. He will continue having sex with you until he discovers that he just doesn't know if it is working for him and you are going to end up hurt. Not fair to you sweetie. Cut the ties. He doesn't want you to date? Yet, he doesn't want to give you all of him? Selfish.
I think he is using you for a booty call. If he needs to work things out on his own, he should concentrate on that without the sex. It wouldn't be fair to you, that you're just there whenever he needs you. It seems to me he gets the best of both worlds, gets the sex & time to straighten out his life. Once he gets things in order, be careful cause he could boot you out within seconds. I'm currently going through a break-up now. After reading you story, I think I was stringed along. By the time I realized, it was too late. I found out the hard way. Don't let the same thing happen to yourself.
I like your advice. Well put. Us gals have all been through this. It's nothin new eh. It really is a bad situation to be in. Unfortunately we alll seem to need to get to that point where it's too late and we learn the hard way and we get used! - 6 months ago
Married 10 years have two kids . Wife cheated on me with the guy next door . She first told me it was some one else . Then I found out it was the guy...
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