I know he does want to get back together in time.

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Girl,you are running into a brick wall at a 100 miles per hour. This is bad news for you. He does not want you, can't you see that? You need all the time that you can get to find the right man in your left. Stop seeing this guy and go find the right man.

Stop having regular meetings with him. If you don't stop doing this how are you ever supposed to get together with the man.

I think it's time to break any regular contact. It's hurting you that he just wants to be friends, yet he's probably really enjoying the time together. So the benefit of your meetings (while you still enjoy his company) is kind of one sided.

I would start pulling away from regular talking and see how he reacts.

It's good that you told him how you felt. It's never the same being friends with someone after a relationship because the feelings are so strong. you posted this about a month ago...how are things now? I am going through the same thing. Only my EX doesn't contact me. He says he wants to be friends and I should keep in touch but I refuse to call him. So at least your is still showing interest by seeing you.

okay if he TOLD YOU HE DOESN"T WANT TO GET IN A RELATIONSHIP right now! then what he is REALLY trying to say is that he doesn't want to get WITH YOU! not anymore... he has had you for four years in every way possible becuase that's what a relationship consist of... don't hurt yourself more! you are worth too much to let your poor heart break again and again and again... Your not over him but he is over you! that's the cold truth.. And you seeing him is not ever going to help you get over him! even though it's going to be hard.. keep busy! go shopping start work! start school! keep yourself busy and make some NEW FRIENDS hang out with them and in time you will HEAL completely! then you can hang out with him. but right now your not in the same level... HE wants you as a friend right now... but you want him BACK in every way possible... that is just going to cause you more problems in your life.. do you want more heartbreak and pain in your life? then continue seeing him.. if you believe you are actually worth a lot and your a WONDERFUL catch then LET him go FOR NOW>> not completely! just for now...He is a confused man! doesn't know what he wants! and during that process he will hurt you again trust ME!

I agree with the guys that if it's hurting you and he's enjoying meeting up with you and having you part of his life BUT not getting back with you is one sided. I had the same experience for a year with my own ex. I finally dropped it because I couldn't take just being a friend because actually I was like you- hoping everyday he would finally say let's get back. And when I brought it up, he finally said it was ok to move on (not sure how your guy feels about that). I left him. I didn't care. I honestly still love him but that's why I don't want to be his friend because it's not like a 'friend' love, it's the love you give to a boyfriend. And if your man finds someone without you knowing because he is still single, you'll be left hurt. And I didn't want that to happen to me because we were 'friends' when we still kissed, acted like a couple, had chemistry... It's unfair. If he does want you back, it will be because you let him go and he has to realize you don't want friendship, you want a relationship with him. I wouldn't wait around unless he waits around for you.

I was in a similar situation with one of my ex boyfriends. We were together for almost 2 years then we grew apart so I put an end to our relationship but he wanted to carry on seeing each other and meeting, which we did for a while but I could see that he wanted us to get back together and I didn't want that so I put an end to this so I wouldn't hurt him.

I would say for your own sake, so you don't get hurt in the end, put an end to it. OK, he may seem like he wants to get back together but how would you feel if he started seeing someone else after months of you meeting for coffee and chats? I think it would break your heart.

Distance yourself and I know it will be hard for you as you still have feelings for him but if he comes back to you and says that he's ready for a relationship again and that's what you want to then you know its meant to be =)

hope this helps

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