I am so confused. I was with this guy for just over a year. I was his first serious relationship as all his others were a month or two long. I was his first with a lot of things. He had always told his exes that if they wanted sex with him they had to wait until he was ready as he was a virgin and didn't like rushing into things. I waited as long as he needed so I took his virginity. I was the first girl he ever told he loved. He took me out just over a week ago for our year together and he took me for a meal and cocktails, he told me he loved me so much and never wanted to leave me. And now a week later he's telling me its definitely over. He says that it is nothing to do with me he just don't want to be in a long term relationship. Why would he tell me this after being with me for a year? He keeps coming around my house even tho we are split up just to spend time with me and see me. He cuddles me still and even holds my hand and when I confronted him he said sorry and that he did not mean to give me false hope. He promised me 100% that he don't love me or want to be with me and that I need to move on but he still wants to be friends. Is it really over? What can I do to get him back? I feel so lost without him. Don't worry I haven't gone begging him or stalking him. But I really do need him back. HELP!
I think he cheated on you, almost did, or has to move away(perhaps this is why he said he didn't want to leave you-sounds like foreshadowing to me).
The only other things it could be: His family is doing something to him He's joining the active military force He's leaving for college/training for a while He's got mental problems(Does he do a lot of drugs? )
Well I know he hasn't cheated. That's for sure. He's in college with me so as for going away to study. Where on the same course together. He only does weed and that's only when he's with me cos I smoke it regularly. But its nothing to do with that. Although his mum didn't like me for ages when we first got together, but when he told her we had broke up she sat him down and was like, "are you really sure about this, I know you 2 love each other. " so I know she had nothing to do with it. - 5 months ago
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Hmm, only thing I can think of is he doesn't want to settle now AND/OR there's someone else who has recently tickled his fancy. If your sure about what you've said, then that has to be it - he doesn't want to commit himself to you as his only option. - 5 months ago
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At least he's still in your life. A guy I went out with for awhile was so sweet and genuine and loved me everyone could tell we loved each other I never met anyone like him ever! The 1st time I seen him I thought he was gorgeous and he asked me out I said no because he said something mean to my friend but then after that he spent everyday for 2months trying to change my mind about him and he did! We were so happy. But his friends didn't like me they never even met me but they didn't like me? When he found this out and when the told him bullshit rumours he dumped me without even telling me! Literally one week he was head over heels in love with me and the next hated me! He wouldn't speak to me nothing. It took me a 6months to figure out why he done what he done! He still loved me for months after that but now he doesn't and it just hurts that he was so small minded and let his friends decide! There not friends if they make you leave the person you love! People can say he didn't love me but he did his friends even told me that and now are all very apologetic to me over it! And he hasn't spoke to me in 2years even when I see him and say hi he blanks me out and won't look at me. At partys he won't look at me he trys to avoid me. I just wrote this to show how guys can be such idiots! And to answer your question just tell this guy if he says your over he has to mean it and not cuddle you or anything as that's giving you false hope xx<3 xx
First off, don't let him cuddle with you or hold your hand. If he wants it to be over make it over. Be harsh! Don't let him walk all over you. It might make him rethink things or it might push him away. But either way it plays out you end up being the empowered one.
But I miss him so much as it is. And if the only physical contact I can get from his is a hug then so be it. I know I'm silly and I know he will probably end up using me. But I just need him in my life. So much shit has happened this past week. My best mate died, my parents want me to move out and now me and him have broken up. Its well hard. I thought he would never leave me after everything we have already been through together. - 5 months ago
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I know its hard, I just don't want to see another person walked on because of their feelings. Stand up for yourself. - 5 months ago
I agree with you, sugar - draw the line. Your still acting like his girl friend and he's not your boyfriend - take a stand and tell him it NOT OK - 5 months ago
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What is your favorite outfit for a night out with friends?
Dark blue jeans (bootcut) with a pair of black stiletto's or high-heeled mary janes, black lacy top with a plunge v neck that shows a BIT of cleavage but not toooo much
How do you style your hair and do your make-up?
Have my hair down and loosely curly with a bit of volume. Make-up is natural skin with a bit of blusher to highlight cheek bones, plenty of eyeliner and mascara and natural lips.
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