How can I get over him?

I am a 39 yr old and like to advice you. There are plenty other guys out there who will respect you, never fall to deep with your blokes as sometimes they could be just a sleeze and have other females hanging on to them.....

Simple. You need to find someone else who appreciates you.

Things like that take time. you'll just have to let the love you had fade away or you could also try new things. Try being with someone else, because other people can help you get over him too.