Is it worth it to end things nicely?

I am so glad you did that . It's so much better to not have stuff hanging over your head or people "hating" you . Better to leave on good terms . GREAT JOB !

Well I say go for it and try to make things work. Because if something are left unsolved it will have you wondering why things are so awkward between you and your ex let her know that you are sorry for hurting her. Try to do it face to face cause some things can be misread over email and text messages try doing it in a public place that might help. But if you really love you ex and want her back even as a friend tell her your feelings and just let her know cause you don't want her to look at you different. Always keep your love ones close

People don't like to have the truth told to them. Its not fair to blame every problem on you. Is it worth it to contact her? You've got to look past your feelings and think about facts. If this person is going to make you their personal scape goat [not saying she is] then that's not someone you should be with. Hope that helps.

You should take the high road even though she doesn't. At least you will have known you did the right thing by e-mailing her one last time. She may see an e-mail from you and delete it without reading it. So,remember to print it out and mail it. It would be up to her and her conscious to acknowledge it.

Trust me on this one. I just got an email from my ex today. HARSH! And I didn't even deserve it. But, One day he will feel bad and want to apologize. It will be to late. So, do it now so in the future she doesn't hate you. And will have good thoughts of the good email as opposed to the nasty email.

As tempting as it may be to send one last email it probably isn't a good idea. The whole, "I never meant to hurt you. " line is so cliche' and she'd probably be even more insulted in the end. Think about the real reason you want to send the email. In a sense you answered yourself. "you feel bad". If it's just to clear your conscience and rid you of the jerk label her best interest wouldn't be at hand here. If you really did love or care for the girl and are genuinely worried about how she might feel about the words you chose to convey how you felt. I suggest you put a little more thought into why the relationship ended and ask yourself if you're really ready to END this completely. Smoothing things over in one last email may be a subconscious effort in that male brain of yours (no offense) to leave a door open to future possibilities. If not. And it's over, let it go. It's mind over matter. And if you're heart don't mind. It shouldn't matter. <333 Hope this helps!

I know you did the right thing dude!

Glad to hear you went over and got some closure.

I'd say wait for 3 months. When that point reaches, you will hesitate whether you should contact her or not. Then wait for another 3 months. And before you know it, it will be all over with. Easier said than done, but it seems like you are already squared with yourself. You don't have to feel like you need to explain things. Once she has it set in her mind, the harder your try, the more it will hurt you, not her. Good luck.

I wouldn't send the email. If things ended really bad, it could spark something. Give it a little time at least.

Now if she is a co-worker, or class-mate, or old friend that became your girlfriend-this would make me want to end things more in a civilized way because you deal with them often. If not, and you probably won't see the person ever again, then you have to look at what it is that you want from the person. Now you can't please everyone. Is this person worth pleasing?

Meet her in person, emails and phone messages are easily ignored. If you feel like you went to far you can apologize, just make sure everything is okay with her. After that move on.

She may not want to talk to you any more, but it seems like you need some more closure. The best thing to do would be to get it over with, for better or worse.

The short answer, NO

My rules for dating are to have a big heart, and be ready to rip out someone else's and devour it if needed - and I used to be such a nice guy~

Ya know, I'm sure no one here will agree with me - but if it was me - call her and leave ONE really nasty message and don't be nice in the slightest - sending emails is so passive its just gay - let her hear the passion in your voice and let her know how much you think it was all her fault. Then never call or respond to her again and move on, if she emails you respond back with a fake auto bounce message saying so-and-so's address doesn't exist - can not find user.

I did this a couple times and sure enough they came running to me after a few days/weeks crying about how they love me and they were wrong - then I dumped them less then 2 weeks later telling them that since we had broken up before, I can't trust them or this relationship any more, buh-bye. For maximum effect try to dump them right before their period - evil isn't it?

Cheers

I'd say move on with your life as long as you know what you did and didn't do. And this includes both during the relationship and afterwards. If you think you did the right things at the right time, you should have no regrets. And if there were things and times you wish you acted differently, you may want to let her know. But don't let that get into your thoughts and you ultimately ending up regretting and feeling bad about it (doing the things, or telling her). You should just learn from it. After all, everyone deals with their problems their own ways. There is nothing right or wrong about it, that's just the way it is. You can be as heartfelt and sincere as can be and she might still love you, but if the only way for her to get over you is for her to hate you, then that's exactly what she will do.