I met this girl at work who was interested in me. But I was not really into starting a relationship with somebody from work. Because it could give problems eventually and it did eventually.
So after a while I gave in and asked her out on a date movies etc. Which turned out great, though not so long after that first date she got scared of committing because of her previous relationship.
So I decided to give her the space and time she wanted but still remained friends. Even though she always did things, said things which pointed to more then friendship. Things improved over time and without any word from both sides we grew closer again. We were together a lot again and it was good. Then well then it all went wrong again, again commitment issue's.
The funny part was around Christmas she had a new boyfriend which lasted 2 weeks because I found out and was angry with her for fooling around with me. So she ended up breaking things off, claiming nothing ever happened besides kissing. By new year we were together again(me being stupid maybe for allowing it so soon or even again) we slept together. And somehow unplanned she got pregnant. Which after a few fights about it(what to do with it) since both of us were against abortion. I tried my best to convince her to keep th baby. But each time got angry for no obvious reasons, was just stating fact that she had nothing to worry about. But she wanted to do it because she would have less freedom(socially). So there was a abortion, she ignored me for a entire week could not make contact to her and when I did manage to she acted distant. After that week things got normal again(as far as you can still call it that). Things seemed to be picked up were we left it and were close again. She asking stuff like loving her, missing her, being still the love of my life. We were together a few times doing things which went past friendship. But surprise surprise the last time we actually spend time together she send me a message when she got home telling me she was glad we could be best friends. So she asked things like do you still love me, did you miss me, am I still the love of your life. Even after that when I made plans to clear my head and go visit friends in the UK,USA and Australia. When I told her about this she was confused why. A bit later I received a message from her telling me she had a bad dream. How I met somebody in the USA and we loved each other and we were getting married and moved back to the states. And that she had missed her opportunity with me.
So after a few more confusing weeks I was getting enough of it. One day I noticed something about her, and when I asked if there was somebody else she said yes. But there was no relationship, no feelings, just sex so a sex relationship. That did it for me. Neither can I accept somebody doing something like that its not right in my opinion. So I broke contact with her, even though she resisted but accepted it after much resistance.
It sounds like you two didn't even have a healthy relationship to start with.There's only so many times you can take trying to fix problems and make the relationship work. After that, things just never change it always remains the same. If you two REALLY loved one another it wouldn't be like this. You may feel like you do love her for many reasons, but you need to ask yourself if this love is real or just a temporary love. In my opinion, I see nothing wrong with being friends. But you two should just go your own ways from now on relationship wise. Good luck!
Yes your right, it never really was a healthy relationship. Thing was we kept ending up together for whatever reason. I guess maybe my feelings were/are stronger then hers. Obviously if she really loved me she would not start a sec relationship - 8 months ago
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You're very right. She wouldn't have started another relationship. You deserve better than that. - 8 months ago
I was in a similar relationship with a girl who had commitment issues, and still expected me to act like her boyfriend. I recommend just ending it, and moving on. Otherwise you will be miserable. Trust me.
Exactly what I did. though she send me a text message not long after it telling me she wanted to leave the past(me) behind her. Because she met a really nice guy(again).
But surprise surprise last week she started to send messages again. though I have no intention of giving a response. she has messed my life up enough, and I can get better girls then her. - 6 months ago
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