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Getting over a lost love - he cheated but I still love him.

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salsacats3 (Age:30 to 35)     When: More than a year ago
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I was dating this wonderful man, or so I thought. He took me out to do things all the time, we had great sex and he treated me great. He told me he loved me and that he could see a future with me, I felt the same way. Then one day out of nowhere he ends our relationship and says he still wants to be friends. We would go to movies, have lunch together and have sex every once in awhile. One day I found out that he had been cheating on me before he broke up with me and is still seeing and living with this girl now. He had lead me to believe the whole time that we had a chance of being together again. It seems to me that he is a player and was using me to pay for $1400 worth of repairs on his vehicle and fill his tank once a week and help him in other ways financially. My question is how can I get over him? I still love him very much and would take him back in a heartbeat even though in know I shouldn't. How do I make the pain and love end?


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kingbrother
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kingbrother      When: 29 days ago
Keep your distance from him and end your friendship. He used you and he will use you again.
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Scrimz21
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Scrimz21      When: 11 months ago
dont worry my girl cheated on me. I still loved her but didn't show it and she came back to me!
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ihavenoclue      When: More than a year ago
Can't jump to conclusions without knowing the whole story, but this guy sounds like a con artist. I wonder if there is legal recourse you can take to get some of your money back if this guy was intentionally leading you on to get financial favors from you. $1400 is no small sum of money! But being the asshole he is, he probably wouldn't pay even with a court order against him. You don't love him, you love the fantasy you believed was him. Embrace reality and move on! Don't forget to enjoy your life, and don't date guys who need financial help. If they can't get their shit together enough to take care of themselves, you're going to be miserable.
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scottavery I am financially stable and have been seeing salsa for almost a year...WHILE she was seeing DUMB ASS (u know who I am salsa) and YOU LIED TO ME ALL THAT TIME!!!!!!! I paid for your internet when you said you were done with men and then I find you on match.com looking while you told me you weren't!!! I paid your car payment...i paid your dentist..i...i gave you food money to feed the kids and all the while you said you were not looking for a relationship AND You WERE LOOKING ON MATCH.COM!!!!!! b I t c h - More than a year ago

beast69e
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beast69e      When: More than a year ago
I don't even need to read the whole thing, you got played - that's it plain and simple. It happens to a lot of people. What you do is stop talking to him and move on. It's very significant to do this for your emotional status.
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HeyDudes You know what that's really mean! how old are you? ;-) kidding! - More than a year ago
 

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Anonymous User      When: 11 months ago
im in same poss babe I can't let him go either :(
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HeyDudes      When: More than a year ago
This is what you should do, ready? Move On girl! He's not worth it! I know you want him back, I've been there, done that! I know it's hard But, just do it. Ok, no more wasting your time think about this guy! This is what you need to do move on there's alot of fish in the sea. Find your fish.
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teraluna      When: More than a year ago
You started off by saying how wonderful he treated you....Only to have cheated on you...And his girlfried with you. Got you to pay for things that you should not have paid....Get over it by focusing on the negative things he did..
Make a list of pro/con about the relationship and of who he is.... The "con"s will be longer...Remind yourself of this. You're in love with a man who is not worthy of who you are.
Many people continue to love someone because they are in love with "love". You have to mourn the loss....Work on yourself. Pamper and delight your senses.
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marisa
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marisa      When: More than a year ago
Sounds like to me that you need to care about yourself as much as you do this loser guy and only then can you really get over him and move on to someone who will treat you better. But if you don't demand that respect and know that you deserve a better man, it's impossible to attract one. Get mad at this guy, that'll help you get over him. He's a total player, jerk, sack of shi*. How dare he mess with you that way? How dare he uses you, lie to you and expect so much for nothing? Think along those lines and stop thinking, "Oh, he's so cute" or "Oh, I remember when we ...." Be grateful that some poor girl is stuck with this lying, cheating jerk and you can find someone who gives you the love that you deserve. You're a better person than him. Replace every thought about him with, "I'm a much better person and way better off" or something like that. Good luck!
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scottavery I know this girl that got F'd over and she plays men the way he plays her.....F her!! - More than a year ago
Miamorcito I had a boyfriend that claimed to love me and want a baby with me. THEN he moves in with this other lady, tells me to only call during the day, says he still loves me and wants to be with me one day, wtf? I am letting go of this cheating jerk! - 2 months ago
 
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