Am I a bad girlfriend? Because things never seem to go right, help!

You need to work through with things. Maybe you say really hurtful things. You know there are issues when you argue, so keep your emotions and anger in check.

Well, I personally think the most effective advice I could give is to ask you to take a real good like in the mirror (figuritively). Maybe there's nothing wrong with you. Maybe you just have a bad habit of finding the wrong guys. Men and women are like safes, very few know the right combination to the safe. Good luck. Don't hunt for the right one. He'll find you when the time is right. :-)

possibly, maybe you just have a thing for assholes.

ok, are you with the guys because they are the first guys to come along and ask you out, or have you actually had feelings for these guys? I have had a few girlfriends that were with me because I was the only guy asking and they didn't wanna be single any longer...heck, I will admit, I used to have a bad problem with that. the only way I could get myself over it was to just sit and find myself through meditation and sould searching...this took me 8 months! but when I discovered myself I found that I was looking to replace the love that I have never recieved from my parents with love from a girl, so I learned to love myself and in doing this I became a better boyfriend I was with a girl for almost a year! it felt soooooooo amazing! I was in love! hope this helps you

Maybe you are trying to pursue relationships with other people before you work on you. I waouls say that if you have been with 5 guys this year and you consider that serious then something is very wrong. You need to re-evaluate yourself and figure out exactly what it is that you want out of a relationship and strive to make those things work.

Don't just jump on a guy because you do not want to be alone.

Perhaps if you were hotter things would work out...

Stay off relationships for some time. Get your life in order and develop some new interests. Have some good female friends. That will gear you up for better relationships.

I think I know part of your problem:

One year = 12 months. 5 serious relationships / 12 months = 2.5 months per serious relationship. 2.5 months is simply not enough time to know someone well. So part of the problem might be that you get too serious, too soon -- before you really know him. So if you have a tendency to get wrapped up in relationships early, or to get sexual too soon, you might need to make a deliberate effort to move more slowly.

Another possibility is that you're not picking good guys. The goal of dating should not be to simply get a boyfriend/girlfriend. The goal should be to evaluate if a particular person is a) as nice to you as you are to them, and b) is a good long-term match. If someone is *not* a good match, you should simply say "nice to have met you" and walk away. A particular problem of young women is to overlook the obvious, and try to change a guy into something he's not.

Also, what are these "stupid" arguments about? If you have the same stupid arguments with a series of people, the common factor is *you*. So ask yourself a tough question, and be honest with the answer: why are you picking petty fights? Are you picking fights to avoid intimacy? Are you picking fights to find flaws in them? To provoke them into anger so that you don't have to take responsibility for your part in disagreements? Something else?

The maths don't add up sweetie. Five serious relationship lastnight 4-5 months each is equal to 20 to 25 months and we are only in the 10th month of the year.

I'm sure guys love you but if you're having a bad run then I suggest maybe try to be alone for a little while and discover yourself, what you really like and want.

I would say, try to pick your battles more carefully. If it something that is small and not that important, don't make it a big deal. When a girl does that to me, I feel really nagged and it gets pretty annoying. I would say stop getting into serious relationships so much; sounds like you are just hopping from one guy to the next. . .give yourself a break to grow, ponder, reflect on what you really want in a relationship. Go on a few dates here and there, but don't force anything. I am a nice guy, sometimes if a girl came on too strong, instantly I would put up a wall because it is a little weird...BUT, I would compromise the feelings of being annoyed by that and just see where it went. . .then I would find out later that I wasn't really happy with the situation and hearts would be hurt. SO, my advice is to take a break from serious relationships. Grow within yourself, think about what you want in a relationship and then when you feel like going at it again, do it. Dating is all about testing the water. You can jump into a cold pool and feel like you want to get out right away, but then get used to the temperature and stay in it for awhile. That still doesn't cover up the fact that it is a cold pool and it gets unbearable after a period of time. Same with if it is too hot... So, my pool analogy-go with it. Find something that you can get in and be comfortable with for a long time...maybe even FOREVER! haha... I ruined it..but take the advice chew it up... swallow some of it, spit out what you don't like...

Maybe you got to be more open minded, or maybe they got bored and had a fit. Its really a good question to ask. Really need to stop the dumb fights and call a truce before they get out of hand. Don't be immature and do what their doing. Relationships are based on happiness, if there's should be no stupid reasons for breaking up. Cheating, lying, stalking, or over controling are what relations need to look out for. Aswell you need to be satisfied. If he isn't satisfied he will go else where.

Anyone else doing the math and finding things don't add up? What constitutes a serious relationship to you?

The thing about the little fights is there most often the cause of a much deeper issue. Couples who fight over things like leaving the toilet seat up, not rinsing dishes, leaving the light on, and such are not really fighting about those things. Sure they may annoy but there is almost always a hidden issue behind the arguments. There is a reason you’re on edge in your relationships and until you can figure out what that reason is, your relationships are always going to end the same way.

MY opinion, not yours.
Cheers.

First of all, there is no definitive 'guys'. Everything is circumstancial and every person is different, so don't expect that this will continue to happen. Secondly, the fact that it has recurred suggests that it's either massively coincidental or you are making the same mistake again and again and not learning your lesson. Don't fight about stupid things and don't let small things get in the way of your happiness and relationships. Learn to water yourself down, while some things are worth putting up an argument for, lots of things aren't.

Your not dating the right guys for you! Try dating someone, outside your normal type!

I think your like me, your interested in them at first, but one small thing they can will turn you off about them and suddenly your pulling back! You have to find someone that you can see yourself being in the worst situation and coming over it together! If you can't than it;s just not meant to be!

Good Luck Hun!

your math doesn't add up. And really, would you want to be with someone just to be with them, or because they are right? If its the later then you have to go through a WHOLE bunch of guys to find the right one. So slow it down and have fun.

I saw your other question about whether you should get back together with an old boyfriend. You said that that relationship ended because of arguing. To me, it sounds like you need help in learning how to deal with conflict.

Everyone disagrees with their partner at some point. That is OK. It doesn't have to turn into a nasty screaming match. There are ways to argue that are healthy. By healthy, I mean that people can calmly discuss a problem, then agree on a solution. It sounds like you need to learn how to do this. I would find a counsellor to coach you.

I strongly recommend doing this because arguing and yelling at each other ruins relationships. Good luck!