Girlfriend broke up but insists on talking.

I agree with you. You can't just flip a switch and be friends, but sometimes we just need that talk. We need to understand what happened, so that it won't happen again. So that we can glean something from it, and have that closure we need.

I'd say you have that talk, and also establish the fact that you don't want to talk to her anymore, and you can't be friends right now. It's what you need, and that's perfectly legit.

I agree with the girl below me!
She doesn`t want to be with you, but she doesn`t want to lose you. I know it is pretty selfish.
She wants to talk so she can clarify things, and feelings, so you don`t end up hating her.
In her mind she thinks this talk is for both of you, but in reality, it is all for her.
The next time she asks you to meet her to talk, just tell her there is no need to, and to leave you alone so you can move on.
Thats entirely right.

She doesn`t want to be with you, but she doesn`t want to lose you. I know it is pretty selfish.
She wants to talk so she can clarify things, and feelings, so you don`t end up hating her.
In her mind she thinks this talk is for both of you, but in reality, it is all for her.
The next time she asks you to meet her to talk, just tell her there is no need to, and to leave you alone so you can move on.

hmm well maybe it's her and SHE needs closure. Some people just need that. What harm will it do you to talk to her anyway?
she's either just going to bable and it may or may not amke sense to you.
or
shes going to ask to get back together, in that case you can simply say no.

they want to get back together

she wants to make sure your ok and make sure to tell you why and just maybe she was gonna want to get back to gether

Sounds like she wants to be friends.

Either that or she's not over the break up.

Making amends with an ex, i.e being friends opens the door to being able to get back in. Though...

It just sounds like she wants to maintain a friendly relationship (as friends) with you. If you have a problem with it then you should tell her that you don't want to be friends.

These types of situations can make for a tricky mess, and I think you are doing your best to really handle it in the best way for YOURSELF.

Sometimes relationships end because people have lost their individuality in the entire scope of things. When this happens, either the dumpee or the dumped can find themselves completely lost and trying to stay as connected as possible with their former partner.

I'm not saying that is the case here with your ex-girlfriend. The motive in her wanting to talk to you is unknown to all of us, including you. The important thing to remember here is that this relationship started out of two individuals meeting each other, and it will end just the same with two individual people leading their individual lives.

Do a search on google for "dealing with break ups". You'll find a plethora of information, some offering you a "proven method" to get your girlfriend back, others offering a "proven method" to get your own life back. The common denominator between all of these guides, even the ones that seem to contain less BS than "proven methods", is that they call for a period of "no-contact".

You need to she-tox my friend, and you need to take your life back. If maintaining a friendship hurts, then don't do it. The only way you two should be friends is if it isn't hurting either one of you. Hard as it may be, you may need to really cut off communication. Spend some time for yourself, alone, or with friends away from her.

You say she hasn't tried to contact you. This is good, don't look back and don't question why. Look forward, and only look forward in a present manner - day by day. Where your path takes you is unknown, and should it find itself at a place where you two talk without hurt feelings is also unknown.

I dunno. I'd like to shake the hand of the guy that figures the female species out. Then I think a statue should be raised of him and he should be hailed as a God.. hahaha.

Seriously though, I'm like you, split up and disappear.. if I have romantic feelings for someone I don't wanna just be a friend. What really bugs me is when they break up with you then keep telling you they miss you... wtf.

i think is because she doesn't want you to move on . and want to keep you hanging until she makes her mind of what she want. I also think that she doesn't want to lose you for good. my advise to is ... don't talk to her for awhile . stay away from her for about 3 to 4 weeks. she will crawl back to you. good luck