My guy and I had been going out for almost 14 months. We had really great times together, but every once in awhile we'd bicker about something, but the bickering would never last very long. He doesn't have a car and he has very strict parents and it's our senior year in high school so we would only really get to hang out outside of school once or twice a week.
One night he called and asked me what I thought of our relationship. I said I thought it was fine because I did. He starts talking about how he thinks our lives are going in different paths, he doesn't want me to have to wait 7 months (he's in the military and is going to basic training for 7 months), and that something is missing. I have NO IDEA where this came from. Everything was fine when we left each other, we told each other we loved them, hugged, kissed, and then all of a sudden I get this phone call.
Was I too in love to see the signs or what!? HELP!
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(Age:18 to 24)
When: 8 months ago
I know kinda know how you feel. My older brother is in the army and is going to be deployed to the Middle East again soon. He just involved in a relationship and things are going good for him but now they are thinking about getting married before he goes. Guys take drastic action when they feel they will be pulled apart from someone they love. Think about if you would wait for your guy while he's in basic training. If you won't then I think you're better off without him and he'll be able to focus on his career for a while.
It sounds like he feels like he can't be there for you as much as he wants to be. Therefore, in his mind, ending the relationship would be the best thing for the both of you.
My advice would be talk to him and ask him why all the sudden he feels breaking the relationship off is a good idea. Ask him if he's concerned about the limited time you two will have together once he leaves. But, you have to take into consideration what he's doing. After BCT he will most likely be deployed for long periods of time. Is this the kind of relationship you want? Or do you mind not seeing him for months at a time? It's something you need to think about and something you should talk about before ending everything :) Good Luck!
(Age:Under 18)
When: 8 months ago
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