I was in a relationship with my ex for a year and a half with no major fights. She has a 3 year old son that I consider my own. Our relationship was great except the last 4 months she wasn't making a lot of time for us one on one. This started to get to me and at the beginning of this year we ended up having some serious fights about her moving in and spending more time with me. Finally one night we decided to have talk. We decided to take a couple days from each other and not talk. Well this was taking longer than I thought and it started to drive me crazy. Before all this I saw her cell that she had talked to this guy for a while and although I know she wouldn't cheat on me it drove me crazy that she was talking to this guy all the sudden. So I had my friend check out her cell phone account and found out she talked to him a lot. I decided to break our "break" and confront her about it. She got upset that I didn't trust her and said I always question her when I shouldn't be. The guy was just a friend of hers and nothing was going on. Well some how she found out how I got the info and one day I came home from work she took all her stuff out of the house, but left her sons toys and kept my house key. I broke down that day and she came over to be with me, she kept telling me that she sees us together in the future but not right now. She wants to be friends and wants me to be there for her son, and keeps telling me that she loves me and that this isn't about another guy she just needs her space. We tried for a week to hang out together with the little man, but I'm so used to them being around I can't get over why we aren't together. I told her I wasn't going to talk about "us" but I just can't help it and I think it's pissing her off more that I keep trying to get her back. I don't know what I should do? Do I just cut off contact for right now until I can be cool around her, or do I just keep hanging out with the two of them and try not to bring "us" up. I love them both so much. I'm not sure what to do.
Well if she want s to have time off and you love her you should respect that. But to a reasonable time, you can't wait forever. It's good you love her child so if she allows you to be in his life great. But leave you two out of it. You should wonder how long is a reasonable time if she doesn't show interest or talk about you future together, maybe you should save yourself the heart ache and move on. If it's meant to be it will happen,but you shouldn't have to put your life on hold. Mom's think differently ask her want it is she wants.
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 8 months ago
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