Why so mean?

she prob. wishes you were a jerk because that makes it easier. When your nice like that it makes it hard to believe she made the right decision. She is just bitter, even though she is the one who ended it. She seems like she has no clue what she wants in life.

Well, it seems to me like she still has feelings for you. It takes a pretty cold hearted person to just fall out of love after 3 years so quickly. From a girls point of view, she seems like she dosnt really respect herself, so how can she respect you? I would just stop talking to her all together. If she dosnt care, why should you? Not talking to her at all and avoiding her as much as possible will make it harder to stab you in the back. And eventually, she will see what she is doing and either feel sorry, or get bored and move on.

who cares? You had no reason to go and talk to her anyway. I hate it when men do that! As soon as we start really moving on they need to show up for what? If you don't want a relationship with her, then don't bother contacting her. After three years you guys both have history and you know that all feelings will not have subsided in that short amount of time. Hence being cold.

Arr Man I really feel for you, my Girlfriend just ditched me by text and stated dating her ex Boyfriend straigh after that! I know how you feel, lost and unsure. So many thoughts running through your head. Hold your head high its so tough. She's on the rebound maybe! is she still with him, she couldn't deal with your break up like and adult, so she had to fling herself into another mans arms... I can 100% assure you there is nothing special about her relationship with this new guy... She will realise sooner rather than later! Trust me she is hurting, she jujst carnt show it to her friends or family, it would nock her ego. When she is alone, the mind wounders and I know where her mind will go... TO YOU...

Stay in there it hurts, but time is the perfect healer

Kane

The link to her story doesn't work! Maybe she took it down?

Based on your description and comments, this sounds almost exactly like what one of my ex-gfs did. In her case, it was simple: she cheated on me and felt bad about it. She has no sense of empathy and a fairly weak connection to reality, so she made up a lot of excuses to get angry at me because it was easier than confronting the truth and realizing the consequences of her actions.

In my case, the whole situation made me lose interest in her. I have no interest in dating someone that manipulative and selfish, and I basically "fell out of love" with her. I still miss her once in a while because we dated for so long, but that will pass. It's already started happening - I think about her much less than I did just a couple of months ago, and I've started seeing someone else.

Good luck!

Treat this as a learning experience about people in general and some women in particular. She has deep problems, is manipulative, insecure and has a character disorder. If you think back calmly, you will find some patterns about her behavior and small things that you probably ignored which would have told you how it was going to end.

maaannn...i know what you mean I'm in the same situation rite now...but the worst you can do is stoop to her level...jus continue being the guy you kno you are, be honest with yourself and sincere and keep ur chin up...thats the best you can do...sooner or later things will cool down...and you won't even care anymore..its gonna be a long journey but hang in there. as they say be the bigger person but don't go out of ur way wen doing it.

Just let her go for now. Even if you still care about her, the best thing to do now is forget about her. If she figures things out and comes back then you're in power. If you keep thinking about her and she keeps being cold and unsympathetic it will hurt.

My ex has been the same way as far as not acting like the breakup bothered her. She hasn't moved on to someone else, but she's pretty cold and treats me just like "some guy". Common sense tells me though that after years of being together, she is hurting just as much . She's just doing a good job of blocking it out. And in your case trying to replace the feelings.

Keep your head high man. Things will work out whether she comes around and you can forgive her or in time you find someone new. I'm not going to tell you to move on, because that's bullsh*t and unhelpful, but please do continue living your life.