Me and my ex have been broken up since July, and I am not over him! I really want to be, I want to move on but I am stuck in this rut and can't. Here's a little back ground: Married with 2 kiddos. He broke it off with me claiming it was not working. He had another girl friend less than a week after we split. And that hurt. I still love him, I would like to be back together with him, but he has made it clear that he dose not want me. I am just hurt, and don't know what to do to get over him, and advise?
It's definitely okay that you're hurt, but it's not cool to stay there. breakups suck - there's no real way around that... but there are a couple of things that I've done that helped me out tremendously.
First, be honest with yourself about your relationship - was it good? was it bad? Try to be as objective as possible and accept whatever you decide. Then, take the good parts and choose to remember the relationship through that lens, and then realize that things are definitely not that way anymore. people and situations change constantly - the way to deal with it successfully is to accept that and move past it.
Second, after you've had some time to process things and get your head straight again, find a few things that you can improve on, and start leading yourself through those. You'll never be perfect, but you can always improve and make progress as you develop.
Odds are, as you work through these things you'll likely find a guy who will truly cherish you for who you are and will respect you. Make sure you don't fall for another guy who doesn't deserve you - you can get your guy friends to chime in on what they think if you have any question.
Thanks, this does help. Funny thing is I have kind of went though this whole thing. But 10 days ago I gave birth to his son, and all these feeling have came back up. I was so on my way to being over him, but giving birth has opened my eyes to all these feelings I have worked though, or maybe just hide them away. I don't know but I guess I have to try and get though the process again. Thank you. - 7 months ago
He doesn't deserve you. You have to be strong and realize how your relationship wasn't healthy and that being sad about the break up and trying to get him back is just wasting energy that can be used for much BETTER things. Find a new guy, one that's worth your time and treats you right.
He doesn't deserve you back please remember that. I don't know what happened in your relationship to make him come to the conclusion that it wasn't ''working'' but if it was so easy for him to walk away and have a girlfriend less then a week later... he wasn't that invested. I'm not trying to hurt you just calling it like I see it. You still love him that's a natural feeling some people never get over how they feel ... however in time I hope you can overcome those emotions and get on with your life. It sucks while your siting here worried about him he probably doesn't even know you still exist , that's guys for u. I think we may have all been there before do what you have to do to move on , just don't lose yourself in the process
Thanks! This hurt to hear but I think it's so true. I need a friend like you in my life that will be honest with me because most of my friends just tell me what I want to hear and not the truth. Thanks for your answer, it really did help. - 7 months ago
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When: 7 months ago
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