I want to dump my boyfriend, but I don't know how to tell him. Help?

Just break his heart and get it over with. It ain't far to either of you if one person in the relationship's not happy. Eventually you'll have to break his heart.

TRUST ME, do it sooner than later. We guys hate when you just string us along.

You should copy and paste this whole question that you wrote out and send it to him. ;)

You should've broken up with him 8 months ago...
Now he has all sorts of lovely wonderful trauma to face between now and his next girlfriend.
You aren't going to do this without hurting him.
I've been there done that.
All I can say about this is lie like you've never lied before.
Let him down slowly or rip it like a band-aid.
Which leaves you with
1. give him some bs reason you two can't be together.
2. Just say there's someone else.
3. Become more of a bitch or ignoring him.
stuff like that until he eventually gets sick of it and decides to leave.
4. Tell him straight to his face. But dear GOD do not mention the 8 months of not really being interested.
5.Say were done in a text move to Cambodia as a doctor. Or to Canada with your new guy and change your name.
No explanations.

I'm just gonna say it though.
Girl, you're FUCKED.

The best way to break it up would be in a way where you both can still be friends. At least for some time.

Various options exist:

1. If you know any girl who likes him, fix them up somehow. If he can see that he would be happier with someone else that would be best.

2. Find some way to be apart for some time. During that period slowly change your behavior to a little more distant and formal one. Hope that he will leave.

3. Tell him that you don't want to be in a relation right now and like to be friends.

If nothing works, accept that there is no way to finish this without hurting him. Break it off by telling him.

But before you do all that, just think about why you don't want to hurt him? Do you care for him like a sister (elder or younger), a friend, a daughter or a mother? Do you feel guilty? Do you feel responsible for him? You need to sort out your feelings first.

Tell him that you're not in love with him, and never have been. Tell him you hoped that love would grow over time, but that it hasn't for you. It's best for him if you break off all contact. Time will heal the wound, but I'm sure it will be deep. Do the right thing in telling him straight.

The fact is that you WILL break his heart. There's no way about it.

You SHOULD do it, though. You're wasting your own time, AND his.

So make it quick. It will hurt, but only for a bit (think ripping off a band-aid).


Anyways, I'd say something like you and I said above:
1) You don't feel anything for him anymore.

2) It's not his fault. He's sweet and did everything right. It's your fault. You just don't feel "it" anymore (just so he doesn't get self-esteem issues)

DO NOT TELL HIM YOU FELL IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

3) If he still asks "why", tell him exactly what you said at 2)

4) Therefore, you should stop seeing each other.

5) It's better for the both of you: you'd just be wasting his time if you kept going.

6) Bye bye!
NO KISSES (NOT EVEN ON THE CHEEK) OR HUGS AT THIS POINT! Except for when he seems okay with it. When he is able to end it in positive terms.

tell him face to face. please for yourself, find someone youlike, not someone you're just going to lead on.
i tend to find that with guys who lead me on, I end up despising them for the rest of my life or so whatever.
it's going to hurt him more than you-if you have a conscience, don't do this. I don't know why people lead people on, it's just stuipd

Hi there. I can see how you might feel bad. You know that you weren't into him all along and strung him along so much to the point that you are really now going to hurt him. There is no way around it. Yikes! Everyone makes mistakes in their lives. It is just that you have to take responsibility and deal with the consequences (good and bad).

He will be hurt no matter how it happens. I can give you some minor tips on what might make it easier for you and him. Don't do it at your place. That will make him have to be the one to choose to leave and he might have a hard time doing it.

Do it at his place. Some people say to do it at a public place, but I think that is too humiliating for him. I say, do it at his place, make it quick and leave right away

As far as what to say when you break up with him, do not tell him you were never in love with him. That is just plain cruel. There is no point in that. Don't tell him you really want to be with someone else either. Tell him something like, that you have been doing a lot of thinking and what your future is going to look like and as much as you like him and care about him, you don't see being with him for the long term ( like marriage). Tell him you want to break up and spend some time to yourself figuring out what it is that you are looking for. Then maybe say how you would love to sit and talk more about it, but it's not a good idea and you want to give him space now (and yourself) ... Tell him you will email him later. Say good bye and leave. Do not stick around. If he gets upset leave.

You could just email him later and tell him you care about him and want to be able to keep in touch and that you hope to be friends in the future, but that right now you think it is best for the two of you not to talk for a couple of months.

This same thing happened to me, just exactly how you described it, I was 18, never had a boyfriend, desperately start a relationship with a random guy who I was not attracted to in any level, I actually ended up feeling grossed out about being with this guy, and I understand how pointless it feels to you, but what you need to do it's be a little selfish, you need to end this right now, because it's not fun for you, think about you and you're happiness.
When you're young you make mistakes, specially in your first experiences, you're not a mean girl for breaking up with him, as I said it was a mistake from the lack of experience, I'm sure he's gonna be better without you, because who wants to be with someone who doesn't love them