My parents are getting a divorce. My mom is the one who wants it and I understand that he did stuff that hurt my mom's heart. (like Tyler) And I love my dad. He is so cool! We do so much together. So do me and my mom. They're fighting over custody of me. I have to chosen, I want to live with my mom but I don't know how to tell my dad that.
I'm sorry about your parents. I've been there and lived through that. When I was 11 my parents split cause my mom cheated on my dad. Things got even worse after the divorce and they both got remarried. Custody wasn't an issue though, my dad had a good job and mom didn't. She couldn't afford to keep me and my brother, so she let my father take us. Things got bad between me and her a few years later. Then or reason hard to explain, I stopped talking to her. That lasted 11 years. I know that this is going to be hard for you if they don't patch things up, but I want you to remember not to let hate get deep into your soul. As for telling your dad, no matter what you say, it's going to hurt. Just be honest with him and let him know that you love him. Let him know that it's not an easy choice for you and that it hurt to have to make it. I'm sure there will be visitation rights as well, so it's not like you'll never see him again. Let me see....what's your age. *looks* Ok, 17. So you would be out of the house in the next 2 or 3 years most likely. I know it's a small point, but you'll be out on your own before too long and at that point custody won't be an issue. I was young, so I had to deal with years of arguing and fighting about custody and visitation. I hope this helps.
I would just tell your dad and mom how you feel and if you really want to live with your mom then just tell your dad that you want to live with your her and he will understand.
Just be straight up with your dad. You love him but, you feel more comfortable where you are and don't want to move. Tell him that you would rather spend the weekeneds with him. He won't take it as personal as you think. Yes he wants you to live with him but, your happiness is what matters most and they both want what you think will be best for you.
Alwayshis721
(Age:18 to 24)
When: More than a year ago
Just be like dad I love you a lot but I think I should stay with mom and I'll come see you everyday. Daughters are always better with their mom. They can relate to more stuff, help you out with any problems. You know, you can't talk to your dad about sexual stuff. Only your mom.
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