Am I Trying Too Hard To get her back?

Three main things I do not see in this article: the mention of your feelings beyond how you react to hurting hers, the mention of where you want from the relationship to go, and what she brings to the relationship at this point besides material needs.

By this I mean that you don't mention if you love her or how strong you feel towards her besides the want to avoid causing hurt to her, regret of hurting her before, and the hint at dependence you two share. You only mention the overall negative feelings of being disrespected (at least that is what I classify her treatment/your reaction as) and her negative feelings : depression, bipolar, coldness.

Feeding from this, you say she wants marriage, but do you want to marry her? Do you want to keep making this work?

Lastly, she seems to be a source of some connection, else you wouldn't be trying to get her back, but seemingly all she brings is problems, an ear, and material back up. No mention of stability, loyalty, dedication, love, respect, compassion, or anything else that makes most relationships work.

Basically I think the question isn't whether or not you are trying too hard, but if you find her worth trying for anymore. If she means something to you beyond a basic relationship, than I would say no amount of trying is too much until you cross the line where it is becoming a detriment to you; you are the only one that can define that line. No amount of love can hold everything together. Sometimes it is just healthier to be apart. But if you don't love her, or can't muster the want for all the drama than yes you are trying too hard simply because you are trying to hold on to something for the sake of holding onto it a little longer, instead of keeping it. Too much effort for too little output.

Think about what you want, what you have got so far, what you hope to get, and if you realistically think she will be able to give it back to you anytime soon. Just because she acts like a new person doesn't mean all your old relationship problems disappeared. You broke up for a reason (arguments are apart of it) and that reason was because you guys had too many differences to make it work. That is the problem that will likely return without a lot of work from both of you, and it doesn't sound like she wants to put in that work. In the end it is up to you because you know both her and yourself best. Is this an exercise in futility? If it is, is it still important enough for you to invest your time in because it is something "you feel you have to do"? Or, if it is not, and there is indeed a chance for a relationship, is it one you even want in the future?

shes all over the place, the way you describe it. she let you stay for a week, then said she wants to take it slow, then said she wants to get married? I've heard bi-polar is a difficult disorder to deal with. I would take it very slow if I were you.

How do you know that she is ignoring you. There is a possibility that she isn't getting them or that she is just busy. Assuming things without having all the facts will get you in major trouble. I had this guy totally freak out on me when I ran into him at the bar. He hsaid he had been texting me all week to see if I wanted to come out over the weekend. I had no clue what he was talking about and let him look at my inbox. No messages from him. Turns out I have sh*tty service. But now I don't want to see him again. He assumed I blew him off and now all I see when I look at him is this freak who flipped out for no reason. All I'm saying is back off and give her some space. She said she wanted to take it slow so don't be too clingy. Call her, leave a message so that she knows you called and tried to get in touch with her, and then let her get back to you when she's get some time on her hands to talk to you. Who knows she may have intended to call you and got distracted by her kids or something. There's a million reason why she hadn't goteen back to you yet that have nothing to do with her ignoring you. Don't assume the worse.

Bi-Polar is hard and confusing because it's hard to pin someone down to their hurtful actions. Honestly, she's probably just trying to keep it together and that's why she's ignoring you...she could also be off of her medication and having episodes.

Here's your question, can you deal with her behavior for the remainder of your life? Her condition is not going to go away. It will get better with meds, but will always be there. Do you want to continue taking responsibility for her as well as her children.

I was in a relationship with a guy that was bi-polar and it was far too difficult and time consuming. He had a great career, a beautiful mansion, and loved Jesus...but when he was off of his meds, he was a super-holy guy who let God drive his car while he slept. LOL It's really not funny but those were the things I had to deal with along with my own baby who was a toddler. Then there was the time when he disappeared for a few days and I got a call from the psych-ward. I only could get him through that period and on his meds, but it was my choice not to continue the relationship. Another girl from my church married him and his mental disorder. Question: Do you want to marry her and her disorder? Cause if you do, then you can't continue being a jerk to her when she's off of her meds, or just acting crazy in general. It takes a special person, are you that person? KRL

when my boyfriend and I started to repair our relationship after about 5 months off I needed to take it slow also, so if she is anything like me, her reason for wanting to take it slow may be because she is scared of having her heart broken again. especially if she suffers from depression, having your heart broken can be a lot to deal with. I think that by you continuing to call her and text her, it shows that you are serious about her, and miss her a lot. for me, it would prove to me that maybe I want get hurt this time. as long as you didn't break up for anything incredibly serious, then I think you should keep doing whatever you feel you have to. if you miss her and want to talk to her, call her. I would hate to find out that my boyfriend wanted to talk to me, but decided he would play it cool and let me call him. a girl needs to know that she is being thought about :) because guys rarely tell us that they think about through out the day, we have to read into things, like the amount of times they call or text. clearly I'm starving for a little attention from my guy lol

I think you need to take a step back and leave her alone for a while. As hard as it might be you need to act like you DON'T want her back. Cause women want what they can't have. And at this point she knows she can have you. So, make her think otherwise.