What would you do if your boy/girlfriend breaks up with you and you are still in love with him/her?

let me elaborate on my answer B: hope a little, but don't count on it. Invest your energy in moving on and healing. You will be in a better, more receptive place when someone who is able to love you comes along. And if that person you were in love with has a change of heart, you will be in a better state of mind to decide if resuming that relationship is right for you.

...and don't go boiling any bunnies!

i dated my first boyfriend 2 1/3 months before we sadly ended so

I am giving (Ex) boyfriend space because he said he wants to be with me and does love me but he can't because he's too busy with work and stuff for a relationship, so I only call him every 4 days, and try to be his friend, I already told him I wanted to be with him, so hopefully one day he may come around, because I am in love with him ( he doesn't know) ...we both love each other, I miss him so much, but there nothing I can to change his mind, all I can do is Pray that God answers my prayers.

i guess just focus on me and let them do what they want. if they like or love me then theyll talk to me or try to get back with me or if somehow life helps or somehow puts us back together, then it's meant to be

The only option you have, Deal with it. Do whatever it takes to make you feel better, go and do stuff and eventually the pain will lessen more and more until you barely notice. It sucks, but that's life.

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I chose E... I'm actually sort of doing this now anyways. I've tried to move on, new boyfriend and all, but it doesn't work. The guy I'min love with -We cut off contact for a while noq, which is easy since we're in different countries now anyways. But I dream and think about him often and count on talking to him when we see each other in the summer. As friends again... If he rejects me then, I'll drop it completely. But I still have hopes.. He has no idea that I still have feelings, but I think this way it's better.

I thought that destroying our "memories" would be the best but as I held our pictures to actually rip them up (so so cliche but still) I couldn't. Or to stop listening to our songs - can't do it. I don't know but I believe in the bits of hope I still have. :)

You can never try to convince someone to have feelings for you. Because if they did, they wouldn't be genuine... and you'd still end up miserable in the end. (I mean, who wants to know they are in a "pity" relationship?) Take some pride in yourself, and walk away. It's called a breakup because it's broken. We've all been there. It physically hurts, but you'll heal. It takes time.

Cry, eat junk food, listen to Celine Dion, shop online, adopt a cat... do whatever it takes. But never try to convince, win back, or threaten an ex into dating you again. It NEVER works. Trust me. You want something that comes naturally and doesn't require begging.

You'll find a happy relationship. Just have a little faith.

if my current boyfriend did that. it would b the end of me literally.

Well, nothing he can do what ever he want I'm not wasting my time ( not anymore) it's obviously I was alone in my feelings and he doesn't worth me telling him what I feel. Also, there is no way he's going to get back with me :)

Try to forget him/her, because they don't love you anymore, but you still love him/her, and 1 important thing: you shouldnt throw all gifts or memories which remind about him'her, it can't help, keep them and respect them, they have no faul - I see many pll after broke up, they fire or throw or try to destroy, just don't do that, keep them in some place. And take mind in rest , and keep moving to find out who is worth and loves u.

I chose E. I would talk to him and try to figure out what went wrong or what was missing in our relationship. If he is unsure of his feelings for me...or find that something did not feel right..then there is no point trying to convince him he is making a mistake - I don't want to be in a relationship where he is confused or trying to fake his love for me. I would give him time and space to figure things out and try to get my life back together again.

I vote E but it still involves giving him/her space. I would be around the places we hung out and make sure I look hot and have a hot guy flirting with me at all times. Got to give the heartbreaker something to think about. Keep a big ole smile on my face and be pleasant if ex speaks to me. Keep in touch with mutual friends and let them know you are doing great and that you have great other options beating your door down and blowing up your phone. That's just me...

C...no comment...

i chose option A, but my real choice is a combination of A and B. When my boyfriend needed time to be single because something bad I had done, I sent him a couple e-mails over a 5 month period, I sent texts telling him I loved him regularly, and I bought him a shirt online and had it mailed to his house. so I was letting him have his space, but smothering him with love at the same time =) yesterday was our 4 year anniversary and I got diamond stud earrings, so I guess I did everything right

i chose B because I can't think of a choice E...lol

but basically there's nothing else I can do if he doesn't wanna be with me, id rather us take a break if that's what it means, and let things be, it also depends on what the reasoning was behind the breakup, if he has misunderstandings, or points fingers at me, I would defend myself and talk it out let both of us explain both views, or if its just a general 'i wanna be single again' kinda thing, or related to that of some sort, then I can't really do anything, just be happy for him, and hope he might turn around...while finding my independence again and reestablishing my own life put together...

sometimes you have to lose someone in order to realize their importance in your life...and if they don't come back, or come after you when you walk away, then they weren't worth it in the first place.

I chose option E and here's my explanation; You Give him/her time and space while you try to get your life back together and re-evaluate what happened in the relationship because there was a reason for the break up. If it already got past the point of being able to try and fix it with them the communication is done. With out communication and trust why be in a relationship. If they needed to break up with you and not communicate the problem then that's their problem and you need to give them the time and space needed for them to work on their own. You both have your own issues you need to deal with being learning to be INDEPENDENT. It's about supporting and being there for each other but yet remaining independent on your own as well.

I know that you only asked for an explaination it letter "E" was chosen but I felt that there is an explainatin for either, so hope you don't mind. I chose letter "B" because to me it was the best answer. If you are still in love with the recent ex the best thing you can do is to step back and allow them to have time to think and digest their decision. I think that most people really think it over before they actually admit that they want to end the relationship but there is that few that realize just what they have done afterwards. But the reasoning behind...giving them space is the mere fact that it never helps anything if the other person stays in your face and smother any other options that they may have, then it gets upsetting and make them feel that they had surely made the correct decision of dumping you. Allow the recent ex to miss you is the key (if there is still any hope) otherwise, it's a recipe for disaster if there is no breathing room. Also, it's never a good idea to make your bad feelings known by destroying anything that you actually may have been able to salvage. Trying to convince someone that they are still in love with you is Stalking! Well, hope this helps! Love & Peace

I know people who have done option D.

No, seriously. It didn't work.

Just move on...who cares? There are so many girls out there. No need to waste your time on a whack job

I picked E because A-D seem to be the rational way with dealing with it. In your heart you want them back, but you also want them happy. I simply stand up on my own again and try to make the best of it due to the fact I don't want to cause any stress or drama.

E. Move on improve yourself and meet other people when you get them out of your system. Go out and meet other people as soon as possable. Let go of the pain and let go of the love let go of the person, be around supportive people pick it up and keep going. Love should be appreciated for the time you experienced it. It comes and goes when it pleases, just be greatful for it and prepair for when it will come again someday.

well I used to be with a bad girl, I ought to make her feel bad about something, threatening her that I might drink poison or do something to hurt myself or burn something up to stop her from going out and picking a new guy and startig datig him. what can I say, a bad girl and a worse luck of mine

LEAVE THEM ALONE. I'm sorry, you just gotta do it. Trust me, I was on the other end of this deal. Basically, my ex did a mixture of options A and D, while threatening to do C. I tried to explain to her that I wouldn't have broken up with her if I wasn't 100% sure, but she kept pursuing me. it turned to the point where she started stalking me, and I just couldn't do it anymore. I had hopes that we could be friends, but months after she started obsessing over me, I wanted nothing to do with her.

So basically, you gotta do a lesser version of C. Don't give up hope but don't make it show like you still have hope. Whoever it was broke up with you because they don't want to be around you anymore in a dating relationship, so trying to maintain what they're trying to get rid of will do no convincing whatsoever.

Does it suck? Yes
Is it reality? Yup

Option A sure as f*** doesn't work I can tell you that ... I'm doing Option B right now. Giving up trying to get them back, working on myself and hopefully they come around. If not I'll be well on my way to something new even though I still love her.

I picked E, but my answer is a little between A and B. I would talk to them a lot and then try and convince them that we're perfect for each other..i mean its really a matter of just doing it. You should never ever not try and win the person you love backs It is the worst feeling in the world. I would know lol

If they want to leave you I would try to offer counselling or trying to work things out but obviously if she's telling you... She has already made up her mind. At that point she is going to do whatever she wants and likely find a replacement weather you accept it or not. In the end she will cheat and leave you.

The answers very on the situations...Some relationships were not meant to last...And with others they could have worked out perfectly but ended do to complications (ex long distance relationships) the thing is different people will react differently to every type of break up it all depends on the person.

i've totally just been thru this and there isn't any real easy answer , I tried to talk to her about the whole thing but just couldn't get her to really open up no matter what I tried . I think I'm going to give her some space for the time being and that's sort of happening anyways as she moved back home for a bit .
i may also try and start up my own small business this winter so I'm geting my life in order if that turns out into something good . and of course I'll meet other people but I still love her alot