How do I move on when I don't want to?

ILY & ye@h I don't know you but I was there once sweetie it'll be oky I promise

Somewhere out there, there is a girl who feels the exact same way you do. But you will never be able to find each other if you give up, commit suicide, or believe someone else is "the one." Life is what you make it. So make it better instead of throwing yourself a pity party.

hey! I somewhat understand your problem. just think how I feel. I went out with someone for three years and it's been about 4 or 5 since we broke up and I still have feelings for them. but in this case it sounds like you rele love her and she didn't treat you right I don't know y you stayed with her. but honestly killing yourself isn't the answer. maybe you should move to a different college? But u'd have to start over and everything. so the best thing that I can tell you to do is to just try and do things to get her off ur mind. but no one can help u. you gotta help yourself

Oh sweetheart, that pain you are feeling is normal. You opened your heart to someone and loved them. There is nothing wrong with the pain you are feeling. Pain is a sign something is wrong. So it would be odd if you didn't feel pain.

Everyone is going to tell you to move on. Especially since you are a man. Men in our society are not told to grieve. They are told to "get back on the horse". But the problem with that is that you never heal.

Do you know, statistically how long it takes to get over a break up? 2 times the time you were together. So for you, that means 6 months. That doesn't mean you won't have hope for six months. It means you may still have "Oh that sucks" moments till then. Maybe even after. No one can tell you that you are taking too long to heal. It's your heart. Let it heal in it's own time. Don't let anyone push you into healing. The heart will know when it's ready to move on the same way if you break a leg, the leg knows when it's ready to be walked on again.

When I met my boyfriend, he had gotten out of a 4 year relationship over 2 years before and he was still so messed up, he hadn't went on one date with one woman even though he had options to. He was so upset about her because he believed that she was the one. They had matching tattoos, they were each others first loves. And one day she was just gone. It destroyed him. And when we met, he was so destroyed that he was too afraid to pursue anything with me cause he didn't want to get hurt again. He thought she was the perfect one but when he met me he began to realize how perfect she wasn't. Some of the stories he tells me about her I cringe at. She was never there for him. She never listened to him. Or cared for him. Or adored him.

It wasn't until I showed him how he should be treated that he was able to realize he didn't have any of that in her. Now he says that he can't even believe he thought he loved her at one time compared to how he feels about me. He says that I am his angel.

I don't tell you this to be one more happy couple. I tell you this because nothing anyone could have said to him would make him think she wasn't the one. Or that she wasn't perfect. He believed she was.

But sweetie if she is so perfect why did you list all the things you did for her and not all the things she did for you?

Listen the only reason why you aren't moving on is because you're not 100% want to move on and you're only focusing on the negative side and not seeing the whole picture, this is real life, there isn't something as "there is only one person for you in the world", she didn't see what a great boyfriend she had, she lost you, it's her problem and she dosen't desreve you, so you have to focus on the positive side that the world is so big and YOU WILL find another girl that will see what a great boyfriend you are, so my best advice for you is to try to take your mind off of her, go to a trip or whatever, just take her off of your mind!

i'm quite inexperienced when it comes to boyfriends and everything, but I do know something about moving on.

don't move on because you want to. move on because you have to. it's not doing you any good moping, you know. if you're a wonderful boyfriend then it's her loss to have let you go! ^_^ right?

you deserve someone who can appreciate you for more than she did. someone who'll appreciate you for life. if you believe it's really her, the one for you, don't force it. just try to detach yourself and if she comes back to you later on and you still love her, then get together again.

Anything anybody says won't help you, unless you decide to finally step up and do something about it. For a while, I was single, because my ex boyfriend broke up with me after a 3 year relationship, and I couldn't get over him. It doesn't happen just to you, it happened to me too, and I bet it happened to millions more! I cried for days straight, I always ate and never had the energy to do anything. I slacked off at school, I didn't do my chores, I didn't pay bills on time. Everything was a mess. I acted, as your acting. I wrote on blogs and forums about my story to get advice, and everyone always said all I could do was "move on", and "find someone that's worth living for", but no answer was good enough! I would get mad at the world for not understanding me.. And just like you, I wanted to end my life. I'd go to sleep making scenarios in my head of how my death would play out. I even thought about the note that I would leave to the man that put me in such pain.. But the truth is, you really do. have. to move on. There's no better word that explains it but that. Truthfully, no one's advice ever helped me because half of them never wrote down a legit answer on what to really do. But even though I don't know, I really think you deserve to live. I wish I could meet a guy like you that would care that much about me.. I feel like everyone I meet doesn't have the same feelings for me as I have for them - But who knows? Maybe they do. I'm truly sorry about what happened with you and your ex, but try to forget. Put the past in the past, and move forward! To tell you the truth, you might even want to talk to her. Call her one day just to see what's up, or text her if you have to make your words 'just right'. Don't let her know that you're suffering without her. Don't make it obvious that you miss her, because she will just pull away more (it's a turn off, trust me). Ask her how she's doing, and how life has been with school; and just make conversation about the future, not your past. But boy, I think you have what it takes to make a girl very happy someday. I think you should focus on school, working, and seeing friends; because afterward, the right girl will come along without you even realizing it! You can't focus on relationships, or you won't get one. Don't think about it, I'm serious.

I know this response was long, but I hope I helped. I know what it feels like to be in your situation, and I know I would've wanted help, so I'm trying to give you some! Ask me anything, I'll be glad to help (:

Oh my god. Do not kill yourself seriously. I know how much it hurts. I dated a guy for THREE YEARS .. we have been broken up for about two years now, and I still think I will never ever love anybody how I love him. But you know what? Everything in life happends for a reason.There's no reason you need to mope around about a girl who doesn't care about you. Stay single and enjoy it. Don't look for another girl friend , or even look at girls. Keep to yourself and let life take its course. One day you may meet someone else, or maybe this girl will come back. You never know where your life will take you!

If you do just one thing and re-read the advice I gave you and give yourself a pat on your back for all that you have done and a job well done... keep smiling... and FOCUS... FOCUS on what it is and NOT WHAT IT WAS... KEEP SMILING... FOCUS ON THE WONDERFUL MAN THAT YOU ARE... ALL THE WOMEN OUT THERE WILL SEE THAT... BE ATTRACTED TO THAT... and you will see life change for you... FOR THE BETTER... life for you will seem to be like crap as long as you are stuck in the past... that is why you FOCUS on the here and now and begin the healing process... and focus on YOURSELF... BEGIN LOVING YOURSELF AND UNTIL THEN... UNTIL YOU LOVE THE WONDERFUL MAN YOU ARE... NO OTHER WOMAN CAN AND WILL BEGIN TO LOVE YOU... so PLEASE... PLEASE take that piece of advice and give it a try... you have came such... such a long way thus far... you can do it... I KNOW IT... and you will see how much better your life is... ALL THE BEST... YOU CAN DO IT...

You cannot move on if you don't want to. Until you can accept this situation you will be stuck in this place, feeling like crap. So, until you find a reason to want to move on, you will continue to want things to go back to the way they were and wish this girl would come back to you.

The only thing that has helped me to want to move on or get through a situation is finally just getting plain tired of feeling bad. Then I finally want to come up for air, I start accepting the situation for what it is and slowly it gets better. If you cannot do that you need to speak to someone who can help you. You are suffering from depression. This goes beyond a break-up. This is completely tied up with your self-esteem and confidence and anything in your life that has contributed to you not feeling good about yourself. You really should find a therapist so you can start working through these issues.

Though it feels like it is about this girl, the reality is you are deifying her. You have put her on a pedestal. She is a real person, with good and bad points but now all you see is sheer perfection. When we do this to another person it goes beyond what happens in the average break-up. It speaks more to you and your own issues that need to be resolved.

I know it sucks...but that is what we do. We mope and feel like eating sh*t cereal and then one day we start eating corn flakes again. Just keep venting and keep trying to do things that make you happy. Force yourself to do those things.

try and move on what else is there to do you can try to get her back but who knows there are plenty of other girls out there who are waiting for someone like you
you should walk up to her one day and act like she has no effect on you what soever she'll come to her senses eventually or maybe you'll come to yours

You have to get yourself together. No woman is worth losing your life.
She knows that you have insecurities within yourself. Maybe you haven't outright said it in conversation...But it is being stated by someone who was once suicidal.

Get some new friends. Go to the gym. It will not be easy.

First thing is first:
1) Get some counseling
2) Get a closer walk with God. It will change your life.
3) Before you entertain the thought of a relationship, make sure you
deal with the issues of your past so that they do not haunt your future.
4) You're going to be okay. Oneday you will notice her. But the hurt will be gone.

please don't end your life! I'm sure there's other reasons not to.. your friends.. that girl just didn't derserve you. have you tried talking to her about how you feel about the break up? hun you need to move on. it may seen hard now but it should get better. you'll know when the right girl comes along. I know it might seem silly taking advice from me. I'm still in high school but I've seen things like this happen not in movies but in my family and break ups hurt more then just the two that were dating/maried/engaged. and it's sort of happened to me.. I was once told that break ups get worse and it's scary to believe so.. I can't take my own advice but that doesn't mean you shouldn't. I've been told I'm great at this but when it comes to when I need help no one is there for me but myself and I just won't believe myself. well I hope you get better..

did you really love her after 3 months? Or did you just love the idea of a girlfriend. Relax and don't worry about it. You know the right one will come along soon.

:(. Oh my gosh! That is so sad. Sorry to tell you this but you need to move on... this may seem hard. And if it is eating you up inside try telling her your feelings it will make you feel better. Then you will slowly get over her. Feel better!

Honestly hun this girl doesn't deserve you! You are way too much of a guy and she doesn't appreciate it. People never appreciate a good thing when it is handed to them, and she didn't work for your affection. She felt she was so worthy of it and took advantage. Once she sees that you don't care anymore I can guarantee she'll miss the attention and all of the affection you gave her way. Do not end your life over someone like that! I felt that way at one point over a guy and went to the hospital and everything (I took a lot of pills) he was my best friend and we hung out with the same crowd and it destroyed me to see him with someone else. in the end all did was make everyone look at me like I'm a nutcase and he didn't come visit me or anything. it is not a good way to get attention it is not worth making yourself look bad or crazy over someone who isn't going to notice anyway. you are way too nice for her and in your next relationship make sure you aren't as leniant, set up some standards for yourself! you don't have to be a robot and agree with everything to get someone to like you. be your own person, have your own opinions! women like a guy with confidence (not a d***) but somebody who knows what they are worth. forget about the women for a while and do you!

First of all... You need to sit down and pat yourself on your back for a job well done! You have just sat here and told a MILLION WOMEN WHAT A WONDERFUL JOB YOU HAVE DONE AS A MAN! You need to thank GOD that she is gone and MOVE ON... it sounds horrible but it is the plain cold truth... WHY DO YOU WANT A GIRL WHO COULD NOT APPRECIATE YOU FOR THE WONDERFUL MAN THAT YOU ARE? You did NOTHING BUT GOOD FOR HER AND SHE WALKED OUT ON YOU NOT GIVING A DAMN OF YOUR FEELINGS! She wasn't even a 'FRIEND' to you let alone a 'GIRLFRIEND'! The old saying 'there are plenty of fish in the sea'... SO SO TRUE... please stop obsessing over this girl... start LOVING YOURSELF... LOVING THE WONDERFUL MAN YOU ARE... AND THE GOOD YOU HAVE INSIDE OF YOURSELF... just from reading this article I can see ALL OF YOUR EXTRODINARY QUALITIES... YOU HAVE SOOO MUCH TO OFFER... SHE DOESNT DESERVE THEM NOR YOU! STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP AND MOVE ON... GO OUT WITH FRIENDS... ALLOW YOURSELF TO MINGLE... AND HAVE A GREAT TIME... you will see... MANY MANY WOMEN WILL FIND YOU... AND ALLOW THEM A CHANCE TO SEE WHAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER... WHEN THE RIGHT ONE COMES... THEY WILL APPRECIATE YOU AND THE MAN YOU ARE... AND WILL NOT HURT YOU... STICK AROUND... US WOMEN NEED A MAN AS YOU... THERE ARE NOT PLENTY OUT THERE... AND AS FOR HER... ITS HER LOSS... DONT GIVE HER THE OPPERTUNITY OF HURTING YOU... BE HAPPY... LIFE IS TOO SHORT... ENJOY IT WHILE IT LASTS... WHEN THE RIGHT ONE COMES... SHE WILL BE LONGGGGGGG FORGOTTEN TRUST ME!

simple. does she like you back? if not, work for her attention and her admiration, perhaps ask to get back together via going out on a date and being serious with her. try doing that?

that sounds pretty sweet. I wish I had a guy who wanted me so badly he'd want to get back with me. I wish you luck and just try hard, maybe get her gift, take her out to somewhere nice and talk it over. and try not being so harsh on yourself saying your life is sucky. we all have lives, there are good and bad events-i mean, I work like 2 jobs and I have school and I am super busy, and being busy helps me take my mind off things I don't wnat ot think about.

Ok I'm actually going through pretty much the same thing you are right now. The only difference is that I work with my ex boyfriend. Here's the story: he broke up with me about two weeks ago after we had been going out for a month or so, and by this time I had fallen head over heels for him. He actually had the nerve to break up with me over a text. I was absolutely devastated and I didn't think life was gonna go on without him. I didn't get to the point of suicide because my family helped me through it, but it did cross my mind. He was the only thing that was on my mind during the day, and when I was asleep he was the ONLY thing I dreamed of. It also didn't help that we worked side by side, and he would goof off with his friends like nothing was wrong and he treated me like I didn't even exist. Then about a week later he sent me a text (he texts a lot) that said that he wanted to talk to me. Well I met him at a friend's house and we talked about how we could make things work, and he told me he missed me so much. So we got back together, and I even went as far as to have make-up sex with him (never doing that again!). Anyway the next day he told me that he didn't want a relationship and he "didn't think things through" the night before. Also he was drunk. (this was also over a text btw) So he broke my heart twice in two weeks and also used me. After this I had gotten so mad at him that I didn't really care about him anymore.
Now I really hope you don't ever have to go through this. But it was basically the only thing that got me over him. Also another thing that I have been doing to get over my ex is that I made a list of all, and I mean all, of the things I absolutely couldn't stand about him. Like that stupid shirt he wore all the time to the way he was sooo obsessed with his truck. This was kinda hard because I still had strong feelings for him, but this is the time when you have to put your mind before your heart. Try to make a list, and every time you remember a good memory you had with your ex or you see her again, just think of something on the list again and again. It helps, I promise. It's hard to love someone when you're thinking of things that hate about them. Also, you're doing good by trying to find someone else. Don't give up just yet. As much as you want to disagree there really is someone out there for you and she is going to be a billion times better than your ex. But you can't just throw your life away. Just be patient and the love of your life will find you when you least expect it. That's what happened with all of the boyfriends that I have had. And remember, there are other things out there besides girls. Right now focus on college. One girl is not worth ruining your whole future. Just have fun while you're single. LIVE IT UP! Life is too short to spend it crying over one person. I know when my boyfriend broke up with me I didn't believe this either, but I promise you will get over it.
Good Luck <3

As young as you are, is ending your life over this woman worth it? Once you die, you cannot come back. No one is worth taking your own life.
The centralized issue you have is attempting to heal and move on.How? You need to begin by putting away any reminders (i.e. Pics, love letters, cards etc.) From her. Next, when you go to school try to go a different way to class, park in a different lot and walk further if need be to avoid running into her.
Try to keep yourself busy with school work and hanging out with friends. Don't isolate yourself from the world because this will enable you to wallow and think of her. Confide in a close friend or someone who will listen. Sometimes getting your feelings out in the open helps.
Finally, if you still feel like you're making no headway, consider a counselor. There should be a counseling center at the college and it's free for students and confidential. Don't be ashamed to go either, these services are in place to help people in need.
I will tell you that I felt as depressed as you are about 4 months ago. A man completely devastated and hurt me. I never thought I would get over the pain but I am. Like this girl, he had no idea how much he hurt me. He lives his life happily and is seeing someone. Does it hurt me? Yes. But, it's over and I need to move on minus him. If I can do it so can you.

I know how you feel. I'm in the exact same position. Although the guy I was with is 400 miles away but I still think of him every second of every day. I don't know what I'm doing anymore and all I can do is live my life as best I can. but really all I do is think about him.

I have been in your position before and I know how difficult it was. I could never imagine myself with anyone else and became extremley depressed! He ended up going out with another girl 4 weeks after we broke up which was a huge blow to my ego, and made me feel like I could never meet anyone else. About a year ago, guess who contacted me, HE DID! Telling me how much he messed up etc. My point here is this. You are young and so is she. I am sure you were far more mature than her. If you are still in college, that explains a lot. I know you feel like you can't move on with your life because you miss her and want her, but you can, and you will. Those types of girls always come back. She is young and naive and one day will realize how good she had it. Trust me on that. We only live once on this earth, and you should never think about ending it because of ONE ignorant person. Ending your own life wont, stop your pain, what your doing with your life, and thoughts your thinking will stop the pain. You have power in this situation, whether you think so or not. You can not dwell on her. I know you want her but in her eyes if she saw you like this it would be the biggest turn off. From a girls perspective, we like to know guys can live without us, even if we don't admit that, seeing someone who is weak and who is dependent is a turn off. If you want any chance of getting her back you have to straighten your act up and be strong. Hold your head up high. Talk to other girls, which I know will be hard to do because you say you don't feel that same attraction, but you HAVE to. There are girls out there who are just as beautiful who would never treat you like this, EVER...the worst part is the beginning because you compare everyone to that person, you think about times you had, certain places and things will you remind you of them...but if you get out and stop focusing on her, they will soon begin to fade. She will always be in your heart somewhere, just like he is with me. But trust me, your young, you are going to meet plenty of ppl, and one day you will look back on this in shame to know how upset you got yourself.

Change your mindset first off. You begin by saying that you suck big time with women, which tells me that you are afraid of trying to date again because you are afraid that you will suck, which is apparently not true if you were such a great boyfriend. Seeing your ex every day does it suck...for everone. you are not alone. Everyone goes through this when they have a seemingly great relationship that ends. Ending your life because of it is not the answer either.

What you need to do is try new activities, go new places, see new things, basically have your own life outside of your ex. Stop comparing your life NOW with your life before. Things suck now, but they won't suck in awhile. Just give it time and you will be fine and find another special lady for you.

dont end your own life just because some girl broke up with you. maybe your friends are right, if this girl doesn't want to have anything to do with you then she isn't worth you getting all upset over. just go out and have a good time don't think about it and DEFINATELY do NOT let HER no its hurting you.
you have a few options.
1. you can cut out women all together from your life
2. you can go out on a dates with other women who find you attractive but take it no farther than that while you get your heart back together. OR
3. you can jump from girl to girl and forget your ex.
Either way you do it, just be strong, everything happens for a reason and you should NEVER want to end your life just because someone broke up with you.
GOOD LUCK! :)

You're obviously still hurting, but any updates? Have you kept contact or what? Has she contact you? All the best man.

I honestly don't know what to say. From the sounds of it, it sounds like you did all the right things (for the most part).

But perhaps there are things that you didn't mention.. that you can't see for yourself.. That turned her off? I honestly don't know.

But if you feel like you did everything right, and the woman never told you anything that bothered her about any of your habits.. Than it's not your fault completely..

You might have just been too good for her.

I'd say... move on man. She might just have her own issues. Don't waste your time on her. (:

oh, yeah... I've been THERE before...
and it sucks.
but don't worry, stick it out, you'll make it.
you may loose a couple of pounds in the process, but you'll emerge emotionally stronger than ever before and you will, on account of experience, be able to treat your next girlfriend twice as well with half the effort.
heads up.

Im sorry if I must say this but, once you truly love someone, it will never stop completely, meaning two things;
a.) you'll never get completely over her (its ok though, it'll get better)
and b.) her statement that she no longer loves you just goes on to proove that she never did (in which case I agree with cupcakk3, she did not deserve you're love, not that you can do anything about that, of course)

other than that, there's nothing I can tell you, just stick with it, and whenever you want to give up, just tell yourself one word. put force into it, say it aloud if you have to; "Strength!"

#1.. "You're the best boyfriend I ever had" --MYTH

Women are some of the worst liars sometimes.. hey men do it to.. it usually starts with "i love you." but you're not the first person she has said that to, and prob won't be the last. it simply translated into her REALLY saying "You and I have great spark, and we have great potential"

still a compliment, but don't take it for face value. Women AND men do this crap where they feel so strongly, that words can't crank it out really. and so the closest we get to expressing feelings without boning, is to use crap like "we're soulmates," "i've never met anyone like you" or anything in that pattern, and it helps crank out those emotions, even if they'll feel differently in a couple days or weeks, or however long.

#2.. "I suck big time." Here's part of the reason.. you're TOO nice, and not enough confident. women find it unattractive to see guys with low self esteem.. They prefer a good confident man. AND, believe it or not, they also go after "bad boys" ...what's the common denominator? Their fathers... the man who raised her for god knows how long, or whatever man played that role.

So a woman will seek out a bf, and the biggest chunk of the boyfriend role is that she wants to feel secure and protected. that's why you hear the ladies constantly "I only attract assholes." and even the ladies might not know it, because it's all the brains inner workings, but they are more likely to fall in love with a man who shares similar dominance traits as her father (creepy, huh?)

To put it in short, she knows she can feel secure and protected emotionally, but not physically. because she sees you can't even secure yourself.let alone protect her. I'm sure you've got a lot going... feel free to get a bit cocky.. just try it out, get yourself an ego, and be a narcissistic bastard for a week.. and see the difference in how you feel. just remember to, stay confident, BUT humble when approaching her or any other gal

#3... suicide.. seriously? dude, just... no. NOT over.. a woman

it seems to me like every one thinks that they have or had the perfect girl. if it was ment for you and her to be together you would be.

reading your story hurts so much man, as it states out how another guy has gotten hurt because of an immature mean girl that was never worth it. This is similar to what have happened with me in the past, all I've learned is that the more you give the immature girl the worse. You just need to understand what type of girls she is from the beginning, I understand quiet well that she was depending on you, she was getting everything she wanted and more, using you as much as possible and without her even asking! if it was like that then this is not a real "woman", you should never point to her as one. This is a little bit**.

Why did she say she doesn't love you anymore, simple, because she sees you everyday, and she expects you to be around every now and then, she didn't have the smallest portion of a threat when she thought about ending it up with you, and that's a huge mistake in any relationship. To keep the bit** she should know that once she starts messing around or says anything bad to you or tried to get rid of you then you'll get rid of her as well, if she wants to break up she should expect that she will lose you, not the opposite!

Thats how we push certain types of girls away especially when we are in a relationship with them, to show them that we are extremely interested, that we can't live without them, this is just wrong.

I was in your situation one time and I wanted to kill myself, I was so dumb to hold on so tight and put all hope on a "girl", just a girl! age doesn't matter 'cause some girls just don't seem to grow up no matter what age they are... I thought that I won't love any girl after her, but thankfully that experience just made me realize what are all those games about, made me realize that really love alone isn't what girls want, there is no pure girl in this world, and even if there was, you wouldn't be interested in her, not fair I know.

So, move to another college, do something immediately. give her signs that your love is fading, disappearing, believe it or not this will make her concerned about what she did, what matters to people is what their partner/ex-partner thinks not what they think themselves! and even more, a girl could get hurt just by what a guy would say about her or their relationship even if she broke up with him 10 years ago!

If you think you can handle the pain and seem strong, get yourself a good female friend, pretend like you both are in love and make your ex believe in that, even better try your best to show your ex that your new girlfriend is far better than her and you're more happy, you see her everyday but act like you don't give a damn about her anymore, just smile and look wise and tough, now this is sexy and attractive, but showing her that you're still dreaming about her and wanting her back whatever it costs is a turn off to every girl not just her. Remember, now it's all about you, we care about you not her or that false relationship you had, and remember you are a man, she is not.

NO ONE WORTH taken you'r own life. go out and meet other people stop thinking about her.
live your life because she's doing that while your wasting your time for nothing.

Count how many people can relate to you and what you're going threw. Almost everyone at one point or another will go threw the heart ache of losing that one person you feel is right for you. I spent 3 years dating my childhood best friend I had known for 8 years previous to the relationship. That’s 11 years! It took over 2 years to even begin moving on with my life, but I did, and so will you so long as you stick around.

Life sucks but at least when you've hit bottom there is only one direction left to go.

I'm probably not the guy to get relationship advice from, but I feel that I need to tell you something. Your story sounds a lot like mine. We went out for 5 months and I thought that I loved her. A couple weeks ago she broke up with me, didn't even tell me why. I was heart-broken. I thought that everything was fine. Anyways, school started again, and she looked fine. She didn't seem to be affected at all that she broke my heart. So I started crying a lot and cutting myself. I wrote a blog that I put all of my feelings into. Because I didn't let go, I didn't feel better. and a couple days ago, she sent me a letter. She found my blog and felt really bad about it. even worse than I felt. And now I feel like an asshole. Because I didn't let go, I wound up hurting both us. Just let go man. It's for the best.

You should really listen to those 2 girls that commented. They really know what they're talking about. I'm going through the same thing as you but I don't want to end my life. She's not the end of the world bro. What you need is to wait it out and then after a while ask for a certain type of closure..see if she wants to be with you again or not. Otherwise, if you keep dwelling on this you'll be stuck in a black void which is remembering the last thing she said to you. Try to do something that's life changing. Prove to her that you can move on without her. Some women see this as a personal strength and it can be attractive to know a guy can be independent and strong especially after getting out of a broken relationship. Hell you never know she might end up calling you and asking for you back or the other way around...hell it could even be both ways. Just don't stop believing but try to be strong and keep your mind, body, and soul occupied. Prove that you can be strong and a lot of doors will eventually open up for you.

get a grip on your life... you have sold yourself into a spiral of hell that you created and continue to create for yourself. STOP IT!
find the root or your own existence and stop thinking about all of the crap in your sick mind.. I mean, list all of the things you want and need to do for yourself.. and by the way .. it is not being a wimp boyfriend to some chick.. look your lost your true self in your own percieved love relationship (since she obvioulsly didn't have the same feelings for you) and that is why it fell apart.. Relationship is the ability to relate and since you offered nothing left of yourself to relate there ceased to be a relationship and that's is one reason she and many others will leave you and not find you attractive.. It is the essence of your self and self esteem that others find attractive. it is how you decide what you want and go for it.. and respect others wishes at the same time.. if she wants something other that what you want you just have to mature and respectful enough to allow that.. and be Okay with it.. your not having a gun to your head..

start doing things that you like and might want to discover on your own or with others.. get a grip and snap out of it.. before you do something really stupid and hurt yourself..

being loving is taking care of yourself and your own phyche and mental health.. getting into a mind altered love insanity about someone that chooses to not be with you is insane..

this is why a lot of truth is in the saying the best way to get over someone is a good f**K.. get out and meet people and contribute to this life.. its amazing once you get your feet wet.. and btw.. every one gets their heart broken.. its the human condition.. ask others their story.. and start to laugh with them.. be happy its up to you..

First off, get the idea of ending your life out of your head. It's not really worth it. Lets say she doesn't care how bad she hurt you and she hasn't thought about you since the break up. Is it really wroth hurting yourself for someone like that? Why would you bother for someone who treated you that way.

I'm afraid to give advice as you don't seem too stable right now, but I am being completely honest. It sounds like you were TOO lenient on her. It's normal for a boyfriend to be jealous of his girlfriend being around other guys. It's normal for that to become an issue once in a while. It's when you never stand up for yourself or always make it an issue (jealousy) is when it's a problem. In general it sounds like you did everything right. It sounds like you were a good caring boyfriend. However, you did too much and she probably felt smothered.

Have you ever heard girls like the bad boys? While it's not entirely true, there is a reason. They like the idea that other people want their boyfriend and that he doesn't NEED them to live his own life. Girls like the challenge and knowing that their boyfriend is desirable.

What you really need to do now is cut all contact and work on yourself. Find something that makes you happy and spend more time doing it. I know it's hard, I'm going through it too, but you can't keep thinking about her if all those things make you sad. Focus on the positives.

I am in the exact same situation as you too the letter. 4 months, she goes on vacation and it was all ruined. Pretty weird since the only person she called other then her parents was me, and then she up and decided she didn't feel it anymore. Girls are crazy. Me and mine have tried to be friends, but I just decided to cut her out all together. Can't say it has helped out much.