I broke up with a girl 3 years ago....I can't forget her...help me to forget her plzzz

You are just lonely.
Ofcourse you will never find someone like her.. we are all different.
What you can do is write all the things about her you didn't like. and every time you think about her, read the bad things.. it should distract you for awhile.

I think the reason why you can't get over it is because you know you screwed up, and lost a really good girl. The only thing you can do is learn from your mistake and go out again. Enjoy the single life... meet girls... and do whatever single guys do.

Just remember when you meet a nice girl... don't cheat on her, or do anything related to cheating...

i think you need to find yourself a ladyy..nd I dnt mean her lol and about the dreams...ur just being way too hard on yourself..

awhhhh :/ well have you ever tried contacting her? maybe she feels the same, but she's more hurt and brittle with you because of whatyou did. But, you know its your fault so youcant balme her for being like that, wouldn't you be angry with her if she did that to you? but I say try talking to her.

its said that the best way to get over a relation is to get into one. and I think that's all you need now. a relation. go out, get to know people, make friends. and you know the vital point? don't keep comparing everyone you meet on the way with the girl you lost. cause if you do that, you will try to search for her in the other people. and you won't ever get that. and since she is gonna be different from your ex, there is a high possibility of your going a long way with her! :)
so buck up and hit the streets! all the very best..

I think you should just forget her, realize that this was for the best for both of you:)

I deam of something I lost too. its normal. you just miss the feeling she brought. you have lernt from your mistake and now you need to move on. and from your picture you look very cute and you shouldnt have a hard time. just find a good girl who you can make happy and will make you happy. and till then find something you love doing, like writing or rockclimbing.

AHA! you're the guy who was pretending to be a girl the other day! you had a question with a link of THIS VERY profile pic and you said it was your crush and asked what we all thought of "him"!
hahaha! I knew it! caught ya!

dude lol don't worry bout her plenty more girls out there to shower with ha

If there was a simple answer to this question, don't you think everyone would get over the ones they loved and lost? The only cure to a broken heart is time. If you're absolutely sure that you can't get her back, then there really isn't anything you can do. Time heals wounds. It's not a fun thing to hear, but it's the truth.

It means something more.
Face it! you broke up with her.. but deep in your heart now. you are realizing that you love her. if you want to get over her. even if you still having feelings here are some..
1) do things that you love doing.
2) occupy your self
3) listen to music
4) find a new hobby

But the best thing to do, is try to contact her and tell her how you feel.

This happened to me also... When I broke up with my ex I was with him 3 years... took me a very long time... it does get easier... What I found to help is to keep busy... I had to pack all of my memories away which was the HARDEST thing to do... and it has been 2 years since the break-up and still I find moments when I think about it... especially anniversaries... birthdays...etc... also... talk... talk to friends... family... my sister was the one who gave me an ear every single time... and also do NOT hang on to the GREAT MEMORIES... they are the ones that will only hurt you... you need to remember what was wrong... what tore the relationship apart... why you two are no longer one... that is what will begin your healing... after all of that... it will begin to get easier... also... you need to FOCUS ON YOU... LOVE YOU... RELEARN YOU... AND SPOIL YOU... MOST OF ALL... HAVE A DAY FOR YOU EVERY WEEK WHERE YOU DO SOMETHING YOU LOVE... hope this helps... GOOD LUCK!

Let go, because it's your fault you screwed up a good thing. Even if it's a friendly scrub with another girl, DON'T FUCKING DO IT.

well, why did you take a shower with some other girl? I'm sorry but I totally would leave as well if I were her-what would I think? what am I supposed to think? I'm sorry. she's probably crying 100 times more than you.
when my ex boyfriend hurt me, he was worse than you, I cried till I went through depression and went through a dark period; the best thing for you-leave her be, you've begged and whether or not it was sincere, I'm not sure. but I belive you're an adult and you didn't have the common sense to think about having a shower with another girl and what it implies? come on. honestly. I'm sorry if I come off as harsh,i don't know what to say.
i hate my ex boyfriend to this day, till the day I die.

You're not gonna get over her until you find someone that you care about more then her. Sorry to say. You're still young have fun with your life while you can if it's meant to be then you will be but get all that other stuff out of your system now while you're single so you don't hurt someone else like that.

you'll find someone better and that will be all it takes.

You need to fall for someone better then her.. It's the only way. The same thing happened to me, and it took 4 years until I started accepting dating again and I fell in love and now we've been together for 5, so I'm glad I made that decision(: Good luck, it takes a lot of courage

Are you still in contact with her? If so, please stop right now!
If you're not even in contact with her, you're in love with who you THINK she is... your in love with the perfect person which you attached to her. You either need to realize that by yourself or talk to her and finally realize that "Oh, she's soo not like that" Believe me, I know from experience!

Now, meet new people, get out of the house, talk to different people and forget about her! You're so much better than that! :)
Good Luck, you can do it!

When we cannot get over someone, especially this long after a breakup, it is because we have turned them into an idealized version of who they really are. It is this ideal or perfect vision that we fixate on. When we take time to actually remember the bad as well as the good, we stand a chance of moving on. You say you broke up with her. There must have been a reason. Maybe you have forgotten it after all this time or maybe you are lonely and unhappy with how dating since her has turned out. We've all been there.

Take time to get back into touch with what it was really like being with her. No one is perfect, certainly she did things that did not work for you. You have to remember the entire person she was and then seriously consider if that is who you wish you were with. If you still can only think of good things and cannot consider the difficult parts of your relationship, then take time to think about why you are holding on to this ideal. At times of great stress we can often turn to fantasy to help us escape, including "remembering" a time from the past we think was the best even if realistically it had its flaws.

If you still have contact with her, cut it all... and try to meet new people.

you broke up with her ...there must be a reason so try to remember it I know, you miss enough to blame your self for everything right now but, you have to get your mind clear there are a lot of ways for you to do that.

my story isn't that diffirent , a month ago I took myself away to a new place beause staying in the old place was gonna be very wrong if I stayed there I would have met him everyday and I would have gone mad by now so remember you made the right choice and that you were aiming for the right direction when you dumped her just think of the bad things you would be experiencing if you were with her don't think of her good qualities anymore.

instead of thinking of her 24 /7 do something great for yourself ,pamper yourself life`s too short to spend it thinking with some girl you dumped ...so find a new activity maybe oneday you`ll bump into mrs right you know you`re not gonna find her if you stay in your place dreaming about the girl you DUMPED you deserve better.

focus on you noone else you`ll find some abilities you knew nothing about when you were with her.


wish you the best , goodluck

I just got over my ex (dated for 6 years)... Broke up 4 years ago because he hit me. I fell in love with a new amazing man. B4 this I did some dating and everything lasted a very short amount of time (6 mo max) my ex was always on my mind, I wanted him back so bad. I still think about him and will always have a place in my heart for him but I'm happy where I am and who I am with.

they say it takes half the time you dated to get over someone
and
you never really get over your love until you find a new one.

dont go out looking for that "love" but know ur not the only one in the boat

lots of booze

maby you don't want to 4get her..
you got a girlfriend?
if you broke up with reasons that you guys can't be friends...
then its bad..
try being friends with her..
always helps.. and less stress
wishing the best 4 her.ya know

Dude, first of all FORGIVE your self. Guilt does not help. We all make mistakes, just
if you think about cheating again, be aware of the consequences.

Second, ask yourself if she broke up with you only because you cheated,
or if there were other substantial problems in the relationship.

Now, if still decide to go ahead with the girl, ask your self what it is that you want.

Problems compound with time, and instead of WASTING your time thinking
about her, instead think about what you could do NOT to get her back BUT to slowly
reconnect with her.

If you have tried already, you have to give up. It is very simple.

Recap: Forgive yourself, Think about what you want from this girl,
Express what you want to her and Respect what she wants...
you have to act, but before you do it, THINK carefully and leave emotions aside, at least
the bad ones.

Dude, that sucks, I admire your honesty. The best thing at this point would be to not dwell on her, but when she enters your mind, don't shove it away. You will probably never have a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship with her again (I am not saying it's impossible) so do not spend too much time wishing you had her back. If you like music, listen to your favorite type/band. Spend time on your hobby, or pick up a hobby if you do not currently have one. I find guidance in the Bible, you could find advice in the Qur'an. Prayer is therapeutic, you might also consider taking walks. There is nothing dishonorable about crying, in private it is a way to vent your emotions. A mistake I make frequently is not to allow my feelings to escape and I become depressed form doing so. Once again, I admire you for being straightforward and honest.

You need to starting dating another girl. That's the only way you can really forget about her

Stop being a p**** and go out and find yourself a new person. You made a mistake, well it cost you big Dr. Dipsh*t, so don't shower with a women when you have a girlfriend. They tend to get a little p*ssed about that for good reason.

I don't really feel sorry for you because you didn't really give a damn about little miss love of your life when you were playing rubber duck with a different woman. My only advice is to get up dust yourself off and learn from your stupidity. Crying snot bubbles is not going to change anything.

Now the dream thing I get. I have a girlfriend from yesteryear who pays me a visit whilst counting sheep every once in a while and it kinda freaks me out. I don't want to have anything to do with her, but maybe my brain is telling me I have unfinished business there or something. I don't know and I really don't care. I have more pressing matters than evaluating my dreams.

So bottom line: move on or stay where you are and have fun as the master of misery, It's your life, waste it as you will or do something different. It's all up to you. - j

when I think of something that I think I shouldn't have done or regret something. I tell myself hind sight's 20/20, and there's nothin I can do about it. also remember that time heals all wounds. I always get through pain by thinking about this, mental and physical. if she was the girl you were ment to be with she wouldn't be living on another continent.

John 16:33 "In this world ye shall have tribulation, but be of good cheer, for I have overcome the world."

when I think of something that I think I shouldn't have done or regret something. I tell myself hind sight's 20/20, and there's nothin I can do about it. also remember that time heals all wounds. I always get through pain by thinking about this, mental and physical. in 10 years you probably will look back on this and think well that wasn't so bad

what so good about her?

Do what I did - f*** someone. You have the idea in your head that you'll find no one better than her and you compare every girl you meet to her. STOP. It's such a waste of energy. Everytime you come back to this page, you're hoping there might be some great advice but it's on your shoulders, man. Fuck her, it's been three years. Well, no, not literally - don't do that. Really, hit the nearest club, start gropping after a few drinks and you're back in the game. Keep your head up, you're young.

Forgetting about her I don’t think is the right approach. The best way to get over her is threw acceptance.

I was in a relationship for 3 years, with a childhood friend, and I fell for her hard. She wound up cheating which was the reason for our separation, but because we grew up together and shared friends I was not able to avoid running into her and I couldn't help myself but speak to her when she was there. Even though she cheated I still felt she was one of the very few people I could talk to on an emotional level.

I wound up actually moving to another city to put some distance between us and slowly we drifted apart. It's been 2 years sense I found out she was cheating but I still think about her. Not 24 hours a day or even every day, but the memories of her still come to the front of my mind every once and awhile. I know I'll never forget her and I no longer try.

I've accepted that… yes, she was one of the few women I've been with who fit me perfectly (putting aside loyalty) but I realized that I would never be able to maintain any type of relationship with her.

We still speak from time to time, I run into her sometimes when I try to keep in touch with old friends, but I’ve accepted her for who she is. An old love who has drifted away and I have no intentions of ever being in any kind of relationship with her aside from an acquaintance.

I had to stop contact for around a year before I was able to accept what stood between her and me, but afterwards when acceptance was achieved, I felt good about it. I took some hard lessons from the relationship but in the end came out a better person because of it.

I now have no animosity towards her and there are no awkward moments when I run into her accidentally. I’m over her.

My advice to you is put some space between the two of you until you have accepted her for who she was/is, an old lover. See other women! Very important if you ever want to stop thinking about the “what ifs” in your past relationship… other then that there’s nothing left to do. You will move on when your ready.

3 years is a long time but I know why its taking so long, because you have got yourself into a perpetual rut.
You have obsessed about it for so long that your finding it harder to let go as time goes on.

It won't be easy because its now a habit, you need to find some way to move on and as already suggested that may be to find a new relationship and I will add just enjoy yourself.
Do more things that add fun to your life, the more you sit at home obsessing the harder it gets.
It's the same when someone loses someone (death), if you obsess about it you can't let go.
You both broke up, I am guessing she dumped you, but whatever the case it wasn't working and wasn't a 2 way love thing clearly.
This means should you have not broken up you would have both seen the relationship differently, she will have grown cold to you and might even have been willing to cheat on you because she just didn't want you.
Also you are forgetting that at this point 3 years later, because it wasn't meant to be, YOU may be at the point of actually regretting being with her.
All in all you have bottled up lots of unnecessary tears over this girl when in fact you should be forgetting her and moving on, the more you obsess and bottle up them tears the more of a burden it becomes and harder to lose.
Cut yourself free now, she is gone, big deal you liked her then, things WILL have gotten out of hand and ended disastrously, get out there, get dating and get over her once and for all, stop letting your obsession drag you down any longer.
Good luck and go get 'em.

Nothing anyone suggested to me has really helped me get over my first gf, I even had another relationship after, I'm not so sure there is anything that will help me get over or forget about her, she was the only person to ever make me truly happy and I miss her to death. So the only thing I might suggest is if she's not in a relationship maybe try talking to her, because who knows, maybe you can't stop thinking about her, because she's the one for you... just a thought even if I'm wrong. Sorry I couldn't offer better advice, best of luck to you.

I agree u04ajf3; The way you phrased it seamed a bit off. Either way.
Breakups are one of the most difficult things to get over. Many factors such as never seeing them again, Never being able to forget about the things you've done together and the everlasting empty feeling, knowing they aren't they're by your side. So believe me I understand what you're going through and it happened to me recently over the past 3-4 months.

-Walk out of your relationship, knowing that you have done all that you can do, said all that you can say, and given as much as you can give. When you feel that you did your part as best you could, but he or she didn't meet you halfway, then you will not need to torture yourself with "what-ifs".

-Sometimes it helps to listen to music that matches your feelings because you have stored up grief that needs a trigger to help you release it. But beware of wallowing. After a certain point, you're not helping yourself by going through it all again and again with the sad songs. Stephen Sondheim reminds us in his song "Into the Woods": "Into the woods and out of the woods and home before dark!" You can think of the grieving part of your process as "the woods": you may have to "go there", but you definitely shouldn't live there.

-As simple as this sounds, be clear to yourself that you are actually breaking up. Too often the thoughts of possibly being back together will creep in, distracting you from the work of healing. Such fantasizing gradually eats at you and destroys your emotional well being. Accept the truth of your situation, and commit to it.

- This one can't be repeated enough: It's a good time to try something new. Try a new hobby, a style, a sport. It'll keep you going and moving on and if your brain is circling endlessly, obsessing on the details of your pain, learning something new will interrupt the repetitive cycle. Those dusty,rusty old gears need some fresh air and polish!

- If you find yourself compulsively checking your ex's MySpace, Facebook, or any other social networking profile, help yourself out and use the Firefox extension, block site, which allows you to block the URL to that profile. Sometimes it also helps to take them off your 'Friends' list, or 'de-friend' them, at least for a while. Even if things ended on a clean slate, it can be too painful to see what the other person is up to.

Excessive alcohol or drugs ARE NOT the answer believe me I've been there. Be good to yourself and take care.
-Murphy

Stop all contact, delete her from all online messengers and websites and cell phones. Move on with your life and fill your time with friends and hobbies/interests. Repeat for a few weeks and call me in the morning.

Hello,

Il be honest I'm not sure if this is a joke or not. I don't mean that in a bad way, its just the way its been worded it doesn't seem that sincere.

It sounds to me like perhaps this has become an obsession. Its not so much the girl you are struggling with but its letting go of it yourself. You sound almost desperate that your brain cannot process this and let it go. I suspect that is the case. Try and push these thoughts out of your head, when you catch yourself thinking about it, stop yourself and occupy yourself with somthing else. It will be hard at first but will become habit after a while. It takes practice, like everything.

If it has been that long and these are everyday thoughts, and nothing else is working for you, I think it would be best to speak with someone professionally. They will be able to talk this through with you calmly and teach you how to let go of these thoughts.