Feel so down?

Your relationship must have broken up because you both grew apart. You must have seen signs of it deteriorating but ignored these signs. Given more time, may be YOU would have wanted to end it. (I know, because I have experienced this.)

You got into this unhappy state when you based your happiness on another person's behavior towards you. Whether to be happy or not is your personal choice.

If you let another person affect your self worth and happiness, then when he is no longer there, obviously, you would feel as if you are leading a worhtless life. You should be especially careful in a romantic relationship, which is so fragile and short these days. So, it is important that you develop some interest which you can be passionate about (other than love interest, that is). If you base your happiness on some higher thing, like God, helping others etc. you will be always happy.

Also, you feel that he is happy with another woman, and that makes you think that you are less than her and that is affecting your self esteem. You may be even feeling rejected. But, remember this:

1. He may not be as happy as he seems outside. Even if he is truly happy, it may not last for ever. His history says it.
2. His being happy with another woman (even if it were true) does not say anything about you. If you had never known him, and saw him with this girl, would it mean anything?

If possible, go away for some time. May be a holiday. Start meeting more people. Time will heal everything.

Don't say that. Time will heal all wounds so eventually it will get better. Break-ups suck they always do. But one day you will meet a very special man that will make you very happy. I wish you the best of luck. Don't feel so down it's not the end of the world. :)

Hello, I am going through a pretty similar situation here...i was with him for 9 years and broke up for 6 months...i have to see him with his new fling everyday because all three of us work at the same place...if you do have any hopes of him coming back please whatever you do, do not act psycho like I have...it will only push him away...i don't really have any good advice on how to deal with this situation because I can't seem to get my own head in the right place...let me share a quote with you though.."do what you do and get what you get-change what you do and change what you get"...this is so very true...if you continue to do the things you are doing over this relationship then you are going to get same results...if you change the way you handle this break up then maybe the results will change as well...i just wish I could follow this advice myself...anyway, I know what you are going through and everyone keeps saying time heals, give it time, time this and time that...i hate time..lol...but everyone can't be wrong...time will get us both through this...it's like we are both in the middle of the ocean trying to cling on to the life raft (which is our ex) but we have to remember we will eventually hit dry land and not need that life raft anymore...be patient and try to stay positive...