My boyfriend broke up with me after nearly 7 months.we got on great, even tho he was 7 years younger than me in his twenties.one minute he is saying he likes me even more and that he is mad about me and the next he is uncomfortable to take things further as how he feels about me isn't enough? he has introduced me to all his family and friends and even stayed in his home house., been to wedding and other family occasions. he said it was only after we had done all this he started to feel like this and at the time it felt right to bring me into his family and friend circle.he does work a lot and I only seen him once a week, he would say I can't wait to see you and I love seeing you...i don't get it..one minute we are organizing what we are doing in November and next he is finishing, he even bought me to a member of his family on Sunday and broke up Tuesday but said he was feeling like this then also. can anyone please tell me what they think. I thought he was as mad about me as I was with him.its like he changed over night.said he was thinking a lot recently...he even called me his significant other not so long ago and the ''missus''..he said he really fancies me and finds me attractive but that's it..and has no problem sleeping with me again..i asked him if he ever liked me and he said ''ya I did, always did''..
Update: the L word was never mentioned but when I was with him it felt right and action speaks louder. I thought I would scare him off if it was mentioned.he SAYS he has no other feelings other than serious attraction, how can this be the case
29 days ago
Update: do ya bring someone you are just ATTRACTED to home? and saying everyone wants to meet you..:/ I asked him if he was afraid of getting serious, he said no... he was afraid to tell me situation.
29 days ago
Update: there was also a lot of public displays of affection where ever we were, holdings hands, kissing me, even did that in front of his parents..! not a full on snog but pecks on the lips..all the time. he was REALLY affectionate in public all the time.
29 days ago
Because he is much younger, he may feel he needs aspirations and he needs to get his life on track before he commits. He probably thinks you are much farther ahead of him on this aspect, but I'm not sure. Thinking like that can REALLY bring about a depression in his thoughts about being with you.. "forever", but I have no doubt that he truly loves you. At least it sounds like he does... he is just a little messed up in his thinking right now. He needs something that would put everything in perspective for him. Would could that be...
That is 1 of the things that scared me was him bein younger in that sense of the aspitarions he had but I would never stop him.he told me he did have plans to work away and I just told him I wouldn't want him to go, he said he had doubts about going becus of me! its like he went in all guns blazing and its hurtful when he says he just fancies me when he gave all the positive signals and I did the same and now this. - 29 days ago
sounds to me like, even though he cared a lot about you that he wasn't ready to be really committed. You didn't really bring up marriage in the background information but I'm sure whether you talked about it or not. He thinks that is on your mind and it may not even be that he is against you being the one... just that he may be rushed into in the near future (next couple years) and he may not want that. He may have even put the blame on himself for bringing you into his circle so quickly and calling you his significant other, etc.
Guys freak out easily and as much as women over analyze situations. Guys do the same thing, keep it to ourselves, and often make the wrong assumption. My advice in almost ever relationship is to communicate... it may not always bring the result you want. But if all the cards are on the table then the right decision will always be made.
I would try and talk to him... don't be combative or overly anxious to ask a million questions. Just tell him you want to understand why he feels the way he does and sit down and talk about things that may or may have not been talked about before that could possibly cause him to think he isn't ready to take things further.
Thanks! I do agree with your view.marriage was NEVER mentioned. I was engaged before to someone else and when I got wit him I was only single 2 1/2 months but previous relationship was dead long before I finished it and I came out a better person. I am still mad about him but I don't think there is any point talking to him as he has made up his mind.I told him I feel like a fool for falling for it.He did say sorry for going so deep with the family thing but still it felt ''right '' at the time?.. - 29 days ago
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Oh and I did say I didn't want marriage and babies and he knows this and I never put any pressure on him for anything,(as you get older, you get more laid back!)..i know he was crazy about me but just done a complete 180 turn.i don't want to text him cus he will prob think I annoying him maybe and I should have more sense..Im 33!!! it was always intense when I was with him, in a good way!! god ya:) and there was also a SERIOUS attraction on both sides. I not looking for marriage just him is fine.. - 29 days ago
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