My ex of 3 1/2 years and I broke up 6 months ago. He began seeing a girl 4 years older (he's 24 - she's 28) about 4 months ago. I realized I made a huge mistake. He won't really talk to me when I try to be friendly. He isn't the kind to talk to me while he is still seeing her, but he stares at me whenever we are in the same room. What do I do to get him away from her & back to me?
You can't force him to dump her. Kill him with kindness and make him miss the old you. Before the arguments and the breakup. He won't talk to you now in the honeymoon stage because he is happy. Wait until that period is over. If it doesn't end then you know he wasnt the one. Try being funny and friendly and carefree when you are around him. Make him miss you.
I think you need to let go. Any guy, would talk to their ex-girl whether they left on bad terms or not. Unless he's a real jerk - but if you want him back I'll assume he's not a jerk.
Why not try to be happy for him and work on the friendship again? Then over time, should his current relationship not work and you are still wanting him back, you both can start again.
My ex is a very religious high standards person - which is why he doesn't make extra conversation with me. Just friendly "how you doing talk" - but this new girl has a very sordid past & was/is quite a drinker. I don't know if she is still doing this - but my ex no longer holds up those same standards around her. It really bothers me because this is what we fought about. I would want to go to a party & he wouldn't go because there might be alcohol & now they frequent the bars. Any advice? - 8 months ago
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So he's changed his standards with a new girl, but may be the same if he went back to you. He might not want to go to a party, can you live with that? Do you want him back, because he's different - and that's what you've always wanted with him?
My advice? I would just be yourself, and let him work out his own girl issues. Go have fun and live up life, if he wants you back, he'll see you for you. Do not talk to him about his girl btw, stay away from that altogether - you'll only push him away. - 8 months ago
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