URGENT!! Lost the love of my life and have no idea what to do!!

you've tried everything to get him to talk to you, but nothing is working. so try the thing that you haven't tried--STOP CONTACTING HIM! seriously, it seems like he needs time to think so you need to stop sending him fb messages, text message, phone calls, etc. and just let him be! it may take a week, it may take a day, it may take a month but I gaurantee you'll hear from him. but its time to back off because you've tried everything. think of it this way--the MORE you try to contact him means the LONGER it will take him to talk to you.

good luck, and definitely keep us updated!

#1: NEVER ask your guy to participate in a Carmen Elektra workout. Unless you bought the lapdance series, and well... SOMEONE has to sit in the chair, ...ehh.. nevermind. If you want an exercise both of you can do, try .. (gulp) yoga.

#2: You're 19.. he's 22. the fact it lasted for 3 years puts you in the lucky 6%. Actually I just made that number up but seriously, the chances of a high school sweetheart making it that long are pre--tty slim. Lots of things are happening.. possibly college, new jobs, the both of you are experiencing many different things right now... perhaps more can change than in the next ten years. and this will bring many forks to any relationship, whether you or him wants to focus on your job or school, or flat out one of you will meet someone else, or want to break it off to go and meet new people.

"goodbye, marla" ---This is one or two things.. He's testing your flame. he wants to be pursued all over again. he wants to see that you will fight to get him back

OR, Goodbye means goodbye, and that is the end.

i find that in 99.9999% of situations the bible always has the best inspiration. forget about him and move on.

John 16:33 "In this world ye shall have tribulation, but be of good cheer, for I have overcome the world."

I think the best advice is like itzzxhypnotik said and stop contacting him. You did your part now it's up to him to do his or show that he really doesn't want to be with you anymore.

I hate saying it because I know how much this hurts. I'm going through the same thing. It's good advice though. A relationship has to go both ways and there's no sense in trying to get someone back who isn't going to accept and try to work on it too.

What you should do is realize that half the world is male, so when you lose one you can easily find another. In your case, if what you said is true, you need to be finding a bunch of others. For some strange reason during the years you are supposed to be meeting and learning about all kinds of different males, you have been spending all your time with just one. Relationships are for the years from your mid 20s on. The teen years are for learning about men and sex, what gets you off and what doesn't. Consider yourself lucky you got out from under this situation and get out there and get busy learning what you have been missing. :) Good luck.

First, there's a lot of maturing that you have to do before you're able to be in an adult relationship with another human being. In your post you blame external factors for your attitude which is quite telling. The thing you need to do right now is learn that you and you alone control your anger, your attitude and outlook on life. Blaming money, parents, work or living situation for your attitude toward your partner or any other person in your life is complete garbage and you know it. This is why you bring it up and why you make excuses for it. You realize that your inability to act like an adult in the situation makes you look weak, petty, childish and ultimately, like a fool.

You're correct that it does make you appear to be all of these things. As does the fact that you logged into his Facebook profile to stalk him.

You do not need to be in a relationship with anyone because you're obviously having issues dealing with yourself. This is normal, you're young and you still don't consider others and how you are affecting them.

Grow up and once you do, maybe then you'll be able to have a normal, non-dramatic relationship with someone that you won't abuse.

you HAVE to back off...let him see your moving on and he may come back. The more you pester him the more you lose your chances of getting him back.

I agree with almost all the response you recieved. I'm 7months pregnant by my first love and he broke up with me for his ex. But I'm not letting that bother me you know why because he loved me enough to have a child with me so I know he will be back. He's young and you are young and you both still have a lot of things you need to learn just like my ex. But contacting him so much is not going to do anything but push him further away. Trust me I know because I was doing the same thing I want be with him so bad not just for me but for the child we are about to have. But it only causes me and him to arugue because we haven't given each other enough time from one another and we have been broken up for 4 months and the reason I think it's taking him so long to come around is because for the who 4months I have done nothing but call,text, write go to his house crying and it's not getting me any where so I found out that I have to back off and let him do him and in the mean while think about the future with him and our baby and change a lot of things within my self cause I know hell be back we have a family now. And you are going to have to do the same sweety. So don't call please it will only make things worst trust me.

I have been in this situation before... and let me tell you from past experience... I am same as you... get agitated very easily and fly off the handle easily... the more that you contact him... the more angry you will make him... I have learned that... you guys have been together for 2 years... that is first... HE LOVES YOU... THAT IS SECOND... third... HE LOVES YOU... now, with all that in mind... GIVE HIM SPACE... TIME TO COOL OFF... no begging... men HATE THAT... it is a turn off to them... makes you weak... and makes you look desperate... you do NOT want that... second... you need to be STRONG... AND TRUST IN YOUR LOVE/RELATIONSHIP... use the NO CONTACT RULE... do NOT CONTACT HIM... HE WILL BE BACK... TRUST ME AND TRUST IN THAT... it seems like you have lost him... BUT YOU DIDNT... everyone argues... everyone has fights and differences... and it takes much much more than that to end a relationship! And there is a saying 'time heals all wounds' as well as 'absence makes the heart grow fonder'... now with those in mind... he will miss you... he will see you are gone and want you more... come back to you... and the anger... will go away... with you constantly contacting him... you are reminding him of the anger... which you don't want... let him forget it... allow him to cool off... and with you not contacting him... your allowing him to see what he had and don't have nemore... the woman he loves! IF he didn't love you... he wouldn't have been with you 2 years! You know... there are plenty of fish in the sea... he could have went and fished! But instead he stood by you...sooooo he will be back... and last... trust in him and his love for you... in the meantime... keep busy... and focus... focus on you... try to find something to occupy yourself and also use as a coping mechanism... music... reading... etc... that too will help you to release your tension and anxiety so that when he comes back... you won't have this tension and there won't be any outbursts that aren't needed... get me? Utilize this time instead of worrying if he will return... cus he will return... just learn to cope so that this doesn't reoccur... so for now... follow the no contact rule until he returns and find coping mechanisms to release the anxiety/tensions... and things he will be back... and when he does... he will be extremely impressed with your improvements! I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST... GOOD LUCK...

I had a similar situation happen, thought I lost the love of my life. We eventually got back together and after being with him for another whole year I realized, "maybe we arnt that compatibale after all" you guys dated at a crucial time during your lives..ppl grow apart and people change due to maturity and you don't realize it right away..right now your focused on losing something you've had so close in your life for the past few years..but what's important is to focus on yourself..he without a doubt is going to contact you again, but in the mean time don't reach out..either you guys will get back together and make it..or the tables are going to turn and your going to see how incompatible you two really are and decide to end it a few months down the line or even a year...in the end he's going to want you back, trust me..the best thing to do is let it be for now and don't contact him, in a few years your going to look back and chuckle about how crazy you got over this, don't worry it will all be ok : )

i'm really sorry I know it's hard but you can't keeping trying to get a hold of him you have called and text him so he knows you want to talk, but he's not ready to talk to you yet. forcing yourself on him is just going to make him resent you more you have to give him space hw will most likely give you a call back when he is ready but he needs time to think with out hearing from you everyday stop texting and calling him let him wonder what your doing or if your thinking about him and he will eventually feel like he has to call you I know it will be hard but if you don't leae him alone he knows your thinking about him he knows your upset don't tell him that make him think about it.. it shouldn't take to long just be strong... oh and to keep your mind off him work out it will relieve frustration and make you look so damn good he won't be able to stay away

Girl. All you did are pushing him away. Stop contacting him right now. If you really want to get your ex back then come to these link: link
You will get lots of help there and people will tell you how to get him back step by step. I just break up with my ex and I am following the coaching at moment. Just try it.

I just realized that I submitted that as anonymous so you couldn't message me. So now I'm not, so you can if you want

First of all. I don't agree with ohioguy. I think I may be wrong but it may be partially because of what he said, but things like this don't happen coming from just one side of the relationship. Put it this way. My boyfriend has problems with anxiety. It has nothing to do with the kind of person he is, it's just something in his brain. It's caused some pretty tough times in our relationship, believe me. He worries about not being good enough at things, although he has no reason whatsoever to. for example, school. He has been doing cyber school for the past 2 years because he couldn't make himself get up in the morning and go to public school. It has nothing to do with the person, it is just something unfortunate that one has to deal with. If this guy loves you like I'm sure he does, he needs to realize that this is something that you have a hard time controlling. Now, that's not to say that you don't need to try, because you know you need to work at it, but that's not to say that you can't have a relationship at the same time. What I think you should do, is give him a week to calm down, think things over, and so forth. In a week call him and leave a voicemail saying that if you don't talk about things, they will eventually blow up like they did that day. Also say that you don't want that and you want to communicate with him. I'm sure you'll hear from him after that. But in the meantime, just try to focus on making the things that you stress about better, that way he knows how hard you are trying to fix it. Please let me know how things go. If you wanna talk, message me and I'll give you my email. :)

Most definitely stop texting, calling or messaging him. Saying things like lets be adults about this just sounds like an insult. He doesn't know if it is over for ever yet either. He needs to get out from under the arguing and the crying and get some peace. All you are doing by contacting him is reminding him of arguing and confrontation. Start today making some changes in you, for whatever reason you don't cope with frustration well in general. Start there. Go for a run every day to clear your head and burn off work frustration and everything else. I'm going to change means nothing, make changes.

it is hard to get over your first love, but you will eventually. I had my first love break up with me on our anniversary and I was devastated. but eventually I got over it and now I see that it was for the best!

Yeah, it may hurt and be hard but the best thing to do is let him be. The more you contact him the more he will run away. Once you have stopped contacting him and give him space, then he will probably contact you in return.