When should I contact my ex? I want him back

When he was saying how he couldn't believe that you hadn't broken up with him yet, he was pretty much already leaning towards a break up. Something also might be up with him and I would question what he was been up to. As for your end, give it two days or so and give him one call. If he answers ask if he wants to hang out or get some coffee, if he doesn't leave a message and don't call back for another few days or so. I realize this is somewhat of a game but this way it will make you look less desperate. In my opinion, I would say move on because he can't figure his sh*t out and find/wait for someone who knows they want to be with you, but that is my opinion. I wish you the best of luck.

I don't think you should COMPLETELY accommodate his needs, but be there when he needs you most. Trust me, it's tough swallowing your ego...I have plenty of experience in that. But one day he'll see all you did for him and he'll swallow his ego with ease. But of course don't pamper him forever. If he can't see that you love him, despite your best efforts, you have to be cold-blooded and leave him.

Although he may admit that he has issues he has to deal with, that could also mean he didn't want to hurt you by saying you did this and did that. Be open with him about what he dislikes and try to change. I know he'll try to change too.

Coming from a guy, girls swallowing their ego is a great thing. Letting him know how much you miss him and want him is half the battle, changing your ways just for him is the other half. I know he'll do the same for you.

Hi did everything work out or you guys are still taking it slowly? I'm in a similar situation. My guy was telling me about 'swallowing pride' and he had to do that for me and for his friends (our mutual friends) of which didn't reply to him, yet he still wants to be friends with them (some of them don't like him for breaking up with me). So I learned that if you want something to happen, you have to break down your ego and just try. It's the only way for things to actually 'move' if someone makes the effort to break the silence. I got into a fight with him again and I decided I'd have to break that silence in order for us to become friends again (I really love him and would hate to lose him as a person... at least for now unless I feel indifferent because nothing happened). It would definitely hurt and it takes a lot of risk. But sometimes you just have to take a chance... if you want to take the opportunity.

But just remember about 'accommodating' for someone else's needs--- there should be a time limit so you don't completely lose your self respect. Yes you will have to in order for something to work out but know and let him know that you can only take so much. Make sure you're not a doormat. Take it slowly and learn from your mistakes. Don't harbor him with too much problems either as I know people hate bringing back ugly mistakes which usually ends up with fights.

He already knows you love him so know that it's his turn to give himself up--- if his time limit is up, leave him because he never took the chance while you gave yourself. It's a deal between two people and he has to make the choice because you can't wait for him. It's selfish.

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Hi Marie,

I was extracting this article for you from link - it might give you some insight and idea on when to contact your ex boyfriend. Good luck!

"Win Back Your Ex — It’s Possible With The Right Timing"

Thousands of people break up all the time, and many of them feel like there is no hope of getting back together. The good news for you is that you are reading the best advice on winning back a lost love!

The first thing you need to do is stop all contact right now. Consistently keeping in contact will only serve to drive you the two of you further apart. You are probably feeling very emotional right now, and you both may even be saying things you don’t mean. This is especially true if they are the person that ended the relationship. You should give them some time to themselves, because they may not even be ready to talk to you.

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By waiting this out, you will be giving them the opportunity to reflect on the relationship and whether or not it was the right thing. You might find that they ARE ready to get back together with you, without you having to do anything additional. Unfortunately, this is not always the case, so you will need to take additional steps.

Part of this is figuring out who you are as an individual. If you spend every single waking moment thinking of your ex, it is not a healthy thing! You need to get out there, hang out with friends, and possibly even start dating again. It doesn’t matter whether you are interested in starting another long-term relationship or not; the only important thing is that you start to feel valued and have some fun again.

You should also really work on your health. This means eating healthy foods and exercising. Healthy foods will help you to feel less fatigue (something you’re probably feeling a lot of right now), and help you maintain a slimmer figure. Exercise is known to release endorphins that can improve your mood right away. This can be a lifesaver if you are feeling depressed or uneasy about the entire situation.

When the timing is right, it is a good idea to connect with them again. This is a very crucial step when you want to win back your ex, because you really can get the timing off. Connecting too early will mean those hurt feelings are still there, and your ex is will not be ready to get back together. Waiting too long can mean all the feelings of love are forgotten — or they have moved on. Since you don’t want this to happen, absorb every piece of information you can get your hands on to make everything better.