Should I break contact with my ex-boyfriend?

He's grooming you up for an f-buddy relationship. Plain and simple.

Anyone who would ruin a holiday by not putting off the breakup is a remarkably pathetic person.

Anyways, to someone like me, with the limited amount I know about this guy, I would say he is trying to butter you up and get you thinking favorably of him before he puts a few drinks in you and you may think "hm, I could sleep with this guy" in a tipsy state.

I didn't vote, because I say cut ties with no note.

Everyone is wrong.

They don't know what it is like. People this is love. it isn't a crush. In my perspective, love is something I would go to the end of the world for. I would not stop until I have it. If this person has love, why would you tell her to let him go forever. Casually continue your get together and conversations, but stay open to other guys. If he takes to long, tell him he had a chance that he missed. Good luck.

Why keep contact with him if it's killing you and he knows it? Ask yourself that, yeah it might hurt for a bit but there's a reason you broke up in the first place, there's obviously someone out there who is better for you.

If he does not commit to a date/time, tell him a date/time. If he flip flops on the date/time then say just say 'bye' and don't contact him. Look at it as your closure. If he does agree to your specified date/time then go out and see if you can or even want to salvage the relationship.

I'd definitely wouldn't dump anybody on any holidays or big events so that was pretty selfish of him. Again, don't let him flip flop on the date. If a person truly wants to make it work they will make time for you.

The fact that he dumped you, I think you should break contact with him. Just tell him in e-mail what does he want from you. If he says that he still wants to be with you and loved you think about you and regret what he did. then you should pursue him back. However, it is better to move on if he is not committed. It will hurt you even further. Goodluck ^.^

I was in a Very Similar situation last year! I dated this guy, fell in love and he broke my heart. Last May was when the relationship ended, except he didn't actually end the relationship, he just sorta disappeared. I was devastated! Around July I contacted him about meeting for a drink because I wanted an explanation! That's when it all started!

I got my explanation and then he started sending me facebook messages and calling me. I, of course, wanted to think the best of him because I loved him. And part of me still wanted him back! So I continued to let him play games with my head until December. At the beginning of December I was out with some friends and he purposely came to the bar that I always hang out at. He told me he still cared about me and he was sorry and he asked me to go to dinner with him the next night. So I accepted. He stood me up! That was the final straw! And I haven't had any communication with him since.

I wanted to believe he was the man I fell in love with but he wasn't and I am not sure he ever really was! The point is, no matter how much I loved him, I could not make him love me back. And I think he got some kind of satisfaction out of messing with my head because he knew how much I cared about him.

No one can tell you what to do! I know I didn't listen when they told me he wasn't worth it! I had to find out for myself! And wouldn't wish that kind of heart ache on anyone, but sometimes we have to experience something ourselves to really believe it.

For me, the waiting and the games were more stress than I wanted, but in the end I am glad things happened the way they did. Because when he stood me up that last time I FINALLY realized the person he really was, and I could let go of him with no regrets. I feel like if I had never initiated things to begin with I would have always wondered "what if"!

Now I am with a wonderful man that treats me like a queen! I wish you the best! Just remember you deserve to be treated like a queen too! Don't let him play head games with you for too long!

I voted to write him a goodbye email, although I don't even think you should do that. Don't torture yourself, please! The only way you are going to get over him is to cut him out of your life as much as possible. Dragging this on will only continue to give you hope that there is a chance for a reconciliation, and what if there's not. You will not be able to emotionally invest yourself in anyone else until you let this guy go. Remember, he dumped you. It's his loss and if he doesn't realize that to take more initiative, then he probably has no intention of getting together. Good luck and stay strong.

NO! Do not have any contact with your ex, its bad! Shows you want him back even though you might not think so. But tell him you want to end your friend relationship, and it really sucks being dumped on New Years Eve. I wouldn't even talk to him if I were you! Bad choice.

First, New Years Eve? That is awful. Secondly, I just did the exact same thing and trust me, talking to him thru email is a bad thing. He dangles a carrot in front of you. You can't be friends right now and when he starts to date someone else it will crush you. Not talking to him helps you heal and lets him know he made his choice and now has to deal with it. I would not send him a goodbye anything. Just stop communication. It is the best. Ex boyfriend contact is like crack. Its addicting. You can't stop it and you look for his emails and stuff like a crack addict. I woke up everyday looking for some type of sign in the email that he wanted me back. Don't do this to yourself and stop. It is hard but you can do it. It also helps hi see what he let go of.

Well, I think the right choices are always the hardest, for starters. So, on that note, not even writing him the goodbye email and just not ever responding would be the your best move. However, that's not easy when you believe you are "special" and you are hoping to be with him. Here's the thing, when a guy wants you, especially when he knows you are into him, he will find you and come back to you so you can't really lose him by breaking all contact at this point. You can get more hurt by this situation by pouring a little salt in the wounds. Don't even say good bye. You will get your answer either way. Remember, a guy was designed to chase and pursue what he wants. So if you end contact, and he wants you, he'll find you.