Why did he break up with me?

Just a couple of comments from reading your story.

First, it appears the breaking up was coming but perhaps he should have been a little more straight-forward with you rather than just stop seeing you. But guys (and girls) handle it in whatever way is easiest.

The other has to do with your comment about money/progression. My ex and I split over this one after 14 years of marriage. She was quite content to stay in a good but going no-where position while I bettered myself through further education and improved our situation. Basically, I began to resent what I viewed as her laziness not to improve along with me. Eventually, we grew apart because our goals as a couple differed.

My son, now 22, is in a similar situation with his girlfriend of 4 years. She does not have her high school diploma yet while he is holding a technical position and continuing to improve his qualifications. I'm proud to say that he told her to smarten up because he refuses to carry the future financial burden of their relationship. She is now working and back in school.

If you're looking to be taken care of, then you had better find someone who wants to do that. For the majority of us, the financial burden of a relationship must be carried by two. It exists, but there's no fun in struggling along financially. It appears your ex foresaw that happening in a future with you together. If you want to change that, then change yourself. It would be good for both of you. Whether you're together or not.

He is a coward for not telling you his reasons after 2 years and you are not the one with the problem. He is a jerk for not telling you in person or at all for that matter. Continue with your strength and do not contact him. Unfortunately you may never know the true reason. Just be glad you did not marry him and have kids with this guy.