She breaks up with me a lot, why does she do this?

c'mon it's not mental when a girl does this. it's honest. she's reflecting what are her deal breakers and apparently you've been meeting a bunch of them in a short span of time. however there is that thing you both feel for each other and you both know it so both of you let the relationship lapse back.

so yes the proper thing is to find out if she is just crazy (and sometimes girls will say she is just as an easy answer but don't buy it) and best find out what her deal breakers; then finally see if there are some compromises to be made with them between you two.

Yep, girls will do that just to see what the guy does. to make sure he really wants her back, and to fight for her. it really comes down to her being insecure tho. at some point you just have to let her go for once, and wait and see if she comes back. if you've told her how much you care about her, and she knows you're willing to get through anything just to be with her, then the ball is in her court this time, and she should realize what she is losing. of course, there comes a point when enough is enough, and you should let her go. don't let her play games with you. that's my opinion! :)

I use to do this A LOT, I find it very stupid now, but I did it at the time because I felt like my boyfriend didn't want me and I wanted him to prove to me that he really wanted me, he'd so something like tickle another girl or jump on another guys back and hold onto him-so I'd say "we're over" and he would argue with me that it wasn't, but I tend to get jealous over stupid things, so maybe she's jealous or confused or something, so if you want her-then prove to her how much she means to you and then talk things over on how she can't say it's over every time she gets mad at you-and tell her to instead tell you directly what's bothering her and that you'd work on fixing it-if possible. Good luck

I think that she does that because she's insecure. It could be her own way of dealing with being upset. She could come back, she might not come back, but don't always get back with her if you know that she might break up again. That's just playing with your emotions. There's better, stable, girls out there that could be waiting for a chance at you.

Hi. If she does this just get over her and move on! Obviously she is wants you to be the perfect man that you aren't. I mean no one is perfect. So just move on!

Maybe she is just insecure about her self and past relationship that she had sex with. Maybe she feels like she can't trust you . People make mistakes and maybe at the time she thought it was the best way to handle herself. What you need to do is figure out how this makes you feel and h ow much are you gonna take. People change and if you really talk to her then maybe she will. But if she doesn't and yes even if you care and it is hard then you might have to leave her alone. She is acting like a child but who really knows what is going on with her.; People lie about how they feel it is human nature.

Listen to sexwiseman... I won't go as far as saying she is mentally unstable but she clearly has issues she needs to resolve. To me it sounds like she is a) trying to exert control over your relationship - breaks up whenever you do something wrong, b) she is using you as an excuse for her weaknesses - its your fault you tried to have sex with her.

Unless she is willing to address her issues, and accept that she /has/ issues, I wouldn't put that much effort in reconciling. Remember, as messed up as it may sound, every time you accept responsibility for something you are not at fault at is when you give away a little of your self esteem to her... Eventually there will be nothing left of you and you won't even recognize yourself or even worse, you'll hate the person you've become.

And, yes, it is a stupid reason to break up... Oh my god, a guy tried to have sex with his girlfriend... call America's Most Wanted. :) If you think she is a great girl, sit down with her, lay it out all on the table but we ready to also walk away... Girls like her can and will drain you of everything you've got unless they see and accept responsibility for their own issues.

In simple terms, this girl is mentally unstable. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't even be talking to her now.

I used to be like you back when I was in my early 20's; when a girl broke up with me, I would try to reason with her, make it up to her, or do what it took to try to make the relationship work out.

However, after a while, I got sick of all the begging, and as soon as girls disrespected me (like your girlfriend is doing now), I simply told them, see ya, don't wanna be ya. Funny thing is that once I started doing that, it was the girls coming back to me and asking for forgiveness. Not saying that is going to work with you, but my advice to you is that if the girl did something which indeed deserved that type of behavior towards you, then sure, try to reason with her.

But if you HAVEN'T DONE anything wrong, and she is breaking up with you constantly for no logical reason, then time to pack your bags and move on. Otherwise you're basically showing that you have no respect for yourself, you have no backbone, and you're weak minded---which is damn sad at your age.

What's the value?