Will my ex boyfriend come to my life? Or should I just move on?

I'm just trying to read this story of your's right and understand it.
- You were stressed and being all stressed out you got upset at him and broke it off.
So far this is your fault not his. You over reacted.
- Why woudlnt he take being dumped seriously? He thought things were perfect as well.
- He is speeking badly about you = Its natural when you are in love with someone and they
dump you that you will be hurt and maybe bad talk the other.
- He started dating another girl a week later, could be rebound from the hurt.
- You are losing weight and crying from the stress of the break up, but your not calling him or
texting him = why? are you expecting him to apologize?

Ok all I see here an please don't take this offensively is two people who have not matured enough to deal with a serioius relationship.
You can't control your stress and take it out on him. Then you expect him to not take it seriously and call you to get back together ?
He either wasn't that into you or was severely hurt that he found a new girl in a week.

He wants to be freinds with you (a mature thing) but is rehashing the past because he misses what you had. By now however if he is in a new relationship either he is sad you broke up but is moving on or did get into a new relationship on a rebound but regrets it because he wants to get back with you but can't.

The only thing I can say is = if you are sorry tell him it was your fault. = if your not than move on and let him enjoy his new girlfreind. If you want him back - tell him and be prepaired for the answer. If you don't MOVE ON. Being freinds after a relationship seldom works unless it was a mutal agreement things weren't working and the two parties were mature enough to handle thier fears, emotionss, jealousies etc.
From what you tell me, you two aren't there yet. For now you might want to start off by remainnig civil with you ex. and see where it goes from there.

Oh and if you think that maturity hits the day you turn 18 ? Think again. I have freinds in their 40s who still need to grow up as far as relationships. Its hardest when you have never had any because you learn something from each one.

Good luck and don't take what I said the wrong way. I'm just blunt.

Your situation is easily retrievable. He loves you as much as you do him.

However, first a couple of things that were wrong in your relationship:

1. I think you both need to trust each other more and be emotionally close. When you are having a tough time in your life, you should be able to confide in your boyfriend and get emotional support from him. Instead you were maintaining a facade with him and when it became too much it all fell apart.

2. You must learn to handle stressful situations better. It was not necessary to break up with him just because of stress. If supporting each other during times of stress is at the highest level of closeness and not sharing any feelings with each other is at the lowest level, you guys were probably in the middle.

You have hurt him badly and made him feel that you don't love him. Go and apologize to him. Tell him how horrible you feel for lashing out at him like that. (Dont spoil the apology with any excuses.) Tell him that you love him very much and can not live without him.

While doing this, don't be over emotional nor casual. It has to be just right. Don't wait too long.

He will come back to you.

You broke up with him, so if you made a mistake, you have to try to fix it. It is not his job to win you back, but your job to try to win him.

That being said, ask yourself why you broke up with him and if maybe you had a valid reason. Being close to his family is not reason enough to "make things work". This is the time in your life to KNOW you are with the right person or not get serious until you are.

Good Luck,
James

Give him a chance, you broke up with him and he panicked, it's really really common, that's a normal reaction to have when a break-up comes out of nowhere and catches you off guard. He probably got with another girl just because it was painful to sit there thinking about you or he even wanted to make you jealous and realize what you were missing on, anyway I don't know but the thing is he's been great for two years, are you really gonna decide to move on just because you broke up with him and he panicked? And the best thing is he realizes he acted in a mean way and apologizes to you. I think you should tell him that you're sorry, tell him that you were under stress and that's why you broke up but you still love him. I mean talk to him about your feelings and ask him to do the same, I seriously would be sorry if you guys ended your story really just because of a misunderstanding. You need to give him a chance and that means be honest with him, tell him how you feel and let him do the same.

Moving on does not necessarily mean going out and getting a new boyfriend. Or even looking for one. He hasn't moved on even if he is seeing some new girl. Moving on means really taking care of and getting to know yourself. Reflecting on the relationship and what things you need to work on personally to be healthier in a relationship, whether it is with him or someone else down the line. Find ways to deal with daily life stresses, coping skills. It does sound like he panicked. He isn't connected to this new girl, she is just a time filler. Don't waste your time with a time filler guy, take care of yourself, build better bonds with your family members and girlfriends. These are the people that will help you through life when you do have stresses to deal with so that you don't explode on your boyfriend or husband.

Well you know he loves you...so talk to him...have a loong talk with him about how you feel and see where his head is at...see what's going on in his mind and if he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you then jus move on. I wish you the best!

Since you broke up with him, you are the one who has to lose your pride and be the one to mend the relationship. He is waiting for you to come back. He is probably using the girl to get you jealous to make you feel you missed out, especially when he is bringing up old good memories. So talk it out with him that you messed up and want another chance. If he doesn't, it's up to you if you want to be just friends. I'm currently not speaking to my ex who broke my heart because he will say I miss you, love you but never say he wants me back. I cannot deal with someone who says words but never goes about that he wants to be together. And I know this guy still loves you. He is confused whether you love him still and waiting for you to come back. I know I was for months! Love just doesn't stop immediately unless the relationship was boring and he stopped loving you.