So basically me and my Ex were crazy for each other. She was in college and I was left in high school but we wanted to make it work. She said she never wanted to leave me. We were strong. So about a month and a half ago she has a cold weekend towards me and i don't know what is going on. By the end she said she loved me and I went home. 2 days later she says that she needs her space and wants to take a break for a week. So me being the good boyfriend that I am say "ok I understand, I love you talk to me in a week". I was going nuts over that next week but I knew I was always good to her and she would want me back. She didn't. She said she couldn't do it. She never cried but I did. She was cold. It went for a month before I talked to her. I eliminated every way she could see me. Broke ties. Heres the kicker. A few days ago she IMs me and says hey, how you doing blah blah we talk for a wile and she says she misses talking to me. Then she asks me if I hooked up with anybody I and I said "no it was too soon". I asked her and that's where it started. She hooked up with this guy that we both meet at her college. Friend of a friend. I found out that during the week she was thinking things through she was texting him. She said forever and she lied. I asked her if it was another guy and she said it definitely wasn't. So a week after we broke up(not talking to her) she has a new boyfriend. That guy we meet together. She has rumors of hickeys and leaving for some time at parties. So the thing that is messing with my head is that she said I was a good man, and that I deserved a girl that didn't have doubts about the relationship. She also said it would bother her if she found out I hooked up with somebody. So my question is... do I trust this girl ever again. I found out that this duded is a pothead asshole and lies all the time. She called him a hottie 2 weeks after. I hate liars and she did whole lot to me. What should I think about all this. I know I was a good boyfriend. She said I love you all the time like right before. Girls... How do I decode what happened to me. They go out on dates and she came home to his house... an hour away. She said her breaking up with me is the hardest thing she has ever done. So heres my position- she hurt me... she lied to me about another guy. She tells me she misses talking to me. She says it would bother her if another girl were making out with me. She said she kept all my stuff and old email. I know this relationship won't last. She hates liars and this guy is a complete dumbass and won't get into her school. Why did she leave something so good for something so bad? I know I've rambled but I need some answers.
I would like them from girls but I don't mind them from guys. Tell me what I should think. What you would do?
If she comes back to me... do I trust her with my heart again?
You need to get over her and quick before she can talk you into getting back together. I am not going to bad mouth her, maybe she is just confused about what she wants. She is living a whole new life style, and when you get to college you'll understand. I am not saying what she has done is right by all means! She screwed up, but high school sweethearts don't usually last forever. I think if you keep talking to her, she is going to come back to you-as a friend-when the pothead cheats on her. She's gonna want you to comfort her and maybe take her back, but if I were you I would let her go. She is more than likely not ready to stay with one guy. Go out and enjoy life! Call some girl and go out and have a good time. Do not let your ex mess with your mind like that, show her you are mature enough to move on.
Haha I'm trying. but what can you tell me from your experience of what she is thinking? did she leave me for the bad boy? Why did she say all that stuff when she talked to me? Why does her actions say one thing but her voice says another? Break it down. - 8 months ago
Answerer
More than likely she is not thinking-if she is-she is only thnking about herself. She probably did but you deserve better. She said all that to keep you hanging, in case she needs you after he screws her over. I'm not her, sorry I can't help more. - 8 months ago
Okay, I know you still have feelings for this girl, and I'm really sorry to have to tell you this, but do not let her come back to you. She doesn't know what she wants right now, and you're only going to get hurt. She wants to have this other guy for now but to have you waiting for her if things don't work out. She wants the bad boy for sex and she wants to have the nice guy still hanging on for her. But when a girl tries to have the best of both world, she only ends up causing pain for the people who love her.
You care about her too much, and while that's admirable in a relationship, it just means that you are going to get hurt if you let her keep walking over you and walking out like this. You have to tell her it's over, and don't look back. I'm sorry.
Say tommorow she says to me. "im so sorry I screwed up big time" Can I accept her mistakes and understand her lies as a sheild not to hurt me? people don't understand how good it was. Thanks - 8 months ago
Answerer
I'm sorry, but from what you've said, it sounds like she's trying to use you. You need to let her see that you won't take this crap from her. After what she's done, I wouldn't be able to trust her if she said that. If -you- can. Well, that's up to you. - 8 months ago
What Guys Said
There are no answers from guys yet. Answers are getting posted all the time so check back soon...or submit your own answer above!
asked Yesterday
Site Links
About GirlsAskGuys
GirlsAskGuys Widgets
Help Us Improve!
