Don't know what you got till it's gone

Deep down, you have to do what makes you happy. If he isn't doing things with you to make you happy, and treating you special, then you have to find other avenues for happiness. I don't mean cheat on him, just don't make him the only thing in life that gives you pleasure!

Give it more time hun. Don't cave. Remember, this was one of the possible outcomes. Trust me, when I say I understand, I really do. Its not easy, I hope you feel better. But this really was a win/win situation if you think about it. If he seems not to care, is that really the person that you want to spend your time around? There are other guys out there that are golden and you could do much better. Time heals all wounds. Give it time and just take it one breath at a time.

Mango

Sometimes talking it out just doesn't work, so desperate times call for desperate actions. Lol
If that's what it takes for him to realize that he takes you for granted, go for it!

Well, no matter what you decide never ever make a man the only good thing and the only person in your life. Because men come and go. You always need something other than him in case it doesn't work out. He knows he can lose you. Telling him that isn't going to wake him up. Either is showing him. He has to realize it on his own. That usually happens once the breakup happens and you are no longer around.

As harsh as it sounds, I say go for it. Start adding some distance, hang out with friends more, focus on your hobbies more and he'll definitely notice the change. In that case he will either add to the distance or realize that there is a problem and try to work on it. Be prepared that even if he does attempt to fix it that he may eventually return to his unnacceptable ways after he's gotten comfortable again. A lot of men (no offense guys) tend to be a little self obsorbed, even if they aren't doing it purposely, they tend to put thier needs before thier partners. In all honesty, a little selfishness is healthy in a relationship, it leaves foundation for the "self" to develope and keep in tact all the things that make life enjoyable outside of a relationship. However, what I believe usually happens is that men can be too selfish (spending obsurd amounts of time with "the boys", playing video games, or playing guitar etc. ) and not realize that women have certain needs to be fufilled, and women tend not to be selfish enough that in turn winds up smothering a guy and denies herself of other outlets of entertainment. If a guy feels smothered, he will only pull away more. Its important to find a resonable balance.

If after time you notice that neither of you change (and yes! Both of you! It takes two to tango! ) it may be time to let go. If it comes to that, realize that youve given it your best. Sometimes its better to walk away with your heart still in tact, then to wait for it to break , try to pick up the pieces and glue it back together; It may be better to remember the "whole" it once was, then to remember it as broken, which is never quite the same.

Good Luck, I hope everything works out!
-Mango =]