Is this relationship worth all this pain?

release girlfriend..
its very akward that this broke up was in 2 days.. weird..
there could be an other girl involved.. then again..
if you have these kind of problems, its best to let go.
fixing problems should come from both sides.. and it's been 3 weeks..
some relationships sucks.. but you only get stronger from them..
try exploring other things and relationships..
to grow old with your first is great..
but some guys don't settle down with there first...
succes and be strong!
greets,
lorenzo

I don't know how old you are, but I'm going to guess from the argument the two of you had, and the fact that he had his sister play bodyguard from him, I'll say that you're pretty young.

Love is absolutly awesome when everything is going right. You want to see him, he wants to see you. You both can't stop thinking about each other. Every decision you make includes the other person. You are just happy being together. But, when things go bad, love hurts. When you love someone so much, and the other person doesn't reciprocriate those feelings, it hurts. It consumes you and sometimes you can't even function through the day.

Now, it's been three weeks and he hasn't made any contact with you at all? And when you went over there his sister said that it's not going to work because of religion? After two years, religion doesn't matter. And he's a wuss for having his sister tell you something that he should have had the balls to say himself. It's okay to feel hurt, but you also have to realize that this relationship is probably over. Don't let this get you down for too long. I know it's a cliched saying, but there are other guys out there. Guys that are better than the one you are crying for. Do you really want someone who won't even call you back, after three weeks, to say look I thought about it and I don't want to be with you. That is more than enough cool down time for that petty fight you had. He's not worth it.

Get him out of your head, go hang out with your friends. Do whatever it is you enjoy doing, and move on.

Three weeks is certainly enough time for him to cool down.
He's treating you with what's worse than contempt: disdain.
Religion here sounds like an excuse. If it's between Methodist and Lutheran it's a made-up difference. If it's between Islam and Catholicism it's a big deal.

Ted

Sounds like he tipped his sister off, so that (A) He doesn't have to be the bad guy, and just let his sister do the talking, and with that, (B), used religion as an excuse because it's an easy cop-out, and takes the blame away from him. He knows he messed up at least part of the relationship, and has lost interest, I'm afraid.. and with that being he messed up, he doesn't want anything else blamed on him specifically, so he has his sister play the religion card

Just let it be for now, and if he wants to pursue you, he will, and he will come onto you like a priest on macauly caulken. (since religion is in the subject)... guys have a funny way of doing this thing, where (most hate to admit it or don't even realize the pattern) we avoid our mates for a couple days, to a couple weeks, then we look around and meet other people... and believe it or not, we usually DO NOT make it past flirting.. we just like to know we have options. and finally, like some god-like epiphany, we decide our mates are the best thing to happen to us, or at least we know saying that will get us in the door.

so either anytime now, he'll come screaming back your way, or he's gone.. but don't hold your breath. send a personalized, WRITTEN letter to his home just to let him know you still exist, and still care, and after that, silence is golden.

I think if he is perfectly fine ignoring you for 3 weeks, he doesn't love you anymore.
Sorry. But it is THE TRUTH. Move on.

You should never involve a family member between you and your boyfriend's argument.
That is something that should stay between the two of you. It is no body elses business
but your own.
It seems to me as if his Mother and sister had a problem with you all along,
and now that you two had a big fight everyone's feelings is coming to surface now.
If he loves you just as much as you love him he will want to work something out.
But then again,
just because you love someone doesn't necessarily mean you are better WITH
the person.
If I were you I would stop calling him and give him some time...maybe he'll calm
down a little and call you back.
Also, if I were you I wouldn't wait around. I'd only wait until my heart heals because there are other fish in the sea.

So sorry that you are going through this.
Let's be honest. YES. YES, it's over.
Perhaps it's not because of what you said and the arguement and all the assumptions, but because he might have realized that there isn't enough to keep you together.
Maybe it's not religion by itself, but sometimes it takes a while, yes, 2 years, to figure out that you just are growing in different directions, and he is able to "cut the strings" easier than you are...guys sometimes see things as "black and white", not shades of grey like women...they can say "nope, she did this, she didn't do that...OK...I'm done"...whereas women tend to make exceptions and keep everyone happy...that's what we do...it's in our brains...so don't think it's YOU,...it's not.

It looks like you posted this a while ago, and I don't see that anyone has answered it, but if you are still hurting, please try to hang out around people that love and care about you, to help build back your self esteem that we all lose a little at times like this.
Try not to focus on what you did wrong, or what he said...believe me, I'm in my mid 40s and still have these battles with guys...
some things don't change, ya know? : )

Just know that as you grow and mature, and meet more people, you will meet someone who "gets you"...someone who doesn't need to verbally battle with you over stuff like this because you are more similar people.
THAT is the guy you will grow to love, because there is more of a deep connection, and you will be open to it after having these other experiences.

sweetie! You are worth too much to be going through this.. TRUE LOVES doesn't consist of little boys playing mind games with you... Been there done that! I"m going to lay it to you flat no matter if it hurts you even more then what your hurting right now! it's all for the BETTER. Get tough! I know what's it like! To love someone and everything going great... great sex,great communication,great feelings and emotions and one day it seems he doesn't want to work on it anymore... He has probably found somebody else... and that's why he wanted to escalate that small problem.. into a BREAKUP... He was looking for any reason to leave you! and now he has it! He wasn't willing to TOUGH IT OUT and work with you! becuase he honestly believes YOU ARE NOT WORTH IT! come on thing about it... that was a very small fight.. if he was a real man a REAL MAN THAT You DESERVE during the arugement he would have just tried to say sorry or not say anything to avoid anymore problems.. He is seeing someone else and that's why althoug he was at the house he didn't want to talk to you.. He is taking you for a JOKE! I know that's painful coming from your first love... but I've had quit a few experiences to know this... He KNOWS HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HIM! and is willing to take ADVANTAGE OF YOU AND PLAY YOU AS A FOOL! some men will just want to break up with you so that they can go around and have sex with many many girls then get back in a relationship with you, then break up! he is playing mind games and is not a good MAN! He is a small idoit boy that should be wearing a diaper! VIEW HIM AS ThAT! a small idoit will that should be taking a sh*t in a pamper! becuase a REAL MAN doesn't do that! You are a decent girl and your heart shows alot.. YOU ARE WORTH GOLD ! DO YOU UNDERSTAND YOU ARE WORTH GOLD. even though you love him! there are 9999.99999 cocks who out there who will at least be honest with you and say "look I'm just looking for a good time can buy you dinner,jewlery,and everything but just as friends"" then you won't ever be heartbroken again! I'm not saying do that! but I respect men who are HONEST WITH ME and don't play mind games of LOVE and bullsh*t to bang me a few times and then dump my ass... Make sense?

tell him that you really want closure from him! you want to know why he is not aswering the phone and avoiding you, but wihout the drama. once you have said all this, you make sure that he gets this message not thru anyone else but directly to this guy, and then try to focus on other stuff without thinking what is on his mind right now. you need to worry about you, and what is on your mind. if this guy thinks your worthwile enough, then shouldn't he come back eventually with answers too! just try and give him the space he needs right now to think this over, if he will...and see what happens with time! hope all turns out okay! (-:

I am really sorry that you are going through this because you do not deserve it. If he is treating you this way over your first big argument, he is a complete idiot. I know you want closure because you still care about him, it is literally like losing your best friend, it is not going to work out the way you hope. Even if it did, in the end, you will regret it. If you like country music, a similar experience happened to me, listen to Kellie Pickler's The Best Days of Your Life that is what got me through it.

you got along for two years til one day...is that the first time in two years you took up for yourself? it looks like he's done with you and not man enough to tell you himself.