About a week ago I finally decided to go ahead with my no contact plan and blocked my ex on msn. I haven't heard from him so I'm beginning to assume he wasn't serious about remaining friends, despite the fact that he contacted me almost everyday up until the time I blocked him. I did it because he has a girlfriend, and like it or not, I have to move on.
Anyway, a girl he knows started talking to me just after the breakup and has frequently contacted me to talk about him. Everytime I speak to her she tells me he's a jerk and I'm better off and that I should never speak to him again...but then goes on to say that she's in love with him and he's perfect for her and that he's the most wonderful guy on earth. I think all these things, having spent a year and three months in a loving relationship with him. She has never been his girlfriend, turned him down on many occasions, but has 'suddenly realised' she's in love with him now that he has yet another girl. He has been interested in at least ten girls since he left me six months ago.
Tonight, after not speaking to me for several weeks, she suddenly asked if I was still talking to my ex. I found it a bit strange that she would ask, considering I had told her several times I had no intention of blocking him. My ex was also online at the time. Eventually I admitted I had gone ahead with no contact, but told her I didn't want my ex to know because he really doesn't need to. I asked her why she wanted to know a few times, but she ignored me and two minutes later both she and my ex signed out. She came back a while later and I asked if she had told him...she denied it. I find that I don't believe her though, as she has lied to me on countless occasions regarding my ex. He hasn't been online since, which is odd as he is online every night without fail.
Do you think she told him? I don't even know why I don't want him to know. But why would she do that? And also, could it be that my ex asked about me? After all, I spend several hours a day online and he knows it, so he will definitely have noticed my absence this last week. I realize this sounds a little childish, but I just want opinions.
By the sounds of it, I'm pretty sure the girl told him, I think she just did it to get closer to the guy and try to gain his trust not to be at all mean to you. I believe also that your ex would have asked about you if you spent over a year with him. I think that he may have noticed you being offline before he got (if he was told) and that the girl just made things more clear for him. But this shouldn't affect you anymore it seems like your still attached to this guy so its a good idea you cut off your relationship with this girl as it just becomes another link between you and your ex
But how will unblocking him help me get over him? - 2 months ago
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Unblocking him will remove HER from the equation. You did not ask how to get over him :-). To get over him, keep him blocked and stop talking to other people about him. AND find a transition relationship to focus on, but keep it fun, not too serious. - 2 months ago
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Actually I don't care if she's around or not. And since I posted this I've had nothing to do with him or her. But I see your point. Carrying on with no contact is my best option. - 2 months ago
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That sounds like the smart thing to do. One day you will look back on this and realize you might have dodged a bullet. Good Luck - 2 months ago
Yeah I think she just used you and told him that you blocked him. Which in return will make her look good in front of his eyes. You said she lied to you many occasions so why are you still with a friend like that. Maybe you should block her ha!
She definitely told him. I've been in the same situation. She did that because she likes him and will do anything to get his attention. She's very jealous of you, obviously.
She probably told him, and in return he blocked you. Although, its hard to tell if he asked because she might have mentioned that she was talking to you while talking to him.
In my experience with no contact, your better off just staying offline completely. Then you avoid situations like this and can't see if your ex is online or not which may cause you to obsess about who they are talking to or wonder where they are when they are not online.
Well he can't have blocked me, as he is online right now. And as for staying offline completely, I use the internet to keep in touch with friends and arrange meetings and such. So that's out. But I find that although I still check to see if my ex is online, I don't always feel tempted to unblock him anymore and I tend to relax and forget about him when he's offline instead of obsessively wondering where he is. - 3 months ago
Answerer
Ok, well if you feel bad about him knowing you blocked him just let him know you wanted some space to finally move on. He should understand so there won't be any hard feelings about it. - 3 months ago
She is definitely only talking to you to take advantage of whatever you can tell her. It is clear by the fact she has lied many other times and that she only started talking to you after the break up, and the fact that she is interested in the boy. Like said before she is trying to look good in his eyes and is using you to do it. So definitely just stay away from her you don't need drama like that in your life.
She sounds like am opportunist and I would bet she told him. She was fishing for info on him because she might have her sights on him should he become available. Who better to ask then you! She is obviously trying to get on his good side so if she should back stab someone in the process, she can live with it. Moreover, she has nothing to lose in her mind if she accidently let it "slip" to your ex.
Concerning your ex, he will get over it. I agree with you, it's over now so it's time for a fresh start for you. I do not think that you owe him any explanations for the decisions you make. You do what is best and healthy for you.
I would just recommend that you consider who you can truly trust and who you can't. This will ensure you don't get hurt in the long run.
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