I dated a guy for 6 months. He said he was in love with me. He even had plans to propose. Bought a ring and all but broke up with me a month ago saying he wasn't ready. That it was him not me. That he got to close to fast. That it scared him. That he wanted to remain friends. Mind you I was pregnant when he broke up with me I had a miscarriage four days latter. Now he is going around telling everyone that I was too much drama for him? What is up with that? Why do guys do this? Everyone is saying he will be back. Butt he just said this today to one of our mutual friends. So I just want to know why and how and what I should do. I love him dearly and want him back? Is this possible? Or should I give up?
Update: I wasnt supposed to know about the proposal. His mom told me and showed me the ring. During our relationship he had spent about 10,000 dollars on me. Before he broke up withh me he went broke.
8 months ago
I don't know what you should do it's all your choice, but I can tell you why he acts the way he did. You see the whole thing (pregnant, proposal, all of it) just hit him hard and, most likely, he felt trapped and all that scared him. And as for telling everyone you were too much drama, most likely in his mind, he twisted the situation and really thought it was a lot of drama.
It might be possible to get him back in time but ask yourself do you really want someone who is so immature that he can't even take all of this? You really deserve better. (I'm sorry I said it like that but he shouldn't have left you while you were pregnant. He could have just asked to slow things down and at least see you through you pregnancy. AND I think is just WRONG that you had to go through a miscarriage so soon after that had happened to you. I believe it's a man's job to hold you and help you through hard times and just leaving you like that is unacceptable. )
I don't even know you, but I can tell you right now that you are too good for him if that's the kind of BS he pulled on you. It was his kid though, right? The reason I ask is that you dated him for 6 months and miscarriages tend to happen near the end of a pregnancy.
I'm so sorry to hear of your losses. If it happened during birth-it's called a stillborn which is probably the worst. I didn't mean to be so blunt. I'm sorry! - 8 months ago
MMMMM. 6 months is not long enough. He claims he was in love but who knows if he was or not. He says and plans to propose to you. Buys a ring only to break up with you. He never loved you, nor was he ready to settle down. If he wanted to remain friends then it should have been just that. You having being pregnant and losing your baby thereafter wasnt your fault but you need not to worry about him. Him stating you were too much drama. He's the one with the drama. Full of drama. So to keep the spotlight of him and make himself look good, he putting it all on you. Don't take that bamma back. Love him from a distance as a friend, that is it.
If you just had a miscarriage, then you need to worry about yourself and your body. If he is telling people that you were too much drama, then he wasn't in love with you and probably lied to you about the ring. If in fact he did buy a ring, then the pregnancy probably scared him off. Just give him some time to think things over, and you do the same. If he broke up with you while you were pregnant, would you really want him back? I'm sure you do love him dearly but is he really worth your love?
I think it's an ego/pride thing. He is trying to make you look bad so he doesn't look like a guy with issues. It's to protect his masculinity so he doesn't feel inferior to the other guys. It's just my opinion though. My ex is doing that too, he tried to blame me for the breakup but everything he was complaining he couldn't do, he's not doing anyways so it's all an excuse so he doesn't have to admit he's scared. This just proves how immature your ex is and should help you move on quicker, I'm sorry but we both deserve better treatment than this.
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