Once a relationship is over, do you guys ever think of your ex?

"you, the guy, have messed up a relationship and the girl leaves you, how much do you think of her afterwards? "

sure. Maybe once a year, while having a beer with close friend(s) when we're discussing all ex's. Never just to reminisce though. Every person is supposed to grow from each experience they encounter. If something is done, then let it be. Hopefully each have learned something useful.

"Would you ever fathom a 3rd chance to get back with her or just let it go because it's beyond repair?"

Neither person in a steady relationship should need to feel like there is something to 'repair'. More times than not, things just don't work out. Which makes it all the sweeter when you do find someone that's good for you.

Of coarse. We screwed up and the guilt is destroying some of us. We want what's best and after its too late we find our selves realizing what we lost. Its the worst case in our heads because we prob had something good.

If there are any girls I've known but don't think about, well I wouldn't be able to enumerate them. I think about 100% of the girls I think about.

Sorry I'm being obtuse.

Yes I think about every girl I've ever known who was ever attractive or interesting to me. Obviously the ones who meant the most get the most time devoted, mentally.

Yes, we think of our old loves, even many years later. Normally, we do not get back with our old loves unless we are after something like sex. Don't depend on an old love to come back, just move on.

A: Been in and am somewhat am in that kind of a circumstance right now, my life just doesn't feel right without her in it.

I'm on good terms with all my ex's. I do talk with them. I do think about them. And I have great memories of them each. I have a personal rule not to get back together with anyone after breaking up. There is one person who I might make the exception for assuming she shows an out of the ordinary amount of effort to change and get back together. (I know that sounds like it's her fault. It isn't. It's mostly my fault but it is a shared problem)

I did let it go, but even now, after so many years, I've soft spot for them in my heart

I would try my hardest to get her back, but after a while of being turned down again and again by her I would quit, because you can't change a womens mind.

there's the one ex I have who I seriously hurt her feelings cause when I was with her, I wasn't over another girl. the one I felt guilty of and to this day I think of her but I don't think I want to go back to her cuase I think she deserves better than me

Out of all my exes there's only been one who I was even on speaking terms with after the breakup. And with her, yes I would have gone back in a heartbeat if I could, and it took a while to get over that. But I eventually did, and now I could never go back.

I run by a one out rule. If we break up, there's no getting back together. You better be sure what you're doing is really what you want.

I think any problems which exist and could cause a relationship to fail will become recurrent. So if my girl and I were to split for any reason, I don't think there's any going back... regardless of whether I really want to be with her or not.

Them's the rulez.

There's one ex that I would gladly go back to if I could just get her to answer a couple questions that I have.

I was with my ex for 4 1/2 years. She broke up with me, I didn't mess up at all. She's just young and immature and needs to really get her heart broken to see how good she had it with me. There isn't really a minute of the day that goes by which I don't think of her. She was the only girl I ever actually tried for, and tried to make work. She was the love of my life. I am so hurt by what she did to me, and deep down inside she's all I want. But I wouldn't take her back if she showed up at my door and wanted me again. Only way I would is if she knocked me off my feet with an apology and/or proclamation of her love.

I'm a one chance person no matter if I was at fault or her. I change cell phone numbers and block her completely out of my life. I'll think about her once in awhile but I'm not the kind of guy to go rushing back for seconds or come on, seriously, thirds (how desperate is that).

Every girl I have dated I would take back if I was single.

I believe second chances are possible. I think they are rare, but possible.

Third chances, not so much.

I think if two people can't figure things out after two attempts, there is either something wrong with one, the other, or both. And more to the point, they are not meshing well, so what would a third try get them?

More of the same.

welll personaly I think that who ever was the dumper is more likely to wonder what the other is doing. but I think the dumpee is going to get over it faster.. I guess it depends on what kind of person you are

First of all, your answer choices are kind of lame (no offense)... Therefore, you might not get the best answers from guys.