What's it mean if he is having a hard time getting over me?

There's no emotion he just misses sleeping with you.

This needs investigation!
If you want to resume the relationship, set some boundaries for its resumption.
If he respects the boundaries, he really wants to get back together.

If he fell out of love wouldn't he feel nothing for me or our past relationship?
You nailed it! So, when he thought it over, he may have realized that he made a mistake.

Ted

Falling out of love doesn't mean you don't care for the person. It could be he just got bored in the relationship and needed some time to really figure out if he still loved you or not. Breakups pretty much always suck for everyone involved. I wouldn't assume, even if he doesn't like you that way anymore, the he wouldn't feel anything.

It may be slightly different from guys, but a breakup changes your daily schedule. You adjust to habits, trends, and other common activities that change when you end a relationship. It takes time, and people think that they miss the person, rather than feeling odd that their habits are a bit different.

Wait it out, you'll adjust again. It's quite normal. Whatever you do, don't have breakup sex with him! You'll just get sucked back in, and all those emotions will bubble up to the surface, and make the situation REALLY messy.

Best of luck!

I had this problem. I broke up with my boyfriend because he wouldn't talk to me when I saw him in school, only outside of school. I thought it would be easy breaking up with him but I was crushed after I broke up with him because I realized even though there were a few things that I didn't like about him, there were more that I did like about him. He might have realized that he made a mistake by breaking up with you but is too embarassed to ask for you back, or he might miss having you around and just wants to be friends. Either way you should start talking to him and see where things go from there.

i personally think is crap if someone who broke up with you for that reason and now he's saying that he wants you back, wtf, move on girl...u don't need him to do this to you again and then come back begging for a 3rd chance..i'll tell you what oprah said to rihanna, he a man did it once, he'll do it again...you deserve better sweetie.

Attachment, he has in some ways depend himself upon you so although he knows he doesn't love you anymore but he is still attached to you. Don't confuse love with attachment. He cares about you still for sure but as a friend. Does he mention about getting back together? Anyway, you won't go back to him right if he asked? I really hope not because in some ways you let him know that he can be with you whenever he wants to. Don't let this happen. If he ask you back, then you should make sure that he proof to you how much he actually care and love you the way you are.

Well first off, my guess is this, I may be wrong I may be right:

I think when he said he "fell out of love with you" was his excuse to break up so he could be or sleep with someone else.

And now, maybe the grass isn't so green on the other side, and he's trying to keep you there dangling from a string until things with the other girl completely fall through, so there's room for him to come running back to you with open arms...

Do not let him degrade you in that way. Find someone else that will never do those things to you.There's a million other guys in this world that will do all the great things he did for you, plus without all the bad, you deserve to be someones princess, not the beer wench in the corner picking up all the sloppy ends.

I did the same thing recently. I divorced my ex husband because I know due to certain differences/issues we are not going to last in the long run. So I did not want to drag it out and make both of us miserable. However, even though I was the one who left him, this does not mean I do not care about him. I care about him deeply and I am having a hard time getting over him because we were together for a long time. Good times and memories were shared. I am more rational than emotional. Of course, my situation is more extreme.

Your boyfriend sounds a bit immature. Relationships are hard and take work. They are not fairy tales where you love each other to death and live happily ever after. At certain points of the relationships, you will feel like you fall out of love and think to yourself "what was I thinking". However, it is up to both of you to manage intimacy and love of that relationship.

On a random note, (not talking about you) I think most people these days prefer to be in "casual" relationships or "ANY" relationships because they are insecure of themselves so that they rather be with someone than to be by themselves.