Does She Have A New Boyfriend ... ALREADY?!?

well like you said it's really not of your business. and so what if she does? Is it going to help you heal faster? Your just going to feel more worse because you know she is with someone else and not with you.

I know how you feel me and my boyfriend broke up for a while too but I'd say it's best just to assume and move on.

unless you really want to get back with her. why hold on? why know? It's only going to just make it more painful and trust me When I found out my other ex had a girlfriend I'd always wish that they break up and sometimes I'd wish misery on them because I myself isn't feeling to happy.

but as for advice do you know any of her friends? you can ask them.
maybe she hasn't moved on maybe she's in the process of healing but maybe her healing is doing things her way? .. ...there can be may reasons but if you know people she knows you can always ask them? ..
what sort of red flags if you don't mind me asking?
and for her to not want to talk to you-It's just a way for her to heal. ..

maybe the reason she wanted to break up was because she liked someone else and she didn't want to make you feel bad or like someone else was better for her than you.
or she's just flirting with every guy to get you jealous. I'm not embarased to say that's what I do sometimes...even if I broke up with the guy I wouldn't mind showing him that guys want me.
hope I heeelpd

Hey.. well honestly I think that you are holding on to hope of getting back with her. Realistically it should not matter to you what she is doing now, or what ulterior motives she had for breaking up with you. The point is, you need to move on. What if she's not dating anyone?.. You;re going to have that much more of a reason to not let her go. Honestly as harsh as this sounds.. "out of sight and out of mind". Remove all things that remind you of her, delete her off msn.. everything.. it is CRITICAL that you just block her out of your life for the time being. It's impossible to get over someone when you are always bombarded by their MySpace. DELETE DELETE DELETE! Unfortunately time is the thing that's going to heal your heart, but in the mean time, take this time to work out hardcore and look the best you've ever looked.. trust me.. as soon as you start getting attention from other girls, you're going to realize it;s going to be ok. So.. get buff and keep busy and before you know it.. your confidence is going to go up, and your ex is going to be the last thing you're worrying about ;)

You need to let this go. Telling someone that you just want to be alone when you break up is just one of many ways of trying to break up without making it more painful than it already is.

So what if she had told you the truth, "I don't love you anymore", or "I am no longer attracted to you", would that really help you heal faster? No, in fact I have no doubt it would send your confidence into a tailspin. I know I would not want to hear that in a break-up.

Break-ups are painful and it takes time to heal. I went through a horrible one a year ago with my live-in boyfriend of 3 years. It was awful. He gave his reasons for the break-up but thankfully he never said that he no longer loved me or wanted me in his life. I know that is the truth for most break-ups and it was for ours, but he was not cruel enough to say that.

Just do your best to avoid trying to find out what she is up to. I can assure you it will only make you feel worse. Take care of yourself and over time you will heal.

im in the same situation but reverse. the EXACT same one actually. we broke up because I wanted to be alone. well, that was what was convenient for me to say at the time, at the time I thought it was that I wanted to single and just be on my own for a while. but then I realized the reality was that I just DIDNT want to be with him anymore. so yea, I started meeting guys pretty fast and one of them and I hit it off pretty well. me and my ex have been broken up for 2 weeks now. and all that's already happened. and I've been on a few dates with other guys too.

my ex never asked me straight up. good move. I would've gotten angry. DONT do that. especially if you want a friendship with her down the line.

i would just try to assume she is over you, so you can move on. I know it sucks, but nothing else can work without making you seem clingy...

If you want to know you should ask her straight up, if you ask her friends or anything like that she'll find out and won't appreciate it. She may have lied to you to spare your feelings, or she may have meant it at the time when she said that she wanted space but sometimes you meet someone that turns your whole world around.

If you're really worring about it or if it's bothering you, talk to her... Facebook/My Space/Bebo stalking is not a good idea!

dude your better off just letting this go...you can't live with yourself with what could have been or what you can't have ...its sorry to say but life will go on and every action or major event that changes us has a reaction of rebirth so don't worry you will find another ...good luck

This is no longer your concern.. Part of a breakup is feeling insecure, and that gets worse to see that you've been replaced. you think it may be easier as far as closure-wise to see her with a man, but in fact it will break you more than you think. do your heart a favor and just stay out of it. about 73.4% of women (again, this is a made up percentile) will lie in a breakup to "let you down easy". when a woman says she just wants to be friends, wants to be alone, wants to focus on other things, a good majority of that means' she's already met someone else, or she's just plain not interested in you, but doesn't have the balls to say it.

Don't worry about her, and go find someone that deserves you or don't go looking and live it up as a bachelor.. c'mon--you're single now! :)