Why do ex-boyfriends have to be such jerks? PLEASE HELPPPPPP MEE

so what.

I agree with the others, that was a compliment, not creepy. BUT, if it does creep you out I suggest you talk to him and tell him. If he really likes you he will respect you and how it makes you feel and won't do it again :)

Btw I love your username, I've had 'when it rains' by the eli young band in my head for days lol.

As a guy I have to say I am a little perplexed at your post. I understand how a comment like that might be a bit over the top, but it clearly isn't meant to be hurtful. He is trying to be a little flattering - albeit a form of flattery that gets at sex, but an attempt at flattery nonetheless. Have you tried openly speaking with him about how that type of advance makes you uncomfortable? Sometimes creepyness like that can be redirected with playfulness (example response: "annnnnd, the reason you don't see me in a bikini is BECAUSE you say things like that! Try again!" or sincere and candid expression of feelings (example response: "Sorry... that comment made me a little uncomfortable).

I guess I am wondering more about your history and what led to your break up. The information you have given really doesn't describe the situation in any detail at all. How is he hurtful? What happened?

The question that you need to ask yourself in a post relationship is this: What went wrong? How did I contribute to what went wrong (this is hard, but you must be brutally honest with yourself)? What did my partner do to contribute to what went wrong? acknowledging those three things are the biggest steps towards a better tomorrow, because you can LEARN from them. Even if all you learned was that you have specific needs in a relationship that weren't met, you have bettered yourself for the next time around (although I say take this last comment with a grain of salt, you have to know what it is that you bring to the table in a partnership too).

As for moving on. I suggest a little no contact to think about the above questions. See how you feel after seriously mulling it for a while. It is not easy, and you will be tempted to make calls and speak. Try your best not too. After a little while (don't pre-determine time) you may feel as though you are reaching an understanding with yourself. Once you are at that point I think its best to revisit the question of moving on or engaging in conversations with your ex about what went wrong and how it can be fixed.

One last and very important thing to consider. Understand that relationships are between two INDIVIDUALS. You can go through the entire process of figuring your own self out and come back to a person and try to fix what went wrong, but that isn't enough to fix a relationship. It takes two individuals, and his own self reflection and expression may or may not be what you are looking for.

GUYS/males are VISUAL creatures
girls/WOMEN are emotional creatures...

yes I would say bikini too if you owned one...

If he is saying things you don't like tell him to stop and block his aim if he doesn't. But also keep in mind what you're saying. If you don't want him commenting on your nearly naked body than don't mention your nearly naked body in conversation. Obviously, he was attracted to you, and thus likes the image if you guys have dated before and he probably meant it as a compliment. It would creepier and out of place if he just said that out of the blue without your prompt.