I dated a guy for a month, went out 3 times and we got great chemistry and got along very well. He was very affectionate and generous. Last Saturday we had a plan to spend time movie and dinner, cuddle, etc.. I was supposed to be there at 2pm after his swimming and he called and said he got an emergency call and needs to do some medicine errand to someone ( must be a girl I suppose, my guess could be his ex girlfiend )he said he will see me later or pick me up later if I want at 4:30, I felt insecure and he might cancel me after he saw that special person who he had to see and make me wait. I told him something and he said he doesn't want to go out any more that night. It was the last time we talked. I emailed him and told him how I feel that day. On Sunday I called him and left him a message that call me back, instead he sent me a message and said he see my point of view but my approach with him is too agressive and he doesn't see us as a match. Later I sent him an email and I told him I don't think it is fair for me that he should have asked me if it is OK to meet later instead of he assuming that he needs to do something while we had a plan. I also agreed to break up which I really don't want to. I did say that I'm sorry that I didn't handle the situation better, let him do what's important to him and tell him how I feel later, I also said he owes me an apology. I said the only people I put up is his kids and his stressful job. I wanted to see him and other person doesn't need you more than I do and they can survive on their own becuase it is not a life threat or death situation. I said I didn't feel he puts me first. I said I wanted him and wanted to be with him, 2 hours waiting like 2 million years for me. I also said that it was a silly thing hapened and I won't let it dominate other qualities those hard to find, but it is only work if we both want to. I wish him the best and said call me if he has a problem with his back again when no one is available at time. So, we ended our relatinship over a silly thing. How could he let it go easily?
I had not seen him for a week prior to our date, only talking twice Tuesday and WedNESDAY. He called me most the time cause we are both busy with work and kids. I think I am a good girlfriend in general but I should be more in control and be calm.
My question is if there is still a chance for us to reconcile? We hit it off and when we were together we never wanted to miss a chance to locked our lips together, he held my hands, made reservation, planning our dates and a gentleman. It was lust but the chemistry was awesome.
It is not easy to find someone you can have great chemistry, is there anything I can do to take him back? I did agree with him to let it go in my email. He is 57, 6'4 and I'm 47, 5'1 ( he's crazy about petite women) he is out of town. I look very young and good for my age, he gave me many compliments ( What a woman) and I am a very affectionate woman. Thanks.
All that would freak me out and have me running too. You only dated for a month and you think you need him? You don't and you shouldn't come across like that to new boyfriends. I don't think you can get him back, sorry.
(Age:Over 45)
When: More than a year ago
(Age:30 to 35)
When: More than a year ago
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