I had been dating this guy for about 2 months. We met through a friend who introduced us because he thought that we would have something in common, but he did not intend for us to hit it off as lovers. I was only in town for a week, but the week was magical, and I only lived 150 miles away. Before the week was over, though, I found out about one of his exes by us comparing our facebook profiles. This guy has ironically ruined another of my past relationships by doing the exact same thing. His ex was a very recent ex and came back into the picture shortly after he and I started dating (the ex had just disappeared with no explanation, but re-emerged without ever having closure or definition). In order to pursue something with me, my guy put an end to things in person with this other guy. My guy continued to travel to see me and I would go see him as well, even though both of us have busy lives, so it shows that he had some interest. About 5 weeks ago, we broke up for him to figure out what he wanted. He told me that he wanted to think that he could date me in the future, but the timing was off. Yet he continued to call every day 4x, 5x, 6x, or more. A couple weeks later, he told me he was back with the ex. I was ok with that, because I had encouraged him to do what made him happy. But here is where the trouble starts. When he told me that he was back with the ex, I told him that I needed time, I was not disappearing, but that I just needed time. He told me that he looked forward to hearing from me and that he would answer my call when I called. Two days later, he blocked me on facebook. Granted it sounds like we are teenagers, but he's a bit older than I am and I'm in my mid 20s-the implications are greater than the actions themselves, remember. Then two more days pass, and I receive a call from an attorney that was hired on behalf of my guy to investigate claims of harassment (my guy claims that a good friend of mine was harassing him- to make things more confusing this good friend used to date the ex that my guy is back together with). When I confronted my friend, he says that he hasn't had any contact with either of them in quite some time and wishes to have no contact with them. All of this having happened, I finally contacted my guy to ask him what exactly was going on. I had sent an e-mail, a text, and one phone call/voicemail. Nothing over the top. No response. So I let it go. It has now been 3 weeks since the attorney called, and it is killing me to know that this could ruin what might be a good friendship down the road. I have sent 2 more e-mails since, one warning about something going on in his neighborhood, and one funny e-mail to make him laugh (which he loved and we agreed we would send each other even after we broke up), neither of which warranted a response from him, which is very unlike him. He has his phone and computer by him all day, so why won't he respond to anything I have to say?
Unfortunately he has proven he doesn't want anything with you not even a friendship. I would delete his info and just not contact him anymore. He had an attorney get involved. I would close this chapter and move on. I know it is hard and you have so many questions but, he doesn't and won't answer them. You will be better off with just not bothering with him.
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