I was with my boyfriend for 3 years and a few days ago he ended it with me we had talked about kids and he said that he could not tell me if he wanted them so I ended it with him saying that I really want them (I'm 26 he's 34) he then said that he did want them and we got back together he has now text me saying that he doesn't want any and has ended things with me I just don't get why he has done this I'm really hurt and he won't talk to me I just would like some help please!
Well if he doesn't want kids and you really do, then it's best not to be together anyway. Because the issue will come up again, and neither one of you are going to change your mind. You will begin to resent him for not wanting kids, and it will build inside you and make you a bitter person. Obviously you don't have to talk about kids on a first date, but that is one of those things, like other serious issues that are important to us, that need to be talked about, before we get serious with someone, because it will come up eventually.
To me it sounds like he loves you and wants to be with you but he is scared to get trapped into anything he really doesn't want. Especially since it is something that will affect the rest of his life. Try just talking and "laying everything on the table"
because he probably doesn't want any kids . having kids can be kind of rough and it probably would change your whole life. so you probably should just wait until the right time
I mean its a huge issue but you really can't get married until that issue is settled. Maybe he does not see you changing your mind and he is set on the no kids thing. I would not end a relationship with someone I loved over the issue. Because, you want to have kids with the one that you love and if you don't have them to share them with then whats the point? Give him a couple of days and then call him. If you want kids that badly, maybe he isn't the one.